How to handle bad daycare teacher

Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

"Novtim" wrote in message
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Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

Take photos of the bruises, take your son out of this daycare, and call the
police.

deja.blues wrote:
"Novtim" wrote in message
ups.com...
Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

Take photos of the bruises, take your son out of this daycare, and call the
police.

Absolutely. Write down everything your son told you as well as you
can, word for word, too.

-L.

One kick, bruise, slap or anything else inflicted upon a child is one
too many!! Take very accurate and factual notes of what you found and
what your child told you. Call the police. Get the help of your local
church or similar organization. Make an appointment with your childs
pediatrician. CALL1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) Then Push 1 to Talk
to a Hotline Counselor. There are professionals and translators in 140
languages who can give the most accurate course of action. Do not send
your child back to the daycare again.

AM

Novtim wrote:
Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

On 8 Dec 2006 21:27:28 -0800, "Novtim" wrote:

Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

No daycare teacher should ever touch your son like that!
If you can, find a new daycare IMMEDIATELY.
Take pictures of the bruises, and take your son to the police dept and
ask them to take pictures and file a complaint against the teacher and
the center he works for.

Nan

that's not just bad, given you believe your son, remove your son from the
daycare immediately, write everything down and inform the daycare, then
inform the police (I believe it is polite to inform the day care and given
them 24hrs to act, it gives them a chance to do the right thing and suspend
the teacher in question).

Anne

I would file a complaint with the police department, and try to find
another day care. THe teacher has no reason to kick you son whats so
ever.





Novtim wrote:
Many times I saw bruse on my son's leg since he joined the daycare, but

he was 3 yrs old then, and he couldn't explain what happened logically.

Now he just turned into 4 years old. Yesterday I found a big bruse
again on his leg, and I asked him what happened. His answer makes me
very sad and hopeless, he answered my question without any hesitation:
he said that his teacher ticked him on his leg. I asked why he( a male
teacher)
kicked , my son said without hesitation again, "because I tear black
paper".... My gut feeling is that he is telling the truth. I asked
more details, and he is able to describe all the details.

Now I don't know what should I do with the teacher and the daycare. My

wife and me both work, so we have to send him to a daycare-
Has any parents here expericed such problem? Is this normal? I grew up
in a different country, and grew up with my parents and grand parents,
so never experice such thing myself, but I would feel very hopeless if
I was him. Any suggestions, ideas about what should I approach the
daycare and the teacher?
Thanks very much ahead.
-Novtim

You have to send him to daycare, but you don't have to send him to that
daycare. The options for 4 yr olds (who don't require particularly
restrictive ratios) are pretty wide, so I'd look elsewhere. Even if the
teacher isn't abusing your son, at best he's allowing your son to be injured
without notifying you.

I would also notify the center director and daycare licensing, but the first
thing to do is to protect your child.

--
Donna DeVore Metler
Orff Music Specialist/Kindermusik
Mother to Angel Brian Anthony 1/1/2002, 22 weeks, severe PE/HELLP
And Allison Joy, 11/25/04 (35 weeks, PIH, Pre-term labor)

I would like to say thanks to all of you. I shouldn't have let this go
when I see the bruise first time. But lessons learned, thanks to all
your suggestions and advices. I will try to find another place for him
ASAP.

Thanks again, I really appreicate your help.

Regards,
Novtim

I would like to say thanks to all of you. I shouldn't have let this go
when I see the bruise first time. But lessons learned, thanks to all
your suggestions and advices. I will try to find another place for him
ASAP.

Thanks again, I really appreicate your help.

Regards,
Novtim