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Hello!
My computer died in the worst kinda way, but I'm back! Back, with an extra babby! And, would you believe, me, the hater of mess, had a home birth! Short story is Kieran David Joseph was born at 04.16 on Dec 10th at 41 weeks gestation, weighing 8lb 15 1/2oz. He's blue eyed and beautiful!! Jessica absolutely adores him. She slept through the whole thing, and came in at 07.00, said "Hello Mummy, oh, baby boy!" http://s176.photobucket.com/albums/w176/so-lucy/Kieran/ The long story is, we're both lucky to be here, the last month was quite an ordeal. At 36 weeks, I went to the Race Circuit where my husband works, for a day out. I was finishing work that night, and looking forward to maternity leave. We had lovely day, but just before we went to leave, I developed severe chest and arm pains. I was quite convinced I was having a heart attack, and my husband drove me to the hospital. After an ECG and painkillers, they decided it was the baby lying on a nerve ( ! You wait for the rest of the story, and see why I had a home birth!!). Obviously, that was the end of work for me! Two days later, I went grocery shopping while my husband was at work and my daughter was at the childminders. I'd felt faint all morning, but when I got to the checkout, I collapsed. They called an ambulance and I went back to hospital. After radioactive stuff being jabbed in me, inhaled, bits xrayed, blood drained and drugs put in, they decided I'd had a pulmary emblolisim, caused by a DVT. That was no fun! I was in for about 10 days while it dispersed, and was on blood thinning drigs. Jessica missed me dreadfully and it was heartbreaking as I could only see her every few days. Eventually, I was discharged, and the same afternoon, I went to my consultant appt (I was under a consultant as the baby was spinning round between breech and normal at least once a day!!), but he decided I was still breathless and kept me in... At this point I think I began to lose the plot as I'd only been discharged that morning. They sent me up to the maternity unit, and after being messed around, and the same tests being ordered, I discharged myself - I knew I still wasn't well, but the obstetrics and medical teams were bouncing me round between them and not wanting to accept responsibilty, and that was keeping me in for even longer, without actually treating me. Even the midwives said I was doing the right thing by going home. I came home at 38 weeks, and asked if I could have a homebirth. The midwive agreed that I could if I stayed well. I just couldn't face going back into hospital, and it was doing my family no good whatsoever. At 39 weeks, I started to get contractions every 2 minutes, and we called the midwife out - bloody false alarm!! At 40w5d, I developed a severe migraine that left me blind. The doctor called an ambulance and I went back in... despite the ambulance, I was left in a brightly lit waiting room for 5 hours with no help, until i mananged to find a doctor and cried and begged them to let me lie down, even if they wouldn't treat me.I hoped that while I was in there they'd consider induction as I just felt so ill, and they were giving me painkillers that I worried me were going to harm the baby - they were giving me injections of pethadine and codeine, and wanted to give me morphine, but I refused it. This was the Sunday, and by the Monday night I discharged myself as I just wanted to lie in a dark room and get some sleep - something that would never happen in the hospital!! BTW, I did ask about induction, and they said it was too early?!?! I was 5 days overdue already. Bloody jobsworths! Anyway! The Monday night, DH took me to my best friend's house, so that I wouldn't have to look after Jessica alone while he was at work. I managed a really good night's sleep, which helped enormously. The Tuesday morning, it was down to a headache, and I started to feel better. I noticed I had a watery discharge, but didn't thing much of it. I took Jessica to the corner shop, and I just wanted to spend some time with her, and she loves shops We had a bit of lunch, then both had a nap as she was ired and I was still sufferering with my head. We got up when my DH returned that evening and I felt a lot better. The watery dishcarge was still there and there was not a slight blood tinge to it, but it was nothing heavy. By 9pm, I was getting mild BH's, and .we thought we'd better go home, just in case - that said, they were really irregular, like 2 mins and 15 mins apart lol. We got home about 11pm, and put Jessica to bed as she'd fallen asleep in the car, and by midnight, all BH's had stopped! But at about 01.00, they started again with avengance!!! However, having had one false alarm, I held on for ages before calling anyone, and in the end, the first midwife arrived at 02.45. When she arrived, I was 7 cm dilated, and the waters were bulging - there was panic though when she thought the baby was breech again. The other midwife was still about 30 mins away so they propped my bum up on pillows to defy gravity and prevent the waters breaking - not comfy!! Anyway, the second midwife arrived at about 03.30 and said he was the right way up, just had a bony bum!! My waters broke about 03.55 and I had him there in the bed - no time even for gas & air!!! He was a compound presentation, so came out with his arm across his face, so that was sore, but all else was ok. It