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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
I'm glad you are checking into things on the internet. Don't let them
wear you down. BTW, the time required to set up an IEP meeting after a parent request is very short, so don't let time go by. Check back this week. Also, be sure to ask that the counselor, whoever is in the isolation room, etc--anyone who deals with or should be dealing with--your son be there. Also, get a statement from his pediatrician or whoever prescribed his meds, and his psychologist stating their opinion of his ability to function in a classroom, and their suggestions for modifications that will help him. IOW, go in well prepared. Tell them the modifications YOU would like--ones that would help you understand how he is doing in school behaviorally and academically--such as a star card daily, and a positive comment daily, so you can reinforce what they are doing at home. And ask for a reevaluation in 2 months, to make sure everything is going as planned by the team. If things are going well, you can always say you don't need the meeting. But, because of what you have seen so far, you'd like more frequent meetings for your son's sake. Check out a few private schools that do offer programs to help children like your son and mention that, if necessary, you will ask that he be sent to one of those schools at the school district's expense if they are unable to produce and follow an IEP that meets his specific needs. And be very careful to keep everything in writing--no oral communications without an accompanying written document. Let me know how things go! "Ronni" wrote in message .. . Thanks TM....I added some things below "TeacherMama" wrote in message m... I wasn't ignoring you, Ronni. We have had some "interesting" things going on at my school, too. First of all, the reason for an IEP is NOT for the teacher's benefit, nor for the rest of the children. Each point on the IEP is for the benefit of the CHILD. That is not to say that it is ok for him to disrupt the class--but the remedies laid out in the IEP need to specify how they are helping the child. Another point to remember is that medicine is not magic. The child does not start taking meds and turn into a perfect student. Seems like the school is stuck in the thinking of a 'miracle cure'. All of the behaviors developed before his diagnosis are still in place. The medicine merely adjusts things in his brain so he is now capable of the self-control necessary to learn the appropriate behaviors. This takes time. The teacher does not have the expertise to say whether or not medication has been taken--she is is not a doctor. She can only comment on the behavior she saw. Shame on her for speaking to you that way! I got an apology, after having another SAD discussion with the superintendent. He was also VERY ignorant, called me a liar and such. Then he called me back and apologized. He said he discussed things with my sons teacher and principal and the teacher actually admitted what happened just as I explained to him. I told him I appreciated the apology but there is still not reason for him or any other school official to talk to me or anyone the way they have. Request (or demand, if it comes down to it) another IEP meeting, That is your RIGHT. I'm waiting onthe 'return' phone call about a 'good time' for everyone. Have them clarify each point on the IEP, and how it helps *your son*. Ask exactly what in-the-classroom modifications are in place to help your child meet his IEP goals. Ask what he does in the isolation room. Ask how it furthers *his* education, and/or what is being done in that room to help him get control of his behavior issues. Sitting twiddling his thumbs is not good enough. What active instruction are they providing? As for denying the McDonalds coupon, was his being denied the coupon a stated consequence for unacceptable behavior? Or was it spur-of-the-moment just because the teacher was angry? The coupon thing was a spur of the moment. NOONE except the teacher knew that the coupons would be handed out that day. When my son saw what they were he got excited, called out something along the lines of 'dont forget me one' and therefore he didnt get one because he called out. Ask how that punishment fit into his IEP goals. It's not right to punish because of anger. The superintendent says that his IEP states exactly what they are doing. I asked if it states that when the teacher has a bad day and gets frustrated with my child then he gets treated like crap,...he told me I should watch my mouth and remember who I am talking to. Be sure to mention the incident where the child who assaulted your son was not punished. I mentioned it to the superintendent who asked the principal etc. and everyone is claiming to have no recolection of such an event. Funny huh? Make sure that your objection to this is included in the meeting notes, and get a copy of everything--immediately--don't wait until "final copies are made." (Take your own notes, too) You are creating a paper trail. From this point on, all communication should be written. Should have done that from the start. Thanks. You want to keep track of all that is said. If they are wise, they will realize what you are doing, and will pay far more careful attention to the IEP. Because they KNOW what your rights are, and the consequences for not following through. Don't let them back you down. Good luck. While getting 'reprimanded' by the superintendent in our first conversation I calmly explained everything to him (as best I could when he wasnt interupting me) When he said 'i refuse to listen to any more of this' I said 'my next step is a lawyer and the State board of Education' He then dropped his loud tone and listened. And like I said he called me back the next day and apologized. This past week I have been looking up some things on the internet, basically about where the line is drawn between my childs discipline in school, the attitude toward me (raised voices, being called a liar etc) and who to go to for help above the superintendent and I have learned something very interesting. The school was sued, quite a few years ago, over a situation with a disabled girl whose rights under IDEA were violated in some way. There werent too many details on it but it was interesting to know that there is a pattern of some sort there. Next we will have another IEP meeting but honestly, I don't expect much from them. I don't know what the next step will be, all I do know is that my son doesn't deserve the treatment he gets. I have inquired on home schooling and should be receiving and admissions packet any day now. I am not 100% doing that but I am getting the process started depending the outcome of our next meeting. Thanks for your help. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
I found out something very interesting and upsetting yesterday.
