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Rosalie B. wrote:
Clisby wrote: Babie wrote: Hey folks, I'm not sure if any of you will remember me or not, but I recently decided to resubscribe to this NG. Here's some information about my family. My name's Les. My partner's name is Jarrod. We have a 5 year old daughter and we also, up until about 3 months ago, raised my almost 9 year old niece. I was an extremely nervous/excited first time father. Now that our little one's "grown up" I've found all new questions I may need quick answers to, and this NG gave me so much help 5 years ago I thought I could jump in here again. We currently live in Albuquerque, NM, but we're really in need of a move. Alegra (DD) wants to finish kindergarten with the same teacher so we're waiting until June to move. Our plan is to move to Fresno, CA, so I've been obsessively looking for new homes in that area *grin* I know I'm leaving out a LOT, but that's us in a nutshell (whatever that means) LES! Hi, I remember you! I'm putting in my vote for moving in the summer rather than midyear. I think it also depends on whether there are a lot of military families in the area or not. When we lived in Florida, practically everyone was connected to the military, so the schools and teachers were used to having kids come and go through the year and had procedures for that. Here where we re now it is the same. The are two types of people living here - military and local long time residents. It was the same in California - there was a large transient population. In Boston and later in RI we lived far from the base and you weren't a local unless your grandparents were born there. Charleston (SC) is like that, too. Although it might have to be a great-grandparent; I'm not sure. (I bought an old wardrobe from the lady down the block who sold antiques and asked her about a little girl I saw on her bike at the end of the driveway, and she said - oh those are the new people. The 'new people' had been there for 12 years and ran the local store.) And in California, the 'old people' were friendlier to newcomers. We lived in south Philly for part of one year, and I don't think the kids had any particular trouble there either. There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..." Of course in the military you don't get much choice about when you move. |
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Clisby wrote:
Rosalie B. wrote: Clisby wrote: snip In Boston and later in RI we lived far from the base and you weren't a local unless your grandparents were born there. Charleston (SC) is like that, too. Although it might have to be a great-grandparent; I'm not sure. (I bought an old wardrobe from the lady down the block who sold antiques and asked her about a little girl I saw on her bike at the end of the driveway, and she said - oh those are the new people. The 'new people' had been there for 12 years and ran the local store.) And in California, the 'old people' were friendlier to newcomers. We lived in south Philly for part of one year, and I don't think the kids had any particular trouble there either. There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..." My mother was born in NC and her mother was from NC but married a man from PA. My mom always said that in the south they would be polite but wouldn't accept you if you were from the north. It's a different kind of non-acceptance than in New England - lower profile. We were born in and lived in Maryland, and my sister went to Duke and she was HIGHLY incensed when she was referred to as "that little northern gal" because she did not think she was Northern. But of course Maryland did not secede in the Civil War and so was therefore Northern, even if south of the Mason Dixon line. My mom was worried when my son (who married a PA girl) moved to the Charleston area. My DIL doesn't seem to feel any discrimination from local people, but I'm not sure whether they live in an area with a lot of old time society people. Or if she would notice if they weren't as welcoming as they could be. |
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In article , Ericka says...
Rosalie B. wrote: I found, through moving around the country a lot (having a dh in the Navy) that the kids did better WRT friends and people to play with if they moved during the school year, or at least not in the summer. Differently people have different experiences. I was a military brat and made seven moves during my primary and secondary school years. Five of those were during the summer, and two were during the school year. I found the summer moves easier. It's true that moving during the school year gets you in the social milieu faster, but being dumped in a new classroom mid-year when everyone else knows the ropes and you don't (and in later years, when the curriculum is out of synch with what you were used to) was harder. That was my experience too. Timing moves (if we could; most often we couldn't) for the summer meant we kids entered school along with others, having a start with everyone else. Being dumped in during the middle of the school year meant standing out more as the new kid. And, if there was any town-base antagonisms, stand out as a base kid if the school was off the base. When we moved in the summer, we typically didn't make all that many friends until school started, but since we were busy settling in and getting to know the area, that didn't seem like much of a problem to me. Yeah. Indeed, I wasn't sure what Rosalie was talking about until I realized she saw the summer as friend-less therefore moving in the middle of school meant friends right away. To my way of thinking, I have lots of things I would enjoy that were more on a solitary nature during the summer, like piano and crafts, plus I had two younger siblings including my brother within a year of my age, so I didn't feel the lack of new friends during whatever part of the summer that is left. I'd worry more about getting a hopeful social start in school. Being really tall and gangly and always "the smart kid", I had enough of a challenge as it was! I also think that it's not that bad to come in fresh to first grade, since a number of kids change schools between kindergarten and first grade, for a variety of reasons. The only drawback normally would be that the real estate market would be more competitive during the summer as most families try to move during the summer, but I dont' think that will be a problem this time! Banty |
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In article , Clisby says...
There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..." My bet it's apocryphal. Because, as a miltary kid, I heard that story (told by a military parent always) about just about everywhere we lived. Banty |
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Welcome back, Les! I remember you!
-- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) http://chookiesbackyard.blogspot.com/ |
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