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"choosing" gifts for kids
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain
kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. |
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Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain
kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. When people RSVP they usually ask what the child would like. I say then no play-doh or whatever I don't like. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. |
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Sophie wrote:
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. When people RSVP they usually ask what the child would like. I say then no play-doh or whatever I don't like. I've seen this suggestion a couple places. I never ask the parent when I RSVP what gift the child wants -- I usually ask DS or DD what the birthday kid wants; after all, it's DD/DS who will be at the party giving the gift, so I figure they should decide what to give. If DD/DS doesn't know the kid well enough to know what they'd like, I think long and hard about sending them to the party. I've also never (that I remember) told someone not to give DD or DS such and such gift. It's far easier to accept the gift graciously, and then after the party put it away. This also teaches DD/DS that not all gifts are what you really want, and that it is important to express delight when you get a gift, even if the delight is fake. Scott DD 11 and DS 8 |
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Scott wrote in message . ..
Sophie wrote: Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. When people RSVP they usually ask what the child would like. I say then no play-doh or whatever I don't like. I've seen this suggestion a couple places. I never ask the parent when I RSVP what gift the child wants -- I usually ask DS or DD what the birthday kid wants; after all, it's DD/DS who will be at the party giving the gift, so I figure they should decide what to give. If DD/DS doesn't know the kid well enough to know what they'd like, I think long and hard about sending them to the party. That works better with older kids. I think the OP's dd is turning either 2 or 3, so her "friends" would be unlikely to know what she would want! Irene |
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Scott wrote
I've also never (that I remember) told someone not to give DD or DS such and such gift. It's far easier to accept the gift graciously, and then after the party put it away. This also teaches DD/DS that not all gifts are what you really want, and that it is important to express delight when you get a gift, even if the delight is fake. Scott DD 11 and DS 8 I think in these situations, it's not that the gift is something the kid doesn't want; it's something the parents don't want. We went through this over Christmas. Our boys were extremely into Bionicles, but were getting very violent when playing with them. We told them they needed to take a break from them and put them away for awhile. We also mentioned to family (when they asked) that we did not want more Bionicles for Christmas. So in this case, if someone would have gone ahead and gotten the boys a Bionicle anyway, the boys would have been genuinely delighted, but I would not have been. ~ Sher |
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sher wrote:
Scott wrote I've also never (that I remember) told someone not to give DD or DS such and such gift. It's far easier to accept the gift graciously, and then after the party put it away. This also teaches DD/DS that not all gifts are what you really want, and that it is important to express delight when you get a gift, even if the delight is fake. Scott DD 11 and DS 8 I think in these situations, it's not that the gift is something the kid doesn't want; it's something the parents don't want. We went through this over Christmas. Our boys were extremely into Bionicles, but were getting very violent when playing with them. We told them they needed to take a break from them and put them away for awhile. We also mentioned to family (when they asked) that we did not want more Bionicles for Christmas. So in this case, if someone would have gone ahead and gotten the boys a Bionicle anyway, the boys would have been genuinely delighted, but I would not have been. ~ Sher Well, y'know, my kids have gotten toys they really like that I'd just as soon they did not have. They also spend their money on -- to me -- worthless things. Both of these things just aren't worth fighting, to me. I don't understand why DS wants yet another lego set with his allowance, when he has 3 big plastic bins full of legos in his room [and they're in the bins *only* because we spent 2 hours cleaning his room on Saturday -- usually the room is carpeted in legos ] How can friends of DD get her scented lotions? P-u! The list of gifts I'd approve for my kids is pretty short, actually. But are people giving the gifts to please me, or to please my kids? Scott DD 11 and DS 8 |
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In article , sher says...
Scott wrote I've also never (that I remember) told someone not to give DD or DS such and such gift. It's far easier to accept the gift graciously, and then after the party put it away. This also teaches DD/DS that not all gifts are what you really want, and that it is important to express delight when you get a gift, even if the delight is fake. Scott DD 11 and DS 8 I think in these situations, it's not that the gift is something the kid doesn't want; it's something the parents don't want. We went through this over Christmas. Our boys were extremely into Bionicles, but were getting very violent when playing with them. We told them they needed to take a break from them and put them away for awhile. We also mentioned to family (when they asked) that we did not want more Bionicles for Christmas. So in this case, if someone would have gone ahead and gotten the boys a Bionicle anyway, the boys would have been genuinely delighted, but I would not have been. Sure. But the parents need to have the mature ability to deal with an unwanted gift, even one wanted by the child - no? I can understand making close family aware of these restricitons. But classmates, etc? That would be inapproproate. Banty |
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It's far easier
to accept the gift graciously, and then after the party put it away. This also teaches DD/DS that not all gifts are what you really want, and that it is important to express delight when you get a gift, even if the delight is fake. I could not agree more! Life is not perfect and dissapointment is something that we cannot avoid! And teaching them good social skills is also a MUST. |
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"ted" wrote in message
om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I have informed my mom that I wanted my kids to recieve more educational toys then not for gifts. While I dont have a problem with Barbie I HATE the Bratz dolls so I am hoping we can avoid those. I think one thing that will help in my quest to get more educational toys is that most of my family knows I want to homeschool. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Tell her Thank you verry much but my daughter is really into INSERT CHARECTER HERE right now and would really love a cake with that on it. Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Xavier due 10/17/04 |
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