was amazing! You might remember that I was having doubts and fears in the second half of the pregnancy. Well, that worsened severely to the point where I really didn't want him, and the complications didn't help. Well, the minute, no, the second I had him, I wanted him. I held him instantly, and it was me that checked his sex etc. I got that fabled mother's rush of love, and all doubts vanished. I fed him instantly, before the cord was even cut. The midwives helped me into the bath, and we were all done and tidied away by 6am, leaving us to settle as a new family, and it was beautiful. I am amazed by the whole homebirth thing! I didn't want a homebirth til the last minute, but I think it really helped us to bond. I also changed his name, right up to the time I was overdue, he was to be Matthew, but I'd had enough of the whole pregnancy and my feelings, and wated to start afresh, and liked the name Kieran - fortunately DH did too!! It's not been easy, he had what has to have been the world's worst colic!!!! Argh, I thought we'd all go mad!! But we've been to a cranial osteopath, and he's worked wonders. Plus, I was supplementing with formula, but I've cut that out, and his degestive tract has sped up again, and he's now 12 weeks, so time's helped too. So yeah, been busy since I was last in! Hope you're all ok - will try and catch up on some posts Lucy x |
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"lu-lu" wrote in message ... Hello! My computer died in the worst kinda way, but I'm back! Back, with an extra babby! And, would you believe, me, the hater of mess, had a home birth! Short story is Kieran David Joseph was born at 04.16 on Dec 10th at 41 weeks gestation, weighing 8lb 15 1/2oz. He's blue eyed and beautiful!! Jessica absolutely adores him. She slept through the whole thing, and came in at 07.00, said "Hello Mummy, oh, baby boy!" http://s176.photobucket.com/albums/w176/so-lucy/Kieran/ The long story is, we're both lucky to be here, the last month was quite an ordeal. Congratulations! Sympathy on the migraine. I got them with #3 and needed codeine to clear them, which I worried about, but apparently is absolutely fine. Hope things continue to do well. Debbie |
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Amazing story. He's just beautiful! Congrats, and welcome earthside,
Kieran! -- Jamie Clark www.ClarkDigitalArts.com "lu-lu" wrote in message ... Hello! My computer died in the worst kinda way, but I'm back! Back, with an extra babby! And, would you believe, me, the hater of mess, had a home birth! Short story is Kieran David Joseph was born at 04.16 on Dec 10th at 41 weeks gestation, weighing 8lb 15 1/2oz. He's blue eyed and beautiful!! Jessica absolutely adores him. She slept through the whole thing, and came in at 07.00, said "Hello Mummy, oh, baby boy!" http://s176.photobucket.com/albums/w176/so-lucy/Kieran/ The long story is, we're both lucky to be here, the last month was quite an ordeal. At 36 weeks, I went to the Race Circuit where my husband works, for a day out. I was finishing work that night, and looking forward to maternity leave. We had lovely day, but just before we went to leave, I developed severe chest and arm pains. I was quite convinced I was having a heart attack, and my husband drove me to the hospital. After an ECG and painkillers, they decided it was the baby lying on a nerve ( ! You wait for the rest of the story, and see why I had a home birth!!). Obviously, that was the end of work for me! Two days later, I went grocery shopping while my husband was at work and my daughter was at the childminders. I'd felt faint all morning, but when I got to the checkout, I collapsed. They called an ambulance and I went back to hospital. After radioactive stuff being jabbed in me, inhaled, bits xrayed, blood drained and drugs put in, they decided I'd had a pulmary emblolisim, caused by a DVT. That was no fun! I was in for about 10 days while it dispersed, and was on blood thinning drigs. Jessica missed me dreadfully and it was heartbreaking as I could only see her every few days. Eventually, I was discharged, and the same afternoon, I went to my consultant appt (I was under a consultant as the baby was spinning round between breech and normal at least once a day!!), but he decided I was still breathless and kept me in... At this point I think I began to lose the plot as I'd only been discharged that morning. They sent me up to the maternity unit, and after being messed around, and the same tests being ordered, I discharged myself - I knew I still wasn't well, but the obstetrics and medical teams were bouncing me round between them and not wanting to accept responsibilty, and that was keeping me in for even longer, without actually treating me. Even the midwives said I was doing the right thing by going home. I came home at 38 weeks, and asked if I could have a homebirth. The midwive agreed that I could if I stayed well. I just couldn't face going back into hospital, and it was doing my family no good whatsoever. At 39 weeks, I started to get contractions every 2 minutes, and we called the midwife out - bloody false alarm!! At 40w5d, I developed a severe migraine that left me blind. The doctor called an ambulance and I went back in... despite the ambulance, I was left in a brightly lit waiting room for 5 hours with no help, until i mananged to find a doctor and cried and begged them to let me lie down, even if they wouldn't treat