Lets bring some life here......

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work 2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called, wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake up like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound off, of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I even found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep...... I fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet you do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to him on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to say. He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is disturbing.....
..he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

T

"Tiffany" wrote in message
...
Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good. We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late
night calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work 2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to
even talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake
up like an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the
sound off, of course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22
times????? I even found out he called the land line and my daughter
answered and said I was sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When
I fall asleep...... I fall asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked
you to not do this yet you do it anyways. He says he was a bit upset
because I felt cold, aloof to him on the phone. Hey! I said I was
exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to say. He turns it around that he
isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be available to him. I said I am
available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just kidding, I didn't say that) I
told him his obsessiveness is disturbing..... .he didn't like me saying
that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive but most the time it is a
GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

Tiff......it is defintely time to....



T

"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Feb 2005 23:48:14 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote:

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work
2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I
am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake up
like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound off,
of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I even
found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep...... I
fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet you
do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to him
on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to say.
He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is
disturbing.....
.he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive
but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I
am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

T

Yeah... we like being desirable but only if it's by someone we
respect.

It's more than obsessiveness. He knew you did not want him to call.
It wasn't an emergency. He could not control himself and he is trying
to manipulate you into feeling like you're expecting too much from
him. You're not. He's out of control. Time to cut and run. There are
real men out there who aren't out of their minds.

'Kate

I think that is all quite obvious. On the upside, what better way to teach
your daughter how to spot a whackjob from 50 yards away or less than this?

I can't imagine why you have put up with this for as long as you have!

Lisa

"P.Fritz" wrote in message
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"Tiffany" wrote in message
...
Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good. We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late
night calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work
2 eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I
am pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything
to even talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I
wake up like an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had
the sound off, of course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22
times????? I even found out he called the land line and my daughter
answered and said I was sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When
I fall asleep...... I fall asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked
you to not do this yet you do it anyways. He says he was a bit upset
because I felt cold, aloof to him on the phone. Hey! I said I was
exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to say. He turns it around that he
isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be available to him. I said I am
available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just kidding, I didn't say that) I
told him his obsessiveness is disturbing..... .he didn't like me saying
that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive but most the time it is a
GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I
am getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

Tiff......it is defintely time to....





lol..... but what about the amusement factor?

T

"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Feb 2005 23:48:14 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote:

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work 2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake up
like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound off,
of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I even
found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep...... I
fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet you
do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to him
on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to say.
He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is
disturbing.....
.he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive
but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

T

Yeah... we like being desirable but only if it's by someone we
respect.

It's more than obsessiveness. He knew you did not want him to call.
It wasn't an emergency. He could not control himself and he is trying
to manipulate you into feeling like you're expecting too much from
him. You're not. He's out of control. Time to cut and run. There are
real men out there who aren't out of their minds.

'Kate


You sure about that? (The real men part)

I hear you...... truly. I don't mind being by myself so I don't know why I
can't cut him out...... I have done it for simpler reasons then this.

T

"Lisa" wrote in message
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"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Feb 2005 23:48:14 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote:

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I work
2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night I
am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to
even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake up
like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound
off,
of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I even
found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep...... I
fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet you
do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to him
on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to
say.
He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No, just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is
disturbing.....
.he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is obsessive
but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think I
am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

T

Yeah... we like being desirable but only if it's by someone we
respect.

It's more than obsessiveness. He knew you did not want him to call.
It wasn't an emergency. He could not control himself and he is trying
to manipulate you into feeling like you're expecting too much from
him. You're not. He's out of control. Time to cut and run. There are
real men out there who aren't out of their minds.

'Kate

I think that is all quite obvious. On the upside, what better way to
teach
your daughter how to spot a whackjob from 50 yards away or less than this?

I can't imagine why you have put up with this for as long as you have!

Lisa




Boredom?

I have mentioned some of what has happened so that she does know I feel this
isn't normal. She makes jokes..... Did you break up with him yet?

T

"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

"Lisa" wrote in message
...

"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Feb 2005 23:48:14 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote:

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has been
good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late
night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I
work
2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night
I
am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to
even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake
up
like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound
off,
of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I even
found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep......
I
fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet
you
do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to
him
on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to
say.
He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No,
just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is
disturbing.....
.he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is
obsessive
but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good
obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think
I
am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know the
outcome already.

T

Yeah... we like being desirable but only if it's by someone we
respect.

