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: I don't know if Military schools accept children with problems as severe as : your post indicates. Hmmm, that's a really good point. Didn't think of that. : If you can find a program which would be appropriate, : it may be possible to get the school to pick up at least some of the bill, : since apparently his current program is not meeting his needs. Like I said we're on the last ditch effort here. If he doesn't make it out this time then he's probably going to be sent to a "day treatment" sort of place--IOW a mental hospital as an outpatient rather than living there all the time. I feel so ****ing sorry for the poor kid, but I don't know what else we can do for him. -- ColoradoSkiBum |
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On Thu, 2 Oct 2003 18:49:02 -0600, "ColoradoSkiBum"
wrote: We're already on our 4th school in just over 2 years. If you want all the details I'll be glad to post them here in a new thread, or see my post in alt.support.step-parents. -- ColoradoSkiBum I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like he has had so much emotional trauma that he can't cope. Have you thought about trying to homeschool? -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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: I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like he has had so much
: emotional trauma that he can't cope. : : Have you thought about trying to homeschool? He has, and it breaks my heart because he really is a neat kid. We've actually considered homeschooling, but we don't think that would be right for him. He *needs to learn* how to socialize with other kids. He needs to learn how to make friends outside of our immediate neighbors. He needs to learn how to function when we're not around to watch him and correct him. Otherwise what happens when he's out on his own? And he's **smart**--picks up on things very quickly--he just can't get past this emotional pile of crap in his way so it's holding him back. -- ColoradoSkiBum |
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"ColoradoSkiBum" wrote in message ... : I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like he has had so much : emotional trauma that he can't cope. : .... Just dropping in (work avoidence). Some of the stuff seems familiar, and yet very foreign. I'm an Army brat... I graduated from the the 10th school I had attended. So the change of schools was normal for me. But you have so much more going on. I recognize the telling of tall tales bit. My step-sister did that after being dragged from a multi-generational house to ours (her single mother lived in her much older brother's house with his grown kids). It was quite a shock to go from being the darling cute little girl in a house... to a "middle child". One of my son's friends would also tell tales while still part of a normal two-parent family. He seemed to like the attention... and it showed his imagination. Sometimes I think kids who do this should write down their stories. They have great imaginations. Personally... since I got a step-mother and tale-telling step-sister just six short months afte my mother's sudden death... I was a bit screwed up. I managed to throw my step-mother to the ground and break my step-sister's nose. I did not adjust well -- I was 11 years old. But what did HELP me was my step-mother finding a very good child-psychologist for me. I learned to understand my anger. I learned I was a worthwhile person. But it took a while. Most of 6th grade was wasted (homework, what is homework?). It was only until 7th grade that I learned to buckle down and be a decent person (though during that year my step-mother did accuse me of treating animals better than people). As of now, I am the ONLY child out of 4 kids (including my step-sister) who is on Marriage #1! You may need time.. and you may need to shop around for a good CHILD psychologist. Many many years ago I knew a woman who married a guy who a daughter from a previous marriage. His ex-wife was not good mother-material. Apparently she would pick their child up for the weekend visitation, andthen leave her at her parents house while she went partying. During the first couple years of my friend's marriage she spent many hours taking this little girl to a therapist to deal with abandonment. I think you need to find a good child psych (obviously not the ones you have been exposed too) --- that might be better than a military school (though I do see lots of ads for them in Sunset Magazine). |
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Banty wrote in message ...