me.I hoped that while I was in there they'd consider induction as I just felt so ill, and they were giving me painkillers that I worried me were going to harm the baby - they were giving me injections of pethadine and codeine, and wanted to give me morphine, but I refused it. This was the Sunday, and by the Monday night I discharged myself as I just wanted to lie in a dark room and get some sleep - something that would never happen in the hospital!! BTW, I did ask about induction, and they said it was too early?!?! I was 5 days overdue already. Bloody jobsworths! Anyway! The Monday night, DH took me to my best friend's house, so that I wouldn't have to look after Jessica alone while he was at work. I managed a really good night's sleep, which helped enormously. The Tuesday morning, it was down to a headache, and I started to feel better. I noticed I had a watery discharge, but didn't thing much of it. I took Jessica to the corner shop, and I just wanted to spend some time with her, and she loves shops We had a bit of lunch, then both had a nap as she was ired and I was still sufferering with my head. We got up when my DH returned that evening and I felt a lot better. The watery dishcarge was still there and there was not a slight blood tinge to it, but it was nothing heavy. By 9pm, I was getting mild BH's, and .we thought we'd better go home, just in case - that said, they were really irregular, like 2 mins and 15 mins apart lol. We got home about 11pm, and put Jessica to bed as she'd fallen asleep in the car, and by midnight, all BH's had stopped! But at about 01.00, they started again with avengance!!! However, having had one false alarm, I held on for ages before calling anyone, and in the end, the first midwife arrived at 02.45. When she arrived, I was 7 cm dilated, and the waters were bulging - there was panic though when she thought the baby was breech again. The other midwife was still about 30 mins away so they propped my bum up on pillows to defy gravity and prevent the waters breaking - not comfy!! Anyway, the second midwife arrived at about 03.30 and said he was the right way up, just had a bony bum!! My waters broke about 03.55 and I had him there in the bed - no time even for gas & air!!! He was a compound presentation, so came out with his arm across his face, so that was sore, but all else was ok. It was amazing! You might remember that I was having doubts and fears in the second half of the pregnancy. Well, that worsened severely to the point where I really didn't want him, and the complications didn't help. Well, the minute, no, the second I had him, I wanted him. I held him instantly, and it was me that checked his sex etc. I got that fabled mother's rush of love, and all doubts vanished. I fed him instantly, before the cord was even cut. The midwives helped me into the bath, and we were all done and tidied away by 6am, leaving us to settle as a new family, and it was beautiful. I am amazed by the whole homebirth thing! I didn't want a homebirth til the last minute, but I think it really helped us to bond. I also changed his name, right up to the time I was overdue, he was to be Matthew, but I'd had enough of the whole pregnancy and my feelings, and wated to start afresh, and liked the name Kieran - fortunately DH did too!! It's not been easy, he had what has to have been the world's worst colic!!!! Argh, I thought we'd all go mad!! But we've been to a cranial osteopath, and he's worked wonders. Plus, I was supplementing with formula, but I've cut that out, and his degestive tract has sped up again, and he's now 12 weeks, so time's helped too. So yeah, been busy since I was last in! Hope you're all ok - will try and catch up on some posts Lucy x |
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Congratulations, glad everything worked out well for you. It must have been
so scary with the complications. "lu-lu" wrote in message ... {all snipped} |
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"lu-lu" wrote in message ... Hello! My computer died in the worst kinda way, but I'm back! Back, with an extra babby! And, would you believe, me, the hater of mess, had a home birth! Short story is Kieran David Joseph was born at 04.16 on Dec 10th at 41 weeks gestation, weighing 8lb 15 1/2oz. He's blue eyed and beautiful!! Jessica absolutely adores him. She slept through the whole thing, and came in at 07.00, said "Hello Mummy, oh, baby boy!" Congrats! Sounds like you had a ton on your plate just before, but hopefully all has settled! So glad all went reasonably well, and congrats on an excellent home birth! |
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lu-lu wrote:
Hello! My computer died in the worst kinda way, but I'm back! Back, with an extra babby! And, would you believe, me, the hater of mess, had a home birth! Short story is Kieran David Joseph was born at 04.16 on Dec 10th at 41 weeks gestation, weighing 8lb 15 1/2oz. He's blue eyed and beautiful!! Jessica absolutely adores him. She slept through the whole thing, and came in at 07.00, said "Hello Mummy, oh, baby boy!" Congratulations! I've been hoping you were doing OK. I just spent last night at the hospital with my 4yo and 13mo. Though I think my child's care was good and needed, I'm not in any hurry to be back. Having a baby is tiring enough without being in the hospital unless necessary. --Betsy |
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Congratulations, Lucy!
