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Bad mommy or cultural difference?
Banty wrote:
OK, shoot me, but I've noticed that American moms just plain won't, just won't won't won't, for some unexaplainable reason - - - *pick the toddler up and just plain hold them so they don't get into trouble*. American moms call, European moms go and get the kid. (I also note northern Europeans are quieter than Americans about public behavior, maybe that's a factor.) You too! Why chase? Why *explain*? What's *with* all that stuff? Now, maybe yours would struggle about it, but, if she were used to this, likely she wouldn't. I think, as with just about everything, it really depends on the child. My first two were very un-touchy kids. They *really* didn't want to be held (if I got a cuddle, it was time to start wondering why the kid wasn't feeling good). They did not want to be held for any length of time. Still, in a pinch, if I needed to restrain them or keep them out of something I could pick them up for at least some period of time. With DD, on the other hand, if my goal is to limit disturbing others, grabbing her is probably the last thing on the list to do (immediately prior to hauling her out of the place on the double). Not only would she struggle, but she'd be screaming at the top of her lungs while doing so. It's just the way she is, and always has been. Even before she could walk, if she *had* to be carried, she wanted to be carried with the least restriction and contact possible. And kids like her can do the same "boneless" thing that cats can do when they don't want to be held. It's like trying to hold onto a greased pig. Now, that does make her a much more challenging child to deal with in a public space. Personally, I avoid taking her to places like Best Buy where she's going to be bored and overstimulated (and likely to race around as a result). If I can't avoid it, I'll try for a cart or stroller (with a seatbelt, or better yet, a five-point harness) and keep the trip short. If I have to take her somewhere that she needs to be restrained for a goodly amount of time, then I need a stroller/cart/whatever with a harness *and* a fairly steady stream of laptop amusements or I might just as well bang my head against a brick wall for all the luck I'll have keeping her quiet and out of trouble. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Bad mommy or cultural difference?
In article , Ericka Kammerer
says... Banty wrote: OK, shoot me, but I've noticed that American moms just plain won't, just won't won't won't, for some unexaplainable reason - - - *pick the toddler up and just plain hold them so they don't get into trouble*. American moms call, European moms go and get the kid. (I also note northern Europeans are quieter than Americans about public behavior, maybe that's a factor.) You too! Why chase? Why *explain*? What's *with* all that stuff? Now, maybe yours would struggle about it, but, if she were used to this, likely she wouldn't. I think, as with just about everything, it really depends on the child. My first two were very un-touchy kids. They *really* didn't want to be held (if I got a cuddle, it was time to start wondering why the kid wasn't feeling good). They did not want to be held for any length of time. Still, in a pinch, if I needed to restrain them or keep them out of something I could pick them up for at least some period of time. Well, sure it depends. But I *have* noticed a reticence to just go and pick up the kid. In the case of your daughter, you have the option of taking her *somewhere else*. Or, like with my son (who also hated to held in any constraining way, although he liked it OK on my hip facing out and would sleep over my shoulder), put them in a stroller. The parent knows the kid, the parent devises strategies accordingly. Possibly, the more naturally quiet Swiss kids were the ones sitting, and more rambunctious Swiss kids were being held or in strollers I mean, I truly don't think the Swiss (or the Japanese, etc. etc.) are lacking in tempramental variety in their kids. It's that, just like with car seats, certain strategies are set in place firmly and early. With DD, on the other hand, if my goal is to limit disturbing others, grabbing her is probably the last thing on