"Helicopter Parenting" vs Adlerian based Parenting

Adlerian/Montessori Way VS. "Helicopter" Parenting:

20/20 on Oct 21, 2005 featured 'Helicopter' (i.e. Hovering) Parents:
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Health/st...1237868&page=1 (the entire
transcript can be read here)
One mother "spends an hour drafting to-do emails for her sons, checking
their grades, their bank account balances, and even using their
personal passwords to check their student email" ... In taking over,
they are sending a profound message: You are not capable
of handling your life. It's horrifying to me to hear the story that a
parent is calling a child three or four times in the morning to wake
them up in college. ... Are they planning to do that for the rest of
her life?" says Helen Johnson, author of the book, "Don't Tell Me What
to Do, Just Send Money".

Whereas, democratic/nurturing/authoritative style positive parenting
based on Adlerian psychology (by the way, this philosophy has been
around since the turn of the 20th cent.) aims to "Encourage
Responsibility & Independence, Teach Social Skills, and Build
Self-Esteem" among others.

And many of these principles can be practiced at home. This is an
excellent book online in a read-only PDF format: The Montessori Way:
An Education For Life by Tim Seldin and Paul Epstein
http://www.montessori.org/sitefiles/...essori_way.pdf

About Democratic Parenting: "Children are trained to take a problem
solving
approach to life and to view mistakes as opportunities to learn.
Encouragement
is the mainstay of this style of parenting." Alyson Schafer - You can

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Parenting Theory:
http://www.alyson.ca/tips/parenting_...eory/index.php

Teaching Responsibility to Children:
http://www.alyson.ca/tips/parenting_...lity/index.php

There are some good positive parenting tips he
http://www.samalin.com/tips/index.html

for ex: "Encouraging Kids to be More Responsible: If you want your
child to be more independent and responsible, try not to be a
"helicopter parent". Don't do for your child what he can do for
himself. Instead of constantly "reminding" your child of what she
already knows, let consequences teach whenever possible. Example:
Don't keep reminding her to take her homework. Allow your child to
forget her homework. It's not life-threatening, and allowing the
consequences to come from the teacher is usually more helpful than
you're being responsible for what is hers."

Some Montessori principles of education:
· Learning occurs in a cooperative atmosphere marked by social
interaction and peer teaching.
· A primary goal of Montessori education is to foster competent,
responsible, adaptive citizens who are lifelong learners and problem
solvers.
· Learning takes place through the senses. Students learn by
manipulating material and interacting with others.
· These meaningful experiences are precursors to the abstract
understanding of ideas.
· The individual is considered as a whole. The physical, emotional,
social, aesthetic, spiritual, and cognitive needs and interests are
inseparable and equally important.
· Respect and caring attitudes for oneself, others, the environment,
and all life are necessary.