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Going out...
AlenasMom wrote:
Does anyone go out without their babies for dinner or something like that? How do you work it with exclusive breastfeeding? How can I leave her with a babysitter and still go out to dinner? We don't. We haven't wanted to. When we do go out, we bring Pillbug along. He tends to do really well in restaurants; I think the ambient noise soothes him. We've gone out to lunch once and dinner once with family watching Pillbug. We found that all we talked about was Pillbug, and it was much more fun having him there to talk about. -- Anita -- -- SUCCESS FOUR FLIGHTS THURSDAY MORNING ALL AGAINST TWENTY ONE MILE WIND STARTED FROM LEVEL WITH ENGINE POWER ALONE AVERAGE SPEED THROUGH AIR THIRTY ONE MILES LONGEST 57 SECONDS INFORM PRESS HOME CHRISTMAS. |
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Going out...
I have went to dentist and doctor appointments, and had my dd watched
by my dh who has a flexible schedule. I just have pumped milk around, and tell him where it is and how to thaw it and heat it, and then I leave. For someone besides your spouse you should write a note allowing them to get medical treatment for your baby if necessary. With my first dd we did go out to dinner without her once for our anniversary and left her with grandma, but then other people at the restaurant had their kids with them, and we both just missed her and wished we had brought her. KC - buy or rent a Whittlestone Breast Expresser at: http://www.alittlestore.com "AlenasMom" wrote in message ble.rogers.com... Does anyone go out without their babies for dinner or something like that? How do you work it with exclusive breastfeeding? How can I leave her with a babysitter and still go out to dinner? Does it work? I can't imagine doing it right now. DH wants to go out to dinner, just us (we haven't had alone time in a long time even before Alena) but I'm nervous about leaving her with a sitter. (It would be my best friend, but still!) What do I tell her to do if she wakes up crying in hunger? Or if something goes wrong? Does anyone else have these fears? Should I just tell DH we're going to bring her with us until she's older? |
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Going out...
"AlenasMom" wrote in message ble.rogers.com...
Does anyone go out without their babies for dinner or something like that? How do you work it with exclusive breastfeeding? How can I leave her with a babysitter and still go out to dinner? Does it work? I can't imagine doing it right now. DH wants to go out to dinner, just us (we haven't had alone time in a long time even before Alena) but I'm nervous about leaving her with a sitter. (It would be my best friend, but still!) What do I tell her to do if she wakes up crying in hunger? Or if something goes wrong? Does anyone else have these fears? Should I just tell DH we're going to bring her with us until she's older? You can pump or hand express milk and leave it to be given by bottle, though that can be tricky if your baby's fussy about bottles. Bug is inconsistent about taking them, but even if she grumbles while she's given one she drinks enough to tide her over until I get home. If Alena cries while you're gone, your friend tries to comfort her -- either with things you've told her that work or things that she comes up with that you've never tried. The likelihood of something going wrong (aside from Alena just being mad) is extremely low, but you give your friend a way to contact you if it does. DH and I have been on 3 Bugless dates, and I must say, I've loved them. Before she was born I expected to be much more neurotic about leaving her, but I've relished it. Earlier this week we saw a movie and it was wonderful for DH and I to pay attention to each other without having half our minds on the Bug. And just as nice as the time away is taking her back into my arms when we get home. I think there are two essentials to enjoying time away from baby. First, the babysitter has to be someone that you completely trust. Secondly, you have to know in your gut that the baby is going to be fine without you for a little bit. I know in my brain and heart that even if the Bug gets ****ed off while I'm gone (and she often does), she'll be fine. Some people don't feel that way until the baby's older. If it's something your DH really wants, it's probably worth at least trying it and seeing how it goes. If you're a nervous wreck the whole time you can tell him you want to wait a while before doing it again. It's kind of amazing how varied people are in this respect. Recently there was the "Am I too attached?" thread from someone who'd barely been apart from her baby for over a year. The other day I talked with the mother of a 4 month old who was about to have her second full overnight away with her DH, and she was considering leaving baby with DH for a 2 day/2 night church retreat. Though neither of those styles would suit me at all, I don't thing either is inherently wrong. Lots of love and appropriate limits are really the only non-negotiable needs (aside from food and whatnot), and beyond that it's all about what works for you. Kate and the Bug, June 8 2003 |
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