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Father's importance no laughing matter
MSNothing wrote:
"Banty" wrote in message ... In article , MSNothing says... "Banty" wrote in message ... Well, neither one of you favor fairness for all. Banty Then what would your definition of fairness be. Abortion illegal, both parents with responsibility. Fair to all three parties. Not really. In such a situation, a baby would be given up for adoption. The unwanted kid gets the absolute worst of it. He is usually condemned to grow up in foster care, while the adults go on with their lives. The woman has to deal with the physical repurcussions of pregnancy and childbirth. The man has to deal with...nothing. His life is as it was before. Nothing has changed. If the child is relinquished for adoption, he or she will be highly unlikely to be in foster care. Foster care kids nearly always are *unrelinquished* children who are wards of the state due to having been removed from their homes. Indeed, it's hesitancy to terminate parental rights that keeps them there. If in that particular case the man gets off 'scot-free', at least the other parties have their choices and their lives. This isn't about making sure everyone is punished, at the least I don't think that is the most important thing. And no, folks aren't obliged to make the post-facto decisions that would get him out of a fix he's gotten into. Any more than they would be in any other area of life. The woman, whatever she does (abortion, adoption, childrearing), is surely impacted. I see the reasonableness of allowing the woman, having gone through pregnancy and childbirth, to be the one to make the decision to relinquish the child unilaterally. Possibly, unless the father steps forward and shows that he can and will take care of the child. There's no *perfect* solution here - it's very simply biologically different and unequal between the genders from the get go. We being mammals and all ;-) But I don't recognize any solution as reasonable that compromises greater principles just to let folks scramble post facto out of preventable situations they've gotten themselves into. And that goes for both genders. Banty |
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