I vaguely remember that you seemed to disappear not long before I found out I was expecting, I was worried about you because you'd seemed anxious and though computer troubles was a much more logical explaination, I also wondered if posting had just become too much for you, so I'm really glad to hear a positive update! Given we're now living in the US, I've been working through the pros and cons of the different systems between here and the UK, what you went through has definitely given me questions to ask. Midwives here don't have the same "duty of care" concept that we have in the UK, I have a horrible suspicion that having a pulmonary embolism in pregnancy would make them unable to continue to give care, it was always reassuring to me, that in the UK because of "duty of care", that you could have a really dire situation, if you stood your ground, they'd still have to come to a homebirth. On the other hand, I feel like the quality of midwifery care I'm getting is like having an independent midwife in the UK, but it's covered by insurance (though obviously this depends on your insurance company and which state you are in). Cheers Anne |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... Congratulations, Lucy! I vaguely remember that you seemed to disappear not long before I found out I was expecting, I was worried about you because you'd seemed anxious and though computer troubles was a much more logical explaination, I also wondered if posting had just become too much for you, so I'm really glad to hear a positive update! Given we're now living in the US, I've been working through the pros and cons of the different systems between here and the UK, what you went through has definitely given me questions to ask. Midwives here don't have the same "duty of care" concept that we have in the UK, I have a horrible suspicion that having a pulmonary embolism in pregnancy would make them unable to continue to give care, it was always reassuring to me, that in the UK because of "duty of care", that you could have a really dire situation, if you stood your ground, they'd still have to come to a homebirth. On the other hand, I feel like the quality of midwifery care I'm getting is like having an independent midwife in the UK, but it's covered by insurance (though obviously this depends on your insurance company and which state you are in). Cheers Anne Ooh, you're expecting again?! Congratulations!! How many weeks are you? In regards to the homebirth, the primary midwife that delivered Kieran admitted to be slightly worried, especially when she saw I still had ECG pads on, that I'd missed as they cover you in them lol. That, coupled with the sudden prospect of an iminent breech delivery, freaked her slightly, but the hospital is 45 mins away, even by ambulance transfer, and I think she knew we wouldn't have made it even if he had been breech - I don't hang about! I was really grateful to have had him at home. I was truly sick of hospitals, and the arrogant consultants - on one occasion, I felt truly bullied. During an internal on the day I was discharged and re-admitted, the consultant went and got two more male consultants, and they stood in a row, deliberately (this, they admitted) between me and DH. They told me my family were not a priority, and that they were to have no say in my decision to not go back to hospital - not pleasant to be ganged up on when you're naked from the waist down and feeling so vulnerable! It's a wonder that I didn't end up with pre-eclampsia too. As for the PE, I think if I'd still been on the blood thinning drug (I forget what it was called, but was similar to warfrin), they'd have veto'd the homebirth... I did bleed more this time, but that stopped as soon as I delivered the placenta. My only complaint was that they only brought one gas cylinder in, and that was half empty, so I did the actual delivery with nothing at all! They did have more in the car, but as they said, by the time they'd have gone and got it, I'd have had him anyway... I am a little pleased, as I always wondered if I could do it without, but ooh, it stung! I felt more in control though, and if I do have a third, I'd like to try and do without. My main acheivement was doing it without waking Jessica! Result! Lucy x |
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