How long will we have to wait?

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
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If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA,
can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from
deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and
the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee'
provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such
as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has
us in a real bind since we are short over
$500.00 a month because this deadbeat has decided not to pay for the
past several months.

It could take months, or it could take years. Her best bet is to attempt to
work with him directly. Why did he stop paying? Are there unresolved
issues from their relationship that would cause him to just stop? It is not
common to find a NCP who has been paying support for a couple of years to
just suddenly stop. There has to be a reason. BTW - you shouldn't call him
a deadbeat just because he recently stopped paying child support.

I would suspect the DCSS will issue a wage assignment since the guy is
still employed.

Depending on the reason why he stopped as wage assignment may cause him to
quit his job.


Tracy
http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
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It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an
obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to
think that I am paying this man's child support?

Speaking from experience, supporting someone else's children financially
when the should be contributing can cause problems in a relationship. There
are days I would like to separate our financial affairs to put an end to
issues involving money. Again - speaking from experience you should find
out the truth behind the sudden stop in support payments before passing
judgement.


--
Tracy
http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/

So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a
month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to
support, you do the math.

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
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So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a
month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to
support, you do the math.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but he's paying $500/month for one child?


Tracy
http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
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It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an
obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to
think that I am paying this man's child support? Pretty pathetic if you
ask me. You sound like another NCP who owes back
child support and the only support you do provide is to deadbeats.

Your story is changing again.

First you said your household budget was running over $500 short each
because he was not paying his CS. Now you are trying to claim you have been
making up his CS obligation. Which is it?

The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his CS
payments to pay for other children, he has the right to go to the court and
ask for relief. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS
money is spent and on whom.

You have referred back twice to him being ordered by the court to pay. That
court order is very specific about who he is paying for by naming the
judgment creditor and the child in addition to the amount he is to pay. If
the court's order is not being followed he can ask for a contempt of court
order and other sanctions.

"SnTHoliday" wrote
So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a
month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to
support, you do the math.
==
So, why did he stop? What is the mother's percent share and how much
of that is she contributing? Does he see the child? Why do you avoid
these questions (repeatedly)?
==

My fiance has tried to find out why he stopped, and all he says is he's
working on it. That's the answer everytime. What you people don't seem
to realize is child support
is a court order. Willfully withholding child support is contempt of
court (at least in CA,
I don't know about other states). He is breaking the law and his kid is
suffering the consequences of the parents always at each other's
throats over money. We know he still has a job, he verified it last
night when my fiance asked him for money.

I'm sorry I called him a deadbeat, I am upset because my fiance is very
stressed about this. She does not want me picking up the slack for her
ex not paying child support which I would gladly do if I did not have
three kids of my own. We would like to get married but don't have the
money. It's not easy to take a 500.00 hit each month.

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
oups.com...
If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA,
can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from
deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and
the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee'
provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such
as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has
us in a real bind since we are short over

Free hint for the clueless.........that is between your "fiancee' " and her
ex, NOT you.


$500.00 a month because this deadbeat has decided not to pay for the
past several months.
I would suspect the DCSS will issue a wage assignment since the guy is
still employed.

"Bob Whiteside" wrote
..................

The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his
CS
payments to pay for other children, he has the right to go to the court
and
ask for relief. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS
money is spent and on whom.
==
That's pretty clear by: "How long will we have to wait," and "we are short
over
$500.00 a month..." Clearly he doesn't think it's the child who is short,
but
"we." Pretty telling. Wanna guess why he won't answer the question of WHY
the NCP
stopped paying? Maybe it coincided with the advent of new beau moving in his
three kids who just happen to have a mom in prison and a dad who can't
afford to
support them.
==

"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
oups.com...
It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an
obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to
think that I am paying this man's child support? Pretty pathetic if you
ask me. You sound like another NCP who owes back
child support and the only support you do provide is to deadbeats.

I confess to being a "deadbeat" who is not afraid of taking on greedy women
and their live-in boyfriends who try to live off of another man's income
without regard for the impact on the children involved.

And I confess to being a "deadbeat" who advocates for fathers rights
particularly when CS is set, collected, disbursed, and spent in ways other
than the CS guidelines underlying assumptions and the intention of state
laws.