the list to do (immediately prior to hauling her out of the place on the double). Not only would she struggle, but she'd be screaming at the top of her lungs while doing so. It's just the way she is, and always has been. Even before she could walk, if she *had* to be carried, she wanted to be carried with the least restriction and contact possible. And kids like her can do the same "boneless" thing that cats can do when they don't want to be held. It's like trying to hold onto a greased pig. Then, you'd be pre-strollerified and avoid that whole scenario, no? Now, that does make her a much more challenging child to deal with in a public space. Personally, I avoid taking her to places like Best Buy where she's going to be bored and overstimulated (and likely to race around as a result). Heck - *I'm* overstimulated at Best Buy I hate that place. If I can't avoid it, I'll try for a cart or stroller (with a seatbelt, or better yet, a five-point harness) and keep the trip short. If I have to take her somewhere that she needs to be restrained for a goodly amount of time, then I need a stroller/cart/whatever with a harness *and* a fairly steady stream of laptop amusements or I might just as well bang my head against a brick wall for all the luck I'll have keeping her quiet and out of trouble. But you *do* do those things. You don't yell "no no", where no one else seems to be doing so (when in Rome...) and go around chasing, explaining, by golly. My neighbor with three boys would call out to her boy to come when I was visiting on the porch; he'd ignore her, then she'd look at me with this look and hand gesture "see what I have to deal with??". One time I actually did tell her "well, just go GET HIM" Banty |
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Banty wrote:
Possibly, the more naturally quiet Swiss kids were the ones sitting, and more rambunctious Swiss kids were being held or in strollers I mean, I truly don't think the Swiss (or the Japanese, etc. etc.) are lacking in tempramental variety in their kids. It's that, just like with car seats, certain strategies are set in place firmly and early. Actually, I think there is some evidence that there are temperamental/personality traits that do vary somewhat with race/culture/etc. Obviously, those are probably things like sex differences, where the distributions overlap, but apparently there are differences. They may not be genetic (may be due to the environment in utero), but seem to be observable from birth. Heck - *I'm* overstimulated at Best Buy I hate that place. Well, yeah, me too. We avoid it like the plague. My neighbor with three boys would call out to her boy to come when I was visiting on the porch; he'd ignore her, then she'd look at me with this look and hand gesture "see what I have to deal with??". One time I actually did tell her "well, just go GET HIM" I do agree that there are folks who seem bewildered that their kids don't arrive under voice control. On the other hand, it doesn't sound to me like the OP was expecting her child to be under voice control and throwing up her hands when that didn't work. I think she was just trying various strategies to figure out what *would* work. IIRC, she *did* start by picking the child up, but the child wouldn't stay in her arms, leaving her trying to manage the child on the loose or making a scene by holding onto her. I'd have been in a similar situation with my DD at 18 months if I didn't plan *really* well in advance and bring along not only a stroller or some other restraint device, but also toys/food/etc. to keep the child distracted while in the stroller. And even with that preparation, I'd only have slightly better than even odds of not having to take her out of the store (hence the avoidance as the first order strategy ;-) ). And if she got ornery in the store, I really would have to consider whether it'd be more irritating if I spent some moments trying to advise/distract/redirect or if I just grabbed and ran, with DD likely kicking and screaming (which can be rather spectacular). I don't know that the onlookers would have been all that much happier with the latter strategy, depending on how prolonged option 1 was. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Bad mommy or cultural difference?
