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On 19 Apr 2006 11:23:45 -0700, "Opinions"
wrote: There is usually something quirky about never-spanked girls. If I were going to pick a word, I would say, "Fragile" often describes them. LOL. I doubt it. Many of the women of strength and character I know have never been spanked. They are most certainly NOT fragile. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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One of the fastest ways to pave the road to failure is to try to impose
a scheme that runs counter to the beliefs of the people. Politically, it is call "illegitimacy." More common folks usually call it "tyranny." As with spanking and no-spank alternatives, that religion we call "science" seems to conveniently forget when things don't workout as they're supposed to. What's the old joke about doctors being able to "bury" their mistakes? Not everyone has the "license" to do so. Science is always a product of its time. In time, life moves on whether the science of the day was right or wrong. Outside of Rome, the debate over a geocentric or heliocentric universe didn't make a whole lot of difference in the way most people lived their lives. Even today, nobody much thinks about whether the earth goes around the sun or vice versa. Ask somebody a century from now what they made on their SAT or GRE, and you'll probably get a very strange look in response. The debate over spanking will be no different. It came. It went. Life moved on with people doing as they had always done. Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have "selective inattention." We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is "normal" and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Doan |
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On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, 0:- wrote:
Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." If only we'd let bank robbers and murderers to rob and kill just a little as they went about seeking to rob and murder on a large scale.... R R R R Your logic is, to say the least, Droanatian. Hihihi! Try using drugs instead. Your logic is...anti-spanking zealotS. ;-) One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have ?selective inattention.? We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is ?normal? and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Mmmm...and you consider yourself the wonderful product of carefully applied spanking? And you are a product of "never-spanke"??? Or are you just another self deluded survivor? Yup! Me and about a few BILLIONS others! I'd say by the quality of your lies you were yet another dismal failure of the spanking culture. Have you looked up the "Hutterites"? ;-) Why take the chance of producing more like you? Have you asked your mom what crap shot she took? ;-) AF |
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On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote:
On Wed, 19 Apr 2006 12:01:03 -0700, Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Absolutely. Positive parenting works, ime. And the proof is??? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have “selective inattention.” We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is “normal” and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Except that those of us who work with many kids have seen exactly what the researchers have seen. You only see what you wanted to see through layers and layers of selective glasses! Meanwhile, the world moves on. Doan |
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On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 11:23:45 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: There is usually something quirky about never-spanked girls. If I were going to pick a word, I would say, "Fragile" often describes them. LOL. I doubt it. Many of the women of strength and character I know have never been spanked. They are most certainly NOT fragile. Does this include Mother Theresa of Calcutta? Doan |
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That really is the flaw in the "scientific method" as applied to the
social sciences. From selection of a problem for study to summation of results, selective filtering too often colors the thinking. In the end, the claims made by science on how people should live their lives involve an appeal to authority. That authority is the god known as "science." Parents are told to not trust their own experience, but to believe the experts, those de facto priests purporting to speak for the god of "science." Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006 12:01:03 -0700, Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Absolutely. Positive parenting works, ime. And the proof is??? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have "selective inattention." We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is "normal" and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Except that those of us who work with many kids have seen exactly what the researchers have seen. You only see what you wanted to see through layers and layers of selective glasses! Meanwhile, the world moves on. Doan |
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Opinions wrote:
One of the fastest ways to pave the road to failure is to try to impose a scheme that runs counter to the beliefs of the people. Politically, it is call "illegitimacy." More common folks usually call it "tyranny." Excuse me from interrupting your grumbling ruminations, but one of the most common terms Tyrants use to describe those that rebel, is "illegitimate." As with spanking and no-spank alternatives, that religion we call "science" seems to conveniently forget when things don't workout as they're supposed to. Science and religion have little in common. If you look at the world, where science has been the more frequently chosen discipline for explaining and examining, and where religion has prevailed OVER science (third world countries come to mind) you will find prosperity on the one hand, and poverty, disease, short desperate lives, and misery. What to guess which is which? What's the old joke about doctors being able to "bury" their mistakes? Not everyone has the "license" to do so. It's not an old joke, just a saying. And it's a lie. Every patient who dies must have a report, often if unattended, a coroners report as to the cause of death. A hospitalized patient who dies triggers a committee that peer reviews the doctor's actions that attended that patient. And if they have unexplained or medically CAUSED deaths in too great a number certification standards can be broken. Know what happens to a hospital that loses it's certification? Science is always a product of its time. We can certainly hope so. In time, life moves on whether the science of the day was right or wrong. Did you not read Dorothy's explanation of what science is? There is NO end point where any reputable scientist says, "the is the definitive, ultimate answer to this question." It's