what to do when your kid hurts another

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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But there WAS a good reason, or what your son thinks of as a good reason -
you
said it yourself - your son really hates to drop crackers. He was
infuriated
because the other kid (not knowing the importance of crackers I guess)
made him
drop his. Perhaps you need to figure out what it is about crackers.

DD#2 used to complain bitterly that there was a little boy (name of Wayne
IIRC)
who would insisted on sitting next to her and who would throw her down on
the
playground. When I finally saw Wayne, I could not understand it because
Wayne
was WAY smaller than dd#2 (This was about 2nd or 3rd grade). She could
easily
have kept him from doing anything to her.

It sounds like your ds over-reacted because crackers were so important to
him,
and he probably felt that his little friend did it on purpose. And maybe
the
friend DID do it on purpose, not realizing the importance of crackers.
Size
isn't really relevant when someone is enraged.

Up to here, I do think you have a point. However, I do think size matters.
Kids may not think so, but they need to learn. I really don't agree with
fighting, but I understand that boys fight. However, there is a difference
between a fair fight and a lopsided match. Big kids don't need to beat up
little kids.


Most of the time when there's a disagreement, there are really two people
at
fault. The friend just got a little more than he bargained for.

I agree. I just don't agree with the kicking. There was no need for that.