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Ex left the state
FYI I'm posting this to the divorce group as well.
My ex and I have been divorced for a year, separated for a year before that. We have a 2 1/2 year old son who I have primary custody of with my ex having visitation every other weekend. My ex has done well with the visitations, he has only missed a few in the last year. Child support on the other hand has been a huge mess...he's usually 3 months behind. Currently he hasn't paid anything since May so I contacted Child Support Recovery Unit. He had been allowed to just pay on his own and send the checks to the clerk of courts but obviously that wasn't working. I finally have everything set up and CSR was going to start taking money out of his pay checks *this week*. Well now for the last week and a half I haven't been able to reach him by phone. (He lives 2 hours away) I found out yesterday though that he has quit his job and left for Florida...we are in the midwest. I called his dad whom I'm still close to and he had no idea that my ex had left for Florida. After his dad made some phone calls it appears no one in his family knew that he was leaving. His dad is livid and to say the least, so am I. My question is now what do I do? I have a child here who misses his dad and can't understand why he can't talk to him on the phone. I feel like he's running because of the child support and I don't know what to do about that. Any thoughts? TIA |
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"Just Me" wrote in My question is now what do I do? I have a child here who misses his dad and can't understand why he can't talk to him on the phone. I feel like he's running because of the child support and I don't know what to do about that. Any thoughts? Ask yourself what is more important, the money or a child's relationship with it's father? The threat of Jail forces people to do strange things! |
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"Just Me" wrote in And the threat of jail...who even mentioned jail? My ex isn't facing any jail time, just money out of his paycheck each week It's a federal offence to refuse to pay child support with sentences of up to 4 years in the State Prison. Child abandonment is a state offense with a minimum sentence of 3 months in the county jail. You did register your ex Husband's name with the local Child Support Agency, right? They will hound him until he is arrested and brought back to your state for arrearages. |
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"kellyGirl" wrote in message t... "Just Me" wrote in And the threat of jail...who even mentioned jail? My ex isn't facing any jail time, just money out of his paycheck each week It's a federal offence to refuse to pay child support with sentences of up to 4 years in the State Prison. Child abandonment is a state offense with a minimum sentence of 3 months in the county jail. You did register your ex Husband's name with the local Child Support Agency, right? They will hound him until he is arrested and brought back to your state for arrearages. And once the authorities have tracked him down, tie him up with a chain that is staked deep into the ground. Make him stay out in the rain to howl at the moon. Treat him like a second class citizen and an unwanted dog. Tell the child he can't visit his father because his father is a lowlife, common criminal. Make sure the kid knows being born a male is the equivalent of being born a genetically flawed human being. Show the 2 1/2 year old son who misses his dad how the force of the state can be used to tame any male who dares to not accept the feminist's demands for compliance with a woman's desire to exact revenge. After all, women are the gentler, more compassionate sex, right? |
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If you were getting by just fine, he's an ok guy, and he was seeing his
kid, then why did you have to stir up the pot? I sincerely hope you're working. You mentioned that the CS amount wasn't huge. Maybe in his eyes it was a huge amount. If he was always 3 months behind, that must indicate that he couldn't handle that amount. Why didn't you just talk to him and try to come to some agreement instead of sicking the wolves on him? Just Me wrote: FYI I'm posting this to the divorce group as well. My ex and I have been divorced for a year, separated for a year before that. We have a 2 1/2 year old son who I have primary custody of with my ex having visitation every other weekend. My ex has done well with the visitations, he has only missed a few in the last year. Child support on the other hand has been a huge mess...he's usually 3 months behind. Currently he hasn't paid anything since May so I contacted Child Support Recovery Unit. He had been allowed to just pay on his own and send the checks to the clerk of courts but obviously that wasn't working. I finally have everything set up and CSR was going to start taking money out of his pay checks *this week*. Well now for the last week and a half I haven't been able to reach him by phone. (He lives 2 hours away) I found out yesterday though that he has quit his job and left for Florida...we are in the midwest. I called his dad whom I'm still close to and he had no idea that my ex had left for Florida. After his dad made some phone calls it appears no one in his family knew that he was leaving. His dad is livid and to say the least, so am I. My question is now what do I do? I have a child here who misses his dad and can't understand why he can't talk to him on the phone. I feel like he's running because of the child support and I don't know what to do about that. Any thoughts? TIA |
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Obviously" your son's relationship with his father *isn't* more important!
Who are you trying to fool? You sacrificed your child's right to a father for money that isn't "huge." Sheesh! And you can't figure out why dad took off? Your son has a right to be upset! Just me -- Do not listen to these boobs. Some people here think that no child support is justified or if it is the obligor can take his sweet time. OSE is a demon spawn You were just trying to get his wages garnished. In some states that is automatic for EVERYONE. It is a much simpler situation. Employers know that the garnishment does not reflect badly on the employee. And the money is more likely to come in on a timely basis. Your ex CHOSE to leave his job rather than allow his check to be garnished. He CHOSE to quit his job. He CHOSE to move away. This is a classic situation of a paying parent adopting a lifestyle that revolves around not paying the child support. When bad things start happening to him as a result of his non-payment of child support, then it is everyone else's fault. Remember it takes 6 to 12 months of non-payment for the penalties to really start flowing. In my state even small payments can stave off those difficulties for while. This was HIS choice. I know of NO state that allow a CP to withhold visitation just because the supportis not paid. He CHOSE to leave the state. |
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"LLL" wrote in This was HIS choice. I know of NO state that allow a CP to withhold visitation just because the supportis not paid. He CHOSE to leave the state. Yes, it's still a free country, right? BTW, she chose to spread her legs for this guy. You lie down with dogs, your going to catch flees too! |
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BTW, she chose to spread her legs for this guy
Typical sexist crap. The woman is to blame for the sexual act. Well HE chose to stick in in! |
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