Dakota has asthma. He needs to take his inhaler 20 minutes before physical activity, therefore 20 minutes before gym class. They haven't been giving it to him. There aren't any private schools nearby but there is what is referred to as 'cyber school'. What it amounts to is home school, they provide the computer (which I obvioulsy wouldnt need since i have one) and the cirriculum. Some work is done online on the website connectionsacademy.com and some is done on paper and in books. I am waiting for more information on this. This is also funded my the school district and he is still considered part of the school district. I tried to call the principal yesterday 3 times but he seems to be very busy for some reason every time I call. And he hasn't called back. Dakotas therapist seems to think that home school (cyber school) would benefit him in more than 1 way. #1 he isn't subject to all the things that have been going on in school #2 i would be the one teaching him and helping him and he feels that would totally turn around the ODD part of his diagnosis. I haven't decided on anything yet as far as that goes. I wish I knew the parents of the other ADHD ODD children in the school but I don't know anyone around here. I am convinced that there are other children being treated badly because of 'behavioral disorders' or 'learning disorders'. Thanks for all your help and I will try to keep you updated on everything. Ronni "TeacherMama" wrote in message om... I'm glad you are checking into things on the internet. Don't let them wear you down. BTW, the time required to set up an IEP meeting after a parent request is very short, so don't let time go by. Check back this week. Also, be sure to ask that the counselor, whoever is in the isolation room, etc--anyone who deals with or should be dealing with--your son be there. Also, get a statement from his pediatrician or whoever prescribed his meds, and his psychologist stating their opinion of his ability to function in a classroom, and their suggestions for modifications that will help him. IOW, go in well prepared. Tell them the modifications YOU would like--ones that would help you understand how he is doing in school behaviorally and academically--such as a star card daily, and a positive comment daily, so you can reinforce what they are doing at home. And ask for a reevaluation in 2 months, to make sure everything is going as planned by the team. If things are going well, you can always say you don't need the meeting. But, because of what you have seen so far, you'd like more frequent meetings for your son's sake. Check out a few private schools that do offer programs to help children like your son and mention that, if necessary, you will ask that he be sent to one of those schools at the school district's expense if they are unable to produce and follow an IEP that meets his specific needs. And be very careful to keep everything in writing--no oral communications without an accompanying written document. Let me know how things go! "Ronni" wrote in message .. . Thanks TM....I added some things below "TeacherMama" wrote in message m... I wasn't ignoring you, Ronni. We have had some "interesting" things going on at my school, too. First of all, the reason for an IEP is NOT for the teacher's benefit, nor for the rest of the children. Each point on the IEP is for the benefit of the CHILD. That is not to say that it is ok for him to disrupt the class--but the remedies laid out in the IEP need to specify how they are helping the child. Another point to remember is that medicine is not magic. The child does not start taking meds and turn into a perfect student. Seems like the school is stuck in the thinking of a 'miracle cure'. All of the behaviors developed before his diagnosis are still in place. The medicine merely adjusts things in his brain so he is now capable of the self-control necessary to learn the appropriate behaviors. This takes time. The teacher does not have the expertise to say whether or not medication has been taken--she is is not a doctor. She can only comment on the behavior she saw. Shame on her for speaking to you that way! I got an apology, after having another SAD discussion with the superintendent. He was also VERY ignorant, called me a liar and such. Then he called me back and apologized. He said he discussed things with my sons teacher and principal and the teacher actually admitted what happened just as I explained to him. I told him I appreciated the apology but there is still not reason for him or any other school official to talk to me or anyone the way they have. Request (or demand, if it comes down to it) another IEP meeting, That is your RIGHT. I'm waiting onthe 'return' phone call about a 'good time' for everyone. Have them clarify each point on the IEP, and how it helps *your son*. Ask exactly what in-the-classroom modifications are in place to help your child meet his IEP goals. Ask what he does in the isolation room. Ask how it furthers *his* education, and/or what is being done in that room to help him get control of his behavior issues. Sitting twiddling his thumbs is not good enough. What active instruction are they providing? As for denying the McDonalds coupon, was his being denied the coupon a stated consequence for unacceptable behavior? Or was it spur-of-the-moment just because the teacher was angry? The coupon thing was a spur of the moment. NOONE except the teacher knew that the coupons would be handed out that day. When my son saw what they