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My absolute favorite was a book on pg and the first few
months by two doctors out of Ann Arbor, MI. They focused on twins and more. It was absolutely invaluable. one of these authors is Barbara Luke. she's in Florida now. she is a nutritionist really, with a specialty in multiples. we live in Ann Arbor so we saw Dr. Luke, a lot. she's kind of a control freak who liked to make you afraid of the worst so she could come in and "save" you from your fears. i found it quite ironic that she really didn't seem to like children. i'm forming this opinion on the interactions i saw with her and children. her own son was in boarding school in California while we were seeing her. but...she was very nice. =) pam |
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oups.com... Hmmm...I'm a bit "off" on this one. Most of my friends didn't buy in to the books and preparations of parenthoood. They "winged it" and did fine. I'm a control freak and I needed some kind of plan to occupy my mind while awaiting the unknown. That's funny, Missy, because I'm a control freak who ended up totally winging it. :-) I like making decisions, and what I found was that too much of what I read contradicted xyz in some other book, IYSWIM. Ultimately, I tend to fall back on what I learned when I was raised, and because I had a (relatively) healthy and happy upbringing, I'm just going to rely on that knowledge and experience. DH and I agree most of the time because our moms were similar in many of the parenting techniques they used (though they are very different in most other ways, lol). There are some instances where DH resents something his parents failed to do (e.g., communicate adequately with the kids), so we put that on our front burner. And I have certain things I want to concentrate on that my parents didn't (e.g., sharing my kids' interests). If I find a book/author that mirrors my interests, I've enjoyed reading that source. For instance, John Rosemond is a "parenting expert" whose writings seem to be coming straight from my brain...so I have a lot of his books on my shelf and like to offer them to friends who want to know what I'm all about. I've also always loved the Ames & Ilg developmental books, because they're so short, sweet, to the point, and remarkably accurate! ("Your One-Year-Old," "Your Two-Year-Old," etc.) Lastly, my biggest piece of advice - since I know you're just hoping I'll ramble some more LOL - is this: Line up help now. Great advice, Missy!! Esp. about not playing the martyr. I definitely made this mistake. :-O C: If you don't bathe on the right schedule, put the diaper on inside out, and can't figure out how to use that blue bulb on their noses, you'll still be a good Mom if you love 'em. They'll be just fine and so will you. I promise Yup. And the kids won't remember most of what you did wrong. You can tell them all that when they're older, and trust me, they'll crack up to hear how much they confused you. ;-) Jenny |
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"m.ackerman" wrote in
news:3z8Wd.31636$Ze3.29854@attbi_s51: Each time I meet a mom of twins who has "older" twins I usually am convenience that I too shall live through these stages and as one mom of 12 year old twin boys said "I'm not in a mental institution and they are still alive - I guess all is going well!" Some stages feel like they will NEVER end, others (the sweet ones) feel like they are over in a blink of an eye - all in all - I wouldn't trade them for the world! Tonight at swim club practice I walked over to Chris to remind him to breath (yeah, one would think it would be second nature in swimming), anyhow, after telling him to remember to breath he said "hey mom, you look great"! One can't beat that! Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is don't listen to your parents or in-laws. Maybe just don't take what they say as gospel, you can listen a little I guess. heh. My mother-in-law has told us about how my wife was eating solid food at 2 months, sleeping through the night at 3 months, walking at 6 months, potty trained at 12 months, etc. I am not exaggerating on those numbers. It gets very frustrating. The only one I could maybe agree with under the best of situations is the sleeping at 3 months. I've known some really lucky parents who have been blessed with that. Our girls are 3 months and 1 week and sleep 4-6 hours at night, but they are getting better. Other things my wife's mom has told us: (1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole milk. (2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day. Oh, and the most funky one! (3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute each day to help align their backs. Our doc almost laughed at that last one and said that that would probably just make them throw up everything from their stomach. Steve Dad of Brianna (2/03) and Rebecca & Sydney (12/04) |
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I found it wasn't just the in-laws or out-laws but strangers - they ALWAYS
have/had advice to give, wanted or not. Usually I just said thank you and went on my way but there was one dad on here in our group that after many times of being asked whether his wife took drugs (of course on one's business IMO), said "yes, after the cocaine and heroine she finally conceived! The nosey party soon shut up wide mouthed and walked away - cute reply after being inundated with personal questions. Now that the twins are 10 I don't have too many problems with unsolicited recommendations. Both are very different, she is actually 1.5 taller than her brother - finally! They are in totally different activities, Kathleen is a dancer (Irish), violin player, drama class and soccer, Chris is in a swim club and does cartoon drawing (to which I might add sold his first drawing to the teacher a week ago), on Saturday. Because they aren't seen together and no longer look alike they can go on their merry way. I do get asked though "who got held back" when we are at school functions. In reality it was Kathleen as Chris is 4 minutes older! Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 "Steve Smith" wrote in message 9.130... "m.ackerman" wrote in news:3z8Wd.31636$Ze3.29854@attbi_s51: Each time I meet a mom of twins who has "older" twins I usually am convenience that I too shall live through these stages and as one mom of 12 year old twin boys said "I'm not in a mental institution and they are still alive - I guess all is going well!" Some stages feel like they will NEVER end, others (the sweet ones) feel like they are over in a blink of an eye - all in all - I wouldn't trade them for the world! Tonight at swim club practice I walked over to Chris to remind him to breath (yeah, one would think it would be second nature in swimming), anyhow, after telling him to remember to breath he said "hey mom, you look great"! One can't beat that! Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is don't listen to your parents or in-laws. Maybe just don't take what they say as gospel, you can listen a little I guess. heh. My mother-in-law has told us about how my wife was eating solid food at 2 months, sleeping through the night at 3 months, walking at 6 months, potty trained at 12 months, etc. I am not exaggerating on those numbers. It gets very frustrating. The only one I could maybe agree with under the best of situations is the sleeping at 3 months. I've known some really lucky parents who have been blessed with that. Our girls are 3 months and 1 week and sleep 4-6 hours at night, but they are getting better. Other things my wife's mom has told us: (1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole milk. (2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day. Oh, and the most funky one! (3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute each day to help align their backs. Our doc almost laughed at that last one and said that that would probably just make them throw up everything from their stomach. Steve Dad of Brianna (2/03) and Rebecca & Sydney (12/04) |
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The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is
don't listen to your parents or in-laws. Other things my wife's mom has told us: (1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole milk. (2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day. Oh, and the most funky one! (3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute each day to help align their backs. Maybe the best advice is "Don't listen to my (your) inlaws"! LOL! Okay, I just couldn't resist Missy in Indiana |
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If you're planning on breastfeeding, one book I've heard highly recommended
is "Mothering Multiples". I didn't have it myself, but I always wished I did. "KellyH" wrote in message ... Any suggestions? Also, any good general "care and feeding of babies" books? Not specific to parenting methods, but just what to do. I don't even know how often you bathe a baby. -- -Kelly kelly at farringtons dot net "Wake up, and smell the cat food" -TMBG |
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