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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
What exactly do I need to do? I've never done this before.
~Carol Ann EDD March 31/April 1 |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
On Wed, 29 Oct 2003 20:11:30 GMT, "Carol Ann"
wrote: What exactly do I need to do? I've never done this before. Well, it will largely depend on if this is a religious or a symbolic role. If it is religious, your church may have requirements that have to be met. If it is symbolic, it can be anyone. My children will not have godparents. My sister did give godparents to her children, but it was a symbolic role. I think for all 3 she chose her best friend (but I could be wrong). Good luck with your decision! -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
We do not have a god mother for Izabella. When we had her baptised we were
asked if we were going to have god parents. The rev. than told us not alot of people do this anymore. Plus its not legal unless they are listed in your wills. We did ask DHs sister to be a god mother though but she did not seem keen on it for some reason. -- Laura Mommy to Izabella **Feb 10th, 2003** And 2 felines *Ashes(3) & George (5)* http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/i/izabellawelburn/ "Carol Ann" wrote in message link.net... What exactly do I need to do? I've never done this before. ~Carol Ann EDD March 31/April 1 |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
On Wed, 29 Oct 2003 20:33:48 GMT, "Rob and Laura"
wrote: We did ask DHs sister to be a god mother though but she did not seem keen on it for some reason. If they are not the same religion as you (or don't hold your beliefs), they may feel uncomfortable because they think they will have to teach the child about God. (That is the traditional role of a godparent.) To the OP, I would be very clear what you expect out of the godparent when you ask them especially if they are to fill a religious role in the child's life. Being a godparent means different things to different people. -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
"Rob and Laura" wrote Plus its not legal unless they are listed in your wills. We did ask DHs sister to be a god mother though but she did not seem keen on it for some reason. M y husband and I have no idea who to put in our wills....that is a large responsibility for someone if you mean it seriously and not just symbolically, for someone to assume responsibility for your child/ren if something happens to you. My husband and I first of all don't know anyone that would be as fit and trustworthy as we would want , but a couple who we could think of we are not sure if theyd WANT the responsibility. This is just like anything else- everybod has a different opinion. My parents think it should be them, my husbands parents think it should be them, my husband thinks it should be his parents,I personally do not want to pick grandparents on either side for various reasons including age. Neither of us wants his brother and sister in law, and his other brother and mine both are single. Various people our age, freidns, coworkers etc just are not appealing, I guess I will pass up even having godparents and just make sure our will is solid. I refuse to have any of the grandparents be in a godparents role though...what can you do if you DON'T have an ideal godparent? If something happened would it just be up to whoever to step forward, such as grandparents? When our baby is 18 the grandparents will be in upper 70's.... |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
On Wed, 29 Oct 2003 20:11:30 GMT, "Carol Ann"
wrote: What exactly do I need to do? I've never done this before. As others have pointed out it depends on why you are doing this. We thought about this for a while before asking anyone, as we where asking them to be God Parents in the full religious meaning. Once we worked out who we wanted we asked them, before doing anything else - so that they would have a chance to say no. After that we discussed the details with them and our pastor while arranging for DD to be baptised. Di |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
J wrote:
"Rob and Laura" wrote Plus its not legal unless they are listed i your wills. M y husband and I have no idea who to put in our wills....that is a large responsibility for someone if you mean it seriously and not just symbolically, for someone to assume responsibility for your child/ren if something happens to you. Deciding on guardians for your children is completely separate from deciding on godparents (though of course you might end up choosing the same person, as some do). Why would someone think it's a problem that godparents aren't "legal" unless you put them in your will? They're perfectly fine as godparents regardless of what you do, and you don't have to put them in your will for them to be able to exercise their religious obligations (whatever those might be according to your religion). If you want them to *also* be guardians of your children, then of course you have to put that in your will. Out of the eight godparents we have for our three children, only one is also a guardian (and she'd get all three kids). Obviously, some people equate godparents with guardians, but I don't think this holds water with any religion I'm familiar with, nor with the law. I don't see any need whatsoever to refrain from having someone as a godparent just because you don't want them as guardians of your child (assuming, of course, that they meet whatever you consider to be the religious requirements of the job). Best wishes, Ericka |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
Carol Ann wrote:
What exactly do I need to do? I've never done this before. It completely depends on the requirements of your religion and any other requirements you have for the job. If you're not sure of the religious requirements, contact your church to get the details. Beyond that, ask yourself what sort of relationship you'd like your child to have. I really wanted someone I felt confident would still be in my child's life years from now. I also wanted someone who could be another adult my child could turn to in times of trouble if he or she couldn't or wouldn't talk to us (so therefore I wanted someone whose judgement I really trusted). Once you have some ideas about whom you'd like to ask, have a discussion with that person explaining what you're looking for in a godparent and ask if he or she would be comfortable with that. Ask in a way that leaves the person a graceful exit if he or she wishes to decline. After you've got someone lined up, check with your church to see if there are any additional requirements, like classes or rehearsals or whatnot, in addition to whatever you need to do to get on the schedule. Personally, I love the opportunity to choose godparents. I see it as one of those opportunities to turn friends into family ;-) Best wishes, Ericka |
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Chose the baby's god mother. Now what?
Ericka Kammerer wrote in message ...
Obviously, some people equate godparents with guardians, but I don't think this holds water with any religion I'm familiar with, nor with the law. I don't see any need whatsoever to refrain from having someone as a godparent just because you don't want them as guardians of your child (assuming, of course, that they meet whatever you consider to be the religious requirements of the job). Not to mention that it might be kind of weird to have your children split up with different guardians, if you chose different godparents for your different children (which I believe is somewhat typical, in my admittedly limited experience!) (My Presbyterian SIL did ask my dh to be godfather for one niece, and asked if I would want to be the godmother, but was not at all offended when I said I would be rather uncomfortable with the role, considering that I'm Jewish!) Irene |
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