In article , mbajema says... dragonlady wrote in message ... In article , (mbajema) wrote: "ColoradoSkiBum" wrote in message ... Why military school? What do you hope to get from one? : : : gee, maybe discipline, manners, courtesy, respect? Things that are : SORELY lacking in the public school system these days.... That, precisely. Do you have any idea where we might start our search? Why not start by looking in the mirror. The aforementioned discipline, manners, courtesy, and respect starts in the home, you fool. Mary That was certainly mannerly, courteous and respectful. . . meh Sorry, I call it as I see it. We are talking about him and his kid, not me. Mary Kinda blew away your own point about being mannerly and courteous though... I know, I know. I wrote in the heat of the moment, though, and I shouldn't have. I had just read a post of his over at alt.support.step-parents and was not overly impressed with his parenting skills. He really did seem like a fool to me, at the moment. Mary |
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I googled her (I think this is a female) and she claims to be a high-school
teacher, and it involved in swinging (swapping partners for sex). Something is seriously wrong there. I don't think you were harsh at all. Coloradoskibum only hears what he/she wants to hear. "mbajema" wrote in message om... Banty wrote in message ... In article , mbajema says... dragonlady wrote in message ... In article , (mbajema) wrote: "ColoradoSkiBum" wrote in message ... Why military school? What do you hope to get from one? : : : gee, maybe discipline, manners, courtesy, respect? Things that are : SORELY lacking in the public school system these days.... That, precisely. Do you have any idea where we might start our search? Why not start by looking in the mirror. The aforementioned discipline, manners, courtesy, and respect starts in the home, you fool. Mary That was certainly mannerly, courteous and respectful. . . meh Sorry, I call it as I see it. We are talking about him and his kid, not me. Mary Kinda blew away your own point about being mannerly and courteous though... I know, I know. I wrote in the heat of the moment, though, and I shouldn't have. I had just read a post of his over at alt.support.step-parents and was not overly impressed with his parenting skills. He really did seem like a fool to me, at the moment. Mary |
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I grew up in Audubon, and now live in Lansdale.
"Hillary Israeli" wrote in message ... In , namek wrote: *Valley Forge M.A. is local to me, and is considered one of the finest . I Where do you live? I'm relatively local to there, too. -- hillary israeli vmd http://www.hillary.net "uber vaccae in quattuor partes divisum est." not-so-newly minted veterinarian-at-large |
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On Thu, 2 Oct 2003 11:54:59 -0700, "Denise"
wrote: Its great that he can see that military school might help him, Tracy. IIRC he got in some fairly serious trouble, right? Yeah, that's an understatement! For the last 18 months, he's been a guest of the Juvenile Corrections system, but the silver lining is that he's in several programs that are targeted at his specific problems and he's really working hard. The change I've seen is incredible, so even though it's been hard, IMHO it's been worth it to go down this path. I wasn't a bad kid, really, but I do have ADHD and my daughter has Aspberger's (I find myself thinking that might be my actualy problem as I learn more). And Military schooling (AJROTC in high school) and the military (I joined the delayed enlistment program my junior year) have helped me more than I can put into words. The rigid scheduling was a huge benefit. And being in AJROTC definitly helped with the transition from high school to military life. This is excellent to know! DS was dx'd as ADHD and I highly suspect ODD, but I've also wondered about Asperger's. He also has anger issues. While it's been difficult having him gone, for him, it's been exactly what he needed. The structure has allowed him to get back on track with his schoolwork (he's back on honor roll) and I've seen him mature quite a bit. The schedule there is extremely rigid and he's come to understand that this is something that *helps* him keep himself in control and allows him to do his best at so many things. I think this is why military school is attractive to him -- and the Army later. I suspect that he might be a career military man, which I totally support. If it means that he's going to make something of himself and be happy, more power to him. Tracy ====================================== We child proofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in! ====================================== |
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On Thu, 2 Oct 2003 15:09:23 -0500, "Donna Metler"
wrote: I don't know what options you have as far as high schools in the area, but some participate in the JROTC program, and it provides many of the same experiences. JROTC cadets also have an advantage for ROTC scholarships and military appointments, and can get advanced placement credit for college ROTC courses. Right now, he's at one of the Juvenile Correctional Centers that doesn't have JROTC, which is a shame because he was quite interested in getting into that. He's applied for a transfer back to where he was before, which does have JROTC. If they let him transfer, I know he'll be first in line to sign up for JROTC. In most districts, if your local high school doesn't have a program and another in the city does, its considered a valid reason for a choice transfer. Unfortunately, around here, I'm fairly sure there are no schools with JROTC -- although there's a military-style day school right downtown. The thing is that he wants the structure all day long (and I guess all night long, too). The JROTC commandants I've known have generally been very good-retired military officers who have gotten additional training and experience in teaching children-and generally they're great role models. I think for some people JROTC, ROTC and the military are the perfect places. DS is one of those people because he thrives when his entire day is structured. I hate to admit it, but I used to not want him to go into the military because I thought he could make something "more" of himself, but now I see how enthusiastic he is and know that he will be able to do more in the military than out in the civilian world. Tracy ====================================== We child proofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in! ====================================== |
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