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It's me again and I need an adults advice
Hi everyone, it's me veronica again; if you don't remember, the 16 year old
mom. Yea, well I need some advice, I was just recently on spring break and I stayed with Edwin(my son's father) We messed around a little and on monday I seen his new little fling named Amy. She's cute and everything and he got upset when we were talking later on that night because I don't care what he does with her. He expected me to say all these things about why he shouldn't go out with her and blah blah blah. Any who, this is asked to the fathers out there especially, Are we wrong to be together when were together and not when were not????? Also, I feel really lonely lately, any body wanna chat, male or female friend or bf or whatever doesn't matter Well thank you everyone |
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It's me again and I need an adults advice
'Kate wrote in message ... On Fri, 16 Apr 2004 12:17:49 -0400, "Vero" Hi everyone, it's me veronica again; if you don't remember, the 16 year old mom. Yea, well I need some advice, I was just recently on spring break and I stayed with Edwin(my son's father) We messed around a little and on monday I seen his new little fling named Amy. She's cute and everything and he got upset when we were talking later on that night because I don't care what he does with her. He expected me to say all these things about why he shouldn't go out with her and blah blah blah. Any who, this is asked to the fathers out there especially, Are we wrong to be together when were together and not when were not????? It depends on your standards. Offhand, I wouldn't do it. I'd expect the whole package. Of course you're both rather young for that. Ahh... Well, for Veronica, It wasn't that long ago that I was in your exact same situation. I was a 16 year old single mom only a few years back, so I can relate on some level. I'll have to agree with Kate. I, personally, wouldn't do it either. I'm not sure how you see things, but in that situation, I wouldn't do it just because I feel that either you're together or you're not. I wouldn't be interested in someone who has someone else (speaking of this Amy) mainly because I don't think I'd know how to explain to my child the whole runaround. I'd also have an issue with seeing someone, either my child's father or someone else, but especially my child's father, with someone else because I can't really explain it, but it'd be more the issue with my child. If I recall correct, you have an infant, and maybe right now none of this applies, but when a baby, very quickly, goes from a clueless baby that doesn't really care much about anything than your arms around them for snuggle times, your voice, face and body near theirs, your time spent feeding them, the books you read out loud to them, playing with you and that kind of stuff, and almost over night changes into a monster who thinks, and often can find ways to prove they really are smarter than you are, things, I think, can get a bit messy. Also, I feel really lonely lately, any body wanna chat, male or female friend or bf or whatever doesn't matter Well, if you want to chat some time, I'm often here or there or somewhere. If you feel the need and want to, feel free to email me at katmagicate[at]footbag[dot]org (change the obvious in brackets). That's also the M$N email I use, if you happen to have M$N Messenger. Well thank you everyone Hope you get out.... or get use to being lonely. (no meanness intended). It's tough to be a single parent let alone a young single parent with social needs. Have you considered joining some kind of teen group? 'Kate Ain't that often the cold, hard truth, hey? I know it wasn't meant to be mean, but it's often a reality, and sometimes the truth can hurt. I've now gotten used to my space, time alone and total lack of company (when it comes to my own, personal, relationships.) I'm used to my weekends being the exact same thing, and often getting the offspring off to bed, plugging in a random movie and kicking back on the couch and enjoying the company of myself or just one friend included, depending on what others have planned for their often busy weekends. A teen group might be an advantage, and if you have some kind of teen parenting groups in your area, maybe they could be of benefit? Something where you could either get together with other teens, or even other teens, either single teen parents or couples of teen parents, and just find way to keep your social life as up to date and active as you possibly can. Believe me, the social life part is hard at times, so I don't know... Find other teen parents, if you wanted, and you may find you can gain a lot from them. -- A: Because it messes up the order in which people normally read text. Q: Why is top-posting such a bad thing? A: Top-posting. Q: What is the most annoying thing on usenet? |
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It's me again and I need an adults advice
Actually, no cuz like I have friends and stuff but it's not the same. I
know I'll learn to deal with it. It's just not as easy from that relationship. Thanks Kate. |
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It's me again and I need an adults advice
Well thanks I feel alot better. I've decided I'm not going to do that
anymore because of the whole fact that I don't want my son to get confused. Plus I never felt right about the whole situation anyways. It's just sometimes things get hard and I need to talk to people. Thanks. I'm not going back to that life style with edwin, he needs to learn and he never does get it until it slams him into the wall. I gotta talk to him because there not doing to well over there at his house either. Oh yes, if your wondering my son is a year and 11 months. I 'm getting ready to plan out his birthday party and aaaahhhh. Any suggestions on that, I'm listening. I think I might go with NEMO I dunno. It's confusing, anyways Thanks again everyone. |
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It's me again and I need an adults advice
I 'm getting ready to plan
out his birthday party and aaaahhhh. Any suggestions on that, I'm listening. I think I might go with NEMO At this age, the party is still more for family than for the kid, though this time around he's aware of the toys. Don't invite a lot of kids his age, because they are not ready to play nice and the other babies will want to play with his toys and he'll scream and it will be most unpleasant. Invite your family, have some cake and ice cream and give him some toys. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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