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Well we have always wanted children. I would say hunny I think it is time
and he would say not right now. Then when I got pregnant the first time I said to him how would you feel if I was pregnant? He said that if I was he would be happy. That's is when I said that I was. He was excited. (then we ended up loosing the baby) We did decide after that then when it happens it happens. We always knew that we wanted more then one child so we discussed trying for the next one after a year. Kay Eva 9/2002 little boy 1/2005 "Abi" wrote in message om... Hi, I just wanted to know from other ladies who have had kids - how did you discuss when and whether to have children with your partner? Was it you who came up with the idea first and then led the way into ttc so to speak - or did your dh come up with the idea first? Was your dh generally into the idea but wanted to wait a lot longer than you? Did many of you actually deliberately try to conceive (by modifying behaviour, planning ovulation dates etc etc) and or did you just throw away the contraception and see what happened? If you already had one child, how did you discuss the possibility of having another child? thanks! |
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"Abi" wrote in message om... Hi, I just wanted to know from other ladies who have had kids - how did you discuss when and whether to have children with your partner? Before we decided to get engaged... He was lukewarm on the notion but not 100% opposed. It would have been a deal-breaker for me for him to not want kids. However, he's only committed to one, and fairly opposed to any after the one I'm pg with. At this point, I'm not sure I disagree with him--I just flat out do NOT like the process of pregnancy. But we knew not only *that* we would have a child together, but approximately when (and my due date is about a month off of our "guess" of when our child would be born from our pre-engagement discussions.) Seriously--I would NOT have married him if he'd been adamant about no kids. Jenrose |
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As to actually deciding as to when to conceive... I started trying nine months before he did. (He had somehow failed to notice that we were no longer using condoms and I was taking folic acid.) I told dh that I'd have the IUD taken out spring of 2004, but didn't tell him I'd actually done it until it had been out for, oh, weeks, I think. That was his preference--he was worried that if he knew we were ttc, it would impair his performance. Ultimately, it didn't at all, as he knew full well I was fertile both times we got pg this year. Heh. Then again, I do know how to push his buttons. g Jenrose |
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"Jenrose" wrote in message
news:1099905308.f5TFx1GkVg8MR2AfhRnC8g@teranews... Seriously--I would NOT have married him if he'd been adamant about no kids. Jenrose Yep, me either with my dh. I would have stopped dating him immediately if he said he didn't want kids. That was one of the non-negotiable issues. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Zannah wrote in message ...
snip As to actually deciding as to when to conceive... I started trying nine months before he did. (He had somehow failed to notice that we were no longer using condoms and I was taking folic acid.) Zannah. Now see you had me until this last paragraph Just goes to show that all relationships are different -- this would have *never* flown with my husband! Elle |
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Daye wrote: On 8 Nov 2004 18:32:31 -0800, (Elle) wrote: Zannah wrote in message ... As to actually deciding as to when to conceive... I started trying nine months before he did. (He had somehow failed to notice that we were no longer using condoms and I was taking folic acid.) Zannah. Now see you had me until this last paragraph Just goes to show that all relationships are different -- this would have *never* flown with my husband! Mine either. He would have been very upset because he would have felt that I was trying to "force" him into having a baby. We'd discussed having children soon, but hadn't specifically said "let's start RIGHT now". I kind of assumed he was ok with this, based on the fact HE was no longer using contraception. (Honestly, it wasn't like I ripping the condoms off the man while he wasn't paying attention.) Zannah. |
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Zannah wrote: (Honestly, it wasn't like I ripping the condoms off the man while he wasn't paying attention.) Zannah. LOL this makes for a *very* interesting mental picture! -Rebecca, not quite awake yet |
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