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More on the nursing strike - day 6
Well, DD (14 months is still fighting the breast. I am offering, but she
just squirms and screams. She saw me expressing this a.m. and looked really keen, so I got her teddy and said 'teddy likes milkies', and then tried DD, but no. She seems better in herself, the sore throat looks less red, and she slept a lot better last night. She is hardly eating anything, which wasn't a big deal when she was taking milk, but now she is hardly drinking any water either, and has not enough wet nappies during the day. I have tried nursing her while asleep, but failed (she was asleep on me - normally she sleeps in her cot face down, so that makes it tricky!). Today she might have to have a sleep in her carseat, so if she does, I'll try there. And I'm going to have to wake her up soon, so I'll try and do it gently, and see if I can try nursing before she wakes fully. But the supply is dwindling - I can get about 5 oz total for the day, and I am beginning to think that perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. Cathy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
"Cathy" wrote in message ... Well, DD (14 months is still fighting the breast. I am offering, but she just squirms and screams. She saw me expressing this a.m. and looked really keen, so I got her teddy and said 'teddy likes milkies', and then tried DD, but no. She seems better in herself, the sore throat looks less red, and she slept a lot better last night. She is hardly eating anything, which wasn't a big deal when she was taking milk, but now she is hardly drinking any water either, and has not enough wet nappies during the day. I have tried nursing her while asleep, but failed (she was asleep on me - normally she sleeps in her cot face down, so that makes it tricky!). Today she might have to have a sleep in her carseat, so if she does, I'll try there. And I'm going to have to wake her up soon, so I'll try and do it gently, and see if I can try nursing before she wakes fully. But the supply is dwindling - I can get about 5 oz total for the day, and I am beginning to think that perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. Cathy I'm sorry that she hasn't taken any more interest, but don't give up yet (unless you choose to!). You are pumping to keep your supply going, and she just might decide nurse again. As for me, DS just isn't interested. I've decided to let it be - he's self-weaned. I'm kinda disappointed that I didn't get any warning or any say in the matter - it's not how I imagined our nursing relationship would end. Oh well....... Good luck, Jacqui |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
"Cathy" wrote in message ... Well, DD (14 months is still fighting the breast. I am offering, but she just squirms and screams. She saw me expressing this a.m. and looked really keen, so I got her teddy and said 'teddy likes milkies', and then tried DD, but no. She seems better in herself, the sore throat looks less red, and she slept a lot better last night. She is hardly eating anything, which wasn't a big deal when she was taking milk, but now she is hardly drinking any water either, and has not enough wet nappies during the day. I have tried nursing her while asleep, but failed (she was asleep on me - normally she sleeps in her cot face down, so that makes it tricky!). Today she might have to have a sleep in her carseat, so if she does, I'll try there. And I'm going to have to wake her up soon, so I'll try and do it gently, and see if I can try nursing before she wakes fully. But the supply is dwindling - I can get about 5 oz total for the day, and I am beginning to think that perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. Cathy Hopefully it's just a blip and she'll get back into it. If she does stop don't worry about the cuddles, you'll still get heaps! I know it's a major change but you soon get used to it :-) Good Luck Judy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
"Cathy" wrote in message
... perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. When Julie weaned herself (also at 14 months BTW) she took to having me read to her as a replacement for nursing. It was just as cuddly, though it was definitely a bigger adjustment for me than for her. The end came as a sad surprise to me as well, though looking back it shouldn't have been so unexpected. She had been cutting back gradually and was only nursing first thing in the morning, for a shorter and shorter time. One morning I got us set up in the rocking chair as usual, but instead of latching on she just looked at my nipple quizzically. I said to her, "Go on, nurse, if you want to." then took a deep breath and said, "but if you don't want to, you don't have to." She thought for a second, put her mouth to me but didn't latch, then pulled away and I knew right then that was the end. Then I read her a book while struggling to hold back tears. I can't remember if it was her idea or mine to read the book, but from that point on she asked me to read to her whenever she wanted the emotional comfort that nursing had once provided. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 3, and Jaden, 6 months |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
"Cheryl S." wrote in message ... "Cathy" wrote in message ... perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. When Julie weaned herself (also at 14 months BTW) she took to having me read to her as a replacement for nursing. It was just as cuddly, though it was definitely a bigger adjustment for me than for her. The end came as a sad surprise to me as well, though looking back it shouldn't have been so unexpected. She had been cutting back gradually and was only nursing first thing in the morning, for a shorter and shorter time. One morning I got us set up in the rocking chair as usual, but instead of latching on she just looked at my nipple quizzically. I said to her, "Go on, nurse, if you want to." then took a deep breath and said, "but if you don't want to, you don't have to." She thought for a second, put her mouth to me but didn't latch, then pulled away and I knew right then that was the end. Then I read her a book while struggling to hold back tears. I can't remember if it was her idea or mine to read the book, but from that point on she asked me to read to her whenever she wanted the emotional comfort that nursing had once provided. now you've made me cry reading that. it sounds so beautiful and sad at the same time. i will miss breastfeeding so much when DS decides to stop. i know it is what the bub wants, but it sounds so emotionally wrenching when it comes before the mum is ready. at present DS is 3-4 times a day, so i hope it will be a little longer. as for the OP, i hope she falls in love with the boob again when she is feeling a little better. fingers crossed. -- elizabeth (in australia) DS - born 20-aug-02 |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