rarely a question of being right or wrong but more often, 'this is what we know so far.' Outside of Rome, the debate over a geocentric or heliocentric universe didn't make a whole lot of difference in the way most people lived their lives. At the time (and we can't really be sure of that) but certainly for the future generations. Had we not made the discoveries related to the nature of the universe you and I would be sending smoke signals. Even today, nobody much thinks about whether the earth goes around the sun or vice versa. What makes you think science requires constant thinking validation by each of us to be effective and useful? Ask somebody a century from now what they made on their SAT or GRE, and you'll probably get a very strange look in response. I wonder who many centagenarians will be around to ask? 0:- Ask someone what they got last year though and you may be treated to a lot of conversation on the subject. The debate over spanking will be no different. It came. It went. Life moved on with people doing as they had always done. Yes, that's correct. The "debate over spanking" will go. And you see it going even now. The upsurge we see is the precursor to the change you are going to likely live just long enough to witness significantly. In fact, you have. How many nations had outlawed spanking when YOU were a child? How many public schools and districts had banned paddling of students when you were a child? If you take a count of each, and compare, you will be participating in the scientific method. What conclusion you draw will be then colored ONLY, if you are subjective in your conclusion, by YOU. Ask others, and you'll find that the difference is a powerful trend line toward more humane, and thankfully, successful strategies for parenting. It's sad to be left behind but when YOU went back to punishment and spanking with your children you gave up not only on them, but on yourself. Now you have cut yourself off from objective rational thinking. That's really sad. 0:- Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have "selective inattention." We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is "normal" and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Doan -- "Democracy is two wolves and a lamb voting on what to have for lunch. Liberty is a well armed lamb contesting the vote." - Benjamin Franklin |
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Opinions wrote:
That really is the flaw in the "scientific method" as applied to the social sciences. From selection of a problem for study to summation of results, selective filtering too often colors the thinking. You seem to miss the little habit of peer reviewing for publication. In the end, the claims made by science on how people should live their lives involve an appeal to authority. If reason is authority, then yes. That authority is the god known as "science." Or critical reasoning, take your pick. They are the same. Parents are told to not trust their own experience, We are all told that at times. Often with very good reasons. I have seen again and again people that knew better, each what they hoped were safe mushrooms, only to end up in the emergency room, and or dead. but to believe the experts, Want to go mushroom picking with me? Want someone other than scientists to provide the data for structural materials you live and work in? those de facto priests purporting to speak for the god of "science." How sad. And desperate you are. You are using a product of "science" to communicate. If you drive, the principles of science were used over and over to create that vehicle in concept and design. The same is true of office buildings, and the medications you are on. What would you use rather than science to create the same world you live in today...or would you be dead because you refused to rely on science? You folks are pitiful. 0:- Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006 12:01:03 -0700, Doan wrote: On Wed, 19 Apr 2006, toto wrote: On 19 Apr 2006 09:51:15 -0700, "Opinions" wrote: The question is: Is it worth it? The fact remains that, on a consistent basis, no-spanks cannot raise better children than everyone else. Worse, they know they can't. No-spank is a PREFERENCE, not a divine mandate to be imposed on mankind by quasi-religious extremists. While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking. Now, replace that with non-cp alternatives. Would you think the outcome would be different? Absolutely. Positive parenting works, ime. And the proof is??? Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught. "Power and Chapieski (1986) qualify their conclusion that physical punishment is an ineffective disciplinary strategy as follows, .It is important to note, however, that reliance on physical punishment, not physical punishment itself, was the critical variable. Preliminary analyses showed no significant differences between the occasional-punishment and no-punishment groups. (p.274)." By stigmatizing any use of spanking, professional consultants will discourage parents who rely on spanking from learning how to employ its conditional use instead. ie. that is to initially use spanking or another punishment in combination with reasoning primarily as a back-up for time-out or milder tactics, with spanking eventually phased out in favor of greater reliance on reasoning and negotiation." One reason why almost everyone overestimates the effectiveness of spanking is that we have "selective inattention." We simply do not remember when spanking fails, as it does most of the time, because it contradicts what we want to believe. Partly this is because our culture believes spanking is "normal" and partly because many of us were spanked as children. It is difficult for us as adults to relate our adult problems to childhood spanking or to condemn our parents. No. It's precisely because we have personally experienced it that we know the claims made by anti-spanking zealotS just aren't true in reality. Except that those of us who work with many kids have seen exactly what the researchers have seen. You only see what you wanted to see through layers and layers of selective glasses! Meanwhile, the world moves on. Doan -- "Democracy is two wolves and a lamb voting on what to have for lunch. Liberty is a well armed lamb contesting the vote." - Benjamin Franklin |
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This is a wonderful first cause of non-spank thinking.... Violence is
bad. Who says we want children to be less violent? We are at war in Iraq.. should we conduct a less violent war? When injustice is seen, should its response be less violent? This is a eunuch position. This is the voice of loud women, and the men who listen. Violence is part of who men are, and less of who women are. There is a time to be polite, and a time to be rude. That's why I've always liked Winston Churchill. Needed in war, discarded in peace. Thank goodness violent people are available to step up to the plate when it is their time. |
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