were he got excited, called out something along the lines of 'dont forget me one' and therefore he didnt get one because he called out. Ask how that punishment fit into his IEP goals. It's not right to punish because of anger. The superintendent says that his IEP states exactly what they are doing. I asked if it states that when the teacher has a bad day and gets frustrated with my child then he gets treated like crap,...he told me I should watch my mouth and remember who I am talking to. Be sure to mention the incident where the child who assaulted your son was not punished. I mentioned it to the superintendent who asked the principal etc. and everyone is claiming to have no recolection of such an event. Funny huh? Make sure that your objection to this is included in the meeting notes, and get a copy of everything--immediately--don't wait until "final copies are made." (Take your own notes, too) You are creating a paper trail. From this point on, all communication should be written. Should have done that from the start. Thanks. You want to keep track of all that is said. If they are wise, they will realize what you are doing, and will pay far more careful attention to the IEP. Because they KNOW what your rights are, and the consequences for not following through. Don't let them back you down. Good luck. While getting 'reprimanded' by the superintendent in our first conversation I calmly explained everything to him (as best I could when he wasnt interupting me) When he said 'i refuse to listen to any more of this' I said 'my next step is a lawyer and the State board of Education' He then dropped his loud tone and listened. And like I said he called me back the next day and apologized. This past week I have been looking up some things on the internet, basically about where the line is drawn between my childs discipline in school, the attitude toward me (raised voices, being called a liar etc) and who to go to for help above the superintendent and I have learned something very interesting. The school was sued, quite a few years ago, over a situation with a disabled girl whose rights under IDEA were violated in some way. There werent too many details on it but it was interesting to know that there is a pattern of some sort there. Next we will have another IEP meeting but honestly, I don't expect much from them. I don't know what the next step will be, all I do know is that my son doesn't deserve the treatment he gets. I have inquired on home schooling and should be receiving and admissions packet any day now. I am not 100% doing that but I am getting the process started depending the outcome of our next meeting. Thanks for your help. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
I found out something very interesting and upsetting yesterday.
Dakota has asthma. He needs to take his inhaler 20 minutes before physical activity, therefore 20 minutes before gym class. They haven't been giving it to him. There aren't any private schools nearby but there is what is referred to as 'cyber school'. What it amounts to is home school, they provide the computer (which I obvioulsy wouldnt need since i have one) and the cirriculum. Some work is done online on the website connectionsacademy.com and some is done on paper and in books. I am waiting for more information on this. This is also funded my the school district and he is still considered part of the school district. I tried to call the principal yesterday 3 times but he seems to be very busy for some reason every time I call. And he hasn't called back. Dakotas therapist seems to think that home school (cyber school) would benefit him in more than 1 way. #1 he isn't subject to all the things that have been going on in school #2 i would be the one teaching him and helping him and he feels that would totally turn around the ODD part of his diagnosis. I haven't decided on anything yet as far as that goes. I wish I knew the parents of the other ADHD ODD children in the school but I don't know anyone around here. I am convinced that there are other children being treated badly because of 'behavioral disorders' or 'learning disorders'. Thanks for all your help and I will try to keep you updated on everything. Ronni "TeacherMama" wrote in message om... I'm glad you are checking into things on the internet. Don't let them wear you down. BTW, the time required to set up an IEP meeting after a parent request is very short, so don't let time go by. Check back this week. Also, be sure to ask that the counselor, whoever is in the isolation room, etc--anyone who deals with or should be dealing with--your son be there. Also, get a statement from his pediatrician or whoever prescribed his meds, and his psychologist stating their opinion of his ability to function in a classroom, and their suggestions for modifications that will help him. IOW, go in well prepared. Tell them the modifications YOU would like--ones that would help you understand how he is doing in school behaviorally and academically--such as a star card daily, and a positive comment daily, so you can reinforce what they are doing at home. And ask for a reevaluation in 2 months, to make sure everything is going as planned by the team. If things are going well, you can always say you don't need the meeting. But, because of what you have seen so far, you'd like more frequent meetings for your son's sake. Check out a few private schools that do offer programs to help children like your son and mention that, if necessary, you will ask