Jacqui C wrote:
"Cathy" wrote in message ... Well, DD (14 months is still fighting the breast. I am offering, but she just squirms and screams. She saw me expressing this a.m. and looked really keen, so I got her teddy and said 'teddy likes milkies', and then tried DD, but no. She seems better in herself, the sore throat looks less red, and she slept a lot better last night I'm sorry that she hasn't taken any more interest, but don't give up yet (unless you choose to!). You are pumping to keep your supply going, and she just might decide nurse again. As for me, DS just isn't interested. I've decided to let it be - he's self-weaned. I'm kinda disappointed that I didn't get any warning or any say in the matter - it's not how I imagined our nursing relationship would end. Oh well....... Good luck, Jacqui That's how I feel - it's not how I imagined it would end. I would say now that DD is about 95% well again - still got the squits from the darned antibiotics, but that is about it. She looks as though she wants to nurse - she saw me expressing today, and got really up tight and looked as though she wanted milk, but wouldn't take the breast. I think I'll keep going till her eye tooth is through, as that won't be helping, and the if she still decides she doesn't want it, then that's o.k. She's had a pretty good start, and this is her first illness other than minor colds. Cathy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
Kereru wrote:
Hopefully it's just a blip and she'll get back into it. If she does stop don't worry about the cuddles, you'll still get heaps! I know it's a major change but you soon get used to it :-) Good Luck Judy Thanks, but I am suspecting it is a terminal blip. I am getting lots of cuddles, but they are mainly at 2 in the morning, and as I think I'm getting her bug, I could do without them! I think back to 7 months ago, when I had to consult an LC, and I was all set to give up then, as nursing was so painful. So DD got a 'bonus' 7 months. Cathy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
Cheryl S. wrote:
"Cathy" wrote in message ... perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. When Julie weaned herself (also at 14 months BTW) she took to having me read to her as a replacement for nursing. It was just as cuddly, though it was definitely a bigger adjustment for me than for her. The end came as a sad surprise to me as well, though looking back it shouldn't have been so unexpected. She had been cutting back gradually and was only nursing first thing in the morning, for a shorter and shorter time. One morning I got us set up in the rocking chair as usual, but instead of latching on she just looked at my nipple quizzically. I said to her, "Go on, nurse, if you want to." then took a deep breath and said, "but if you don't want to, you don't have to." She thought for a second, put her mouth to me but didn't latch, then pulled away and I knew right then that was the end. Then I read her a book while struggling to hold back tears. I can't remember if it was her idea or mine to read the book, but from that point on she asked me to read to her whenever she wanted the emotional comfort that nursing had once provided. That is so neat, but sad. DD is very in to books, and will often come and plonk down in my lap to read a book. I'll just have to look at that as cuddle time instead. Cathy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
elizabeth emerald wrote:
"Cheryl S." wrote in message ... "Cathy" wrote in message ... perhaps I should just leave it, and say that she weaned herself. I just can't think of what else to do - she has always been very cuddly, but no longer seems to like (or need) the closeness. When Julie weaned herself (also at 14 months BTW) she took to having me read to her as a replacement for nursing. It was just as cuddly, though it was definitely a bigger adjustment for me than for her. The end came as a sad surprise to me as well, though looking back it shouldn't have been so unexpected. She had been cutting back gradually and was only nursing first thing in the morning, for a shorter and shorter time. One morning I got us set up in the rocking chair as usual, but instead of latching on she just looked at my nipple quizzically. I said to her, "Go on, nurse, if you want to." then took a deep breath and said, "but if you don't want to, you don't have to." She thought for a second, put her mouth to me but didn't latch, then pulled away and I knew right then that was the end. Then I read her a book while struggling to hold back tears. I can't remember if it was her idea or mine to read the book, but from that point on she asked me to read to her whenever she wanted the emotional comfort that nursing had once provided. now you've made me cry reading that. it sounds so beautiful and sad at the same time. i will miss breastfeeding so much when DS decides to stop. i know it is what the bub wants, but it sounds so emotionally wrenching when it comes before the mum is ready. at present DS is 3-4 times a day, so i hope it will be a little longer. as for the OP, i hope she falls in love with the boob again when she is feeling a little better. fingers crossed. Thanks (as the OP), but I'm not holding my breath. My biggest concern now is how to give her the fluid that she was previously getting from milk - yesterday was worrying, as she has about 3 wet nappies all day. Oh well - I'll just have to assume that if she is thirsty, she'll drink, and if she isn't, she won't. I hope you are emotionally ready for it Elizabeth when your DS decides enough is enough. Thanks, Cathy |
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More on the nursing strike - day 6
"elizabeth emerald" wrote in message
... now you've made me cry reading that. it sounds so beautiful and sad at the same time. It almost made me cry writing it too. i will miss breastfeeding so much when DS decides to stop. i know it is what the bub wants, but it sounds so emotionally wrenching when it comes before the mum is ready. at present DS is 3-4 times a day, so i hope it will be a little longer. Yes but as people pointed out to me at the time, better that she stop before I was ready, than for me to stop before she's ready. It is an emotional transition to be sure, though now, I am glad I let her do what she wanted rather than try to get her to continue. I had originally thought she would nurse at least to age 2, but by the time she actually turned 2, I really couldn't imagine still nursing at that point and was glad she had quit on her own terms. At 3-4 times a day I would imagine your DS is going to continue for at least a few more months yet, if not years! Whenever weaning comes, it'll be OK. The closeness is still there, just expressed in new ways that you will have to find for yourselves. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 3, and Jaden, 6 months |
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