It's more than obsessiveness. He knew you did not want him to call.
It wasn't an emergency. He could not control himself and he is trying
to manipulate you into feeling like you're expecting too much from
him. You're not. He's out of control. Time to cut and run. There are
real men out there who aren't out of their minds.

'Kate

I think that is all quite obvious. On the upside, what better way to
teach
your daughter how to spot a whackjob from 50 yards away or less than
this?

I can't imagine why you have put up with this for as long as you have!

Lisa




Boredom?

I have mentioned some of what has happened so that she does know I feel
this
isn't normal. She makes jokes..... Did you break up with him yet?

T



So did you? lol

Are you at least getting presents or sumptin?

Lisa

"Lisa" wrote in message
...

"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

"Lisa" wrote in message
...

"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Feb 2005 23:48:14 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote:

Welp, some of you might recall my issue with the dude I am dating.

Since all that, I laid down the law (or so I thought) and all has
been
good.
We have spent time together, it has been positive and fun. No late
night
calls or text messages.

Obviously that isn't the case right now. I will mention here that I
work
2
eight hour days on the weekend and it is tiring work. By Sunday night
I
am
pooped. It is not unusual for me to go to bed at 9. This dude called,
wants
to come over. I said I am burned out, grumpy and lacking anything to
even
talk about at that moment. OK..... so I think. I fall asleep. I wake
up
like
an hour later by chance and see my phone lighting up. (Had the sound
off,
of
course) It was him. Phone tells me he called like 22 times????? I
even
found
out he called the land line and my daughter answered and said I was
sleeping. At this point it is early. Like 9. When I fall asleep......
I
fall
asleep. We talk..... I am like WTF??? I asked you to not do this yet
you
do
it anyways. He says he was a bit upset because I felt cold, aloof to
him
on
the phone. Hey! I said I was exhausted and sleepy and had nothing to
say.
He
turns it around that he isn't expecting to much in wanting me to be
available to him. I said I am available..... Mon - Fri 9 - 5. (No,
just
kidding, I didn't say that) I told him his obsessiveness is
disturbing.....
.he didn't like me saying that one bit. He said he knows he is
obsessive
but
most the time it is a GOOD obsession. What the hell is a good
obsession
anyways?

I know what most will say....... say it again. What the heck. I think
I
am
getting some sort of kick out of this situation even though I know
the
outcome already.

T

Yeah... we like being desirable but only if it's by someone we
respect.

It's more than obsessiveness. He knew you did not want him to call.
It wasn't an emergency. He could not control himself and he is trying
to manipulate you into feeling like you're expecting too much from
him. You're not. He's out of control. Time to cut and run. There are
real men out there who aren't out of their minds.

'Kate

I think that is all quite obvious. On the upside, what better way to
teach
your daughter how to spot a whackjob from 50 yards away or less than
this?

I can't imagine why you have put up with this for as long as you have!

Lisa




Boredom?

I have mentioned some of what has happened so that she does know I feel
this
isn't normal. She makes jokes..... Did you break up with him yet?

T



So did you? lol

Are you at least getting presents or sumptin?

Lisa


He isn't the most generous man I have been with no. But I don't want to
teach my daughter that men are good for gifts! lol


t

"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

"Lisa" wrote in message
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So did you? lol

Are you at least getting presents or sumptin?

Lisa


He isn't the most generous man I have been with no. But I don't want to
teach my daughter that men are good for gifts! lol


t


Well, we're both joking with the above statements, but ok, for more giggles,
let me ask, are you really being patient with this guy? Another way to ask,
would you ever be so clingy and invasive as to call so late at night, or so
many times in a one hour period? My money says, no, you wouldn't. Then why
would you tolerate that from someone else?

Lisa

"Lisa" wrote in message
. ..

"Tiffany" wrote in message
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"Lisa" wrote in message
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snipped stuff.....



So did you? lol

Are you at least getting presents or sumptin?

Lisa


He isn't the most generous man I have been with no. But I don't want to
teach my daughter that men are good for gifts! lol


t


Well, we're both joking with the above statements, but ok, for more
giggles,
let me ask, are you really being patient with this guy? Another way to
ask,
would you ever be so clingy and invasive as to call so late at night, or
so
many times in a one hour period? My money says, no, you wouldn't. Then
why
would you tolerate that from someone else?

Lisa


No, I definitely wouldn't. There were like 2 times I called him late. Got no
answer, left it at that. I have a call once, leave a message and wait. No
reply? Call one more time. After that, I am done. That is my calling policy.

I guess I try to be tolerant of others..... I can't expect everyone to be
like me. So being a bit clingy is ok..... but I think he went over board.
Actually he went WAY over board a few to many times.

T