that he be sent to one of those schools at the school district's expense if they are unable to produce and follow an IEP that meets his specific needs. And be very careful to keep everything in writing--no oral communications without an accompanying written document. Let me know how things go! "Ronni" wrote in message .. . Thanks TM....I added some things below "TeacherMama" wrote in message m... I wasn't ignoring you, Ronni. We have had some "interesting" things going on at my school, too. First of all, the reason for an IEP is NOT for the teacher's benefit, nor for the rest of the children. Each point on the IEP is for the benefit of the CHILD. That is not to say that it is ok for him to disrupt the class--but the remedies laid out in the IEP need to specify how they are helping the child. Another point to remember is that medicine is not magic. The child does not start taking meds and turn into a perfect student. Seems like the school is stuck in the thinking of a 'miracle cure'. All of the behaviors developed before his diagnosis are still in place. The medicine merely adjusts things in his brain so he is now capable of the self-control necessary to learn the appropriate behaviors. This takes time. The teacher does not have the expertise to say whether or not medication has been taken--she is is not a doctor. She can only comment on the behavior she saw. Shame on her for speaking to you that way! I got an apology, after having another SAD discussion with the superintendent. He was also VERY ignorant, called me a liar and such. Then he called me back and apologized. He said he discussed things with my sons teacher and principal and the teacher actually admitted what happened just as I explained to him. I told him I appreciated the apology but there is still not reason for him or any other school official to talk to me or anyone the way they have. Request (or demand, if it comes down to it) another IEP meeting, That is your RIGHT. I'm waiting onthe 'return' phone call about a 'good time' for everyone. Have them clarify each point on the IEP, and how it helps *your son*. Ask exactly what in-the-classroom modifications are in place to help your child meet his IEP goals. Ask what he does in the isolation room. Ask how it furthers *his* education, and/or what is being done in that room to help him get control of his behavior issues. Sitting twiddling his thumbs is not good enough. What active instruction are they providing? As for denying the McDonalds coupon, was his being denied the coupon a stated consequence for unacceptable behavior? Or was it spur-of-the-moment just because the teacher was angry? The coupon thing was a spur of the moment. NOONE except the teacher knew that the coupons would be handed out that day. When my son saw what they were he got excited, called out something along the lines of 'dont forget me one' and therefore he didnt get one because he called out. Ask how that punishment fit into his IEP goals. It's not right to punish because of anger. The superintendent says that his IEP states exactly what they are doing. I asked if it states that when the teacher has a bad day and gets frustrated with my child then he gets treated like crap,...he told me I should watch my mouth and remember who I am talking to. Be sure to mention the incident where the child who assaulted your son was not punished. I mentioned it to the superintendent who asked the principal etc. and everyone is claiming to have no recolection of such an event. Funny huh? Make sure that your objection to this is included in the meeting notes, and get a copy of everything--immediately--don't wait until "final copies are made." (Take your own notes, too) You are creating a paper trail. From this point on, all communication should be written. Should have done that from the start. Thanks. You want to keep track of all that is said. If they are wise, they will realize what you are doing, and will pay far more careful attention to the IEP. Because they KNOW what your rights are, and the consequences for not following through. Don't let them back you down. Good luck. While getting 'reprimanded' by the superintendent in our first conversation I calmly explained everything to him (as best I could when he wasnt interupting me) When he said 'i refuse to listen to any more of this' I said 'my next step is a lawyer and the State board of Education' He then dropped his loud tone and listened. And like I said he called me back the next day and apologized. This past week I have been looking up some things on the internet, basically about where the line is drawn between my childs discipline in school, the attitude toward me (raised voices, being called a liar etc) and who to go to for help above the superintendent and I have learned something very interesting. The school was sued, quite a few years ago, over a situation with a disabled girl whose rights under IDEA were violated in some way. There werent too many details on it but it was interesting to know that there is a pattern of some sort there. Next we will have another IEP meeting but honestly, I don't expect much from them. I don't know what the next step will be, all I do know is that my son doesn't deserve the treatment he gets. I have inquired on home schooling and should be receiving and admissions packet any day now. I am not 100% doing that but I am getting the process started depending the outcome of our next meeting. Thanks for your help. |
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