In article , Ericka Kammerer
says... Banty wrote: Possibly, the more naturally quiet Swiss kids were the ones sitting, and more rambunctious Swiss kids were being held or in strollers I mean, I truly don't think the Swiss (or the Japanese, etc. etc.) are lacking in tempramental variety in their kids. It's that, just like with car seats, certain strategies are set in place firmly and early. Actually, I think there is some evidence that there are temperamental/personality traits that do vary somewhat with race/culture/etc. Obviously, those are probably things like sex differences, where the distributions overlap, but apparently there are differences. They may not be genetic (may be due to the environment in utero), but seem to be observable from birth. The *Swiss*? Would be different diet-wise from Americans how? Should we load up on cheese and chocolate?? I'm skeptical, honestly. Heck - *I'm* overstimulated at Best Buy I hate that place. Well, yeah, me too. We avoid it like the plague. My neighbor with three boys would call out to her boy to come when I was visiting on the porch; he'd ignore her, then she'd look at me with this look and hand gesture "see what I have to deal with??". One time I actually did tell her "well, just go GET HIM" I do agree that there are folks who seem bewildered that their kids don't arrive under voice control. On the other hand, it doesn't sound to me like the OP was expecting her child to be under voice control and throwing up her hands when that didn't work. I think she was just trying various strategies to figure out what *would* work. Nope. Just wouldn't go and *get* the kid. I've seen it elsewhere, too, like the OP. IIRC, she *did* start by picking the child up, but the child wouldn't stay in her arms, leaving her trying to manage the child on the loose or making a scene by holding onto her. I'd have been in a similar situation with my DD at 18 months if I didn't plan *really* well in advance and bring along not only a stroller or some other restraint device, but also toys/food/etc. to keep the child distracted while in the stroller. And even with that preparation, I'd only have slightly better than even odds of not having to take her out of the store (hence the avoidance as the first order strategy ;-) ). And if she got ornery in the store, I really would have to consider whether it'd be more irritating if I spent some moments trying to advise/distract/redirect or if I just grabbed and ran, with DD likely kicking and screaming (which can be rather spectacular). I don't know that the onlookers would have been all that much happier with the latter strategy, depending on how prolonged option 1 was. I think if it were a particularly intractible situation, you would choose a different venue. Right? Banty |
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Bad mommy or cultural difference?
On Jan 6, 10:45 am, Pologirl wrote:
Cjra wrote: yelling in my American accent "NO!" over and over again Sorry, I would try to ignore you, but I might glare at you too. Yelling "NO!" over and over not only is annoying for everyone else in hearing range, but also teaches the child that "NO! means "You are making me crazy, you have my number, go ahead, do it some more! Push my buttons! Be a brat!" It is at *best* nagging. I would hold the child and if that did not suffice I would take the child outside, perhaps even to the car (if we came in one) and buckle the child into the child's car seat. I'd like to think that all of us, having had bad days with small kids, would opt to see if we could help, instead of glaring. The closest I come to a religion is a karmic belief that if I can help someone when they're having a bad time, they can in turn help someone else in need, who might be a friend of mine. On the other hand, I let my children touch and examine items on display in stores, that are intended to be touched and examined. They are allowed to touch in a non-destructive manner. So no pulling knobs off, unless it is something like a kitchen range where the knobs are supposed to come off for cleaning or safety. No finger prints on TV and computer screens, no fingers stuck inside anywhere. But they can push buttons and turn dials to their hearts' content. Both my children are very high energy but they also respect the word "no". Ditto re my animals. Many dog owners have discipline problems along the same lines, endlessly nagging their dogs to no good effect. My dogs are well trained, although my expectations for my dogs differs from my expectations for my daughters. In a theoretical world where one of my dogs wanted to express independence, or ask why, I wouldn't tolerate it -- the dog doesn't question, as the whole 'I'm the owner, you're the dog' delineation will never change, and imo shouldn't ever blur. My kids respect *me*, but the blanket respect of 'no' is not a constant (the DDs are 5 and 8), which may be a cultural difference (contrasted with our relatives in Germany). My kids know I'm disinclined to change my mind on a whim, but am open to their input (and in the case of DD1, she often has the winning provocative question of the day). It isn't a Swiss vs American thing, it is a more vs less experienced parent thing. I'm not entirely convinced -- I believe that some cultural expectations really do trickle down to immediate family dynamics and group expectations of 'appropriate' children's behavior (and attire, and interests). And my experience with rescued dogs makes me believe that the variability between children is also apparent in the animal world. Caledonia |
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Bad mommy or cultural difference?
Banty wrote:
In article , Ericka Kammerer says... Banty wrote: Possibly, the more naturally quiet Swiss kids were the ones sitting, and more rambunctious Swiss kids were being held or in strollers I mean, I truly don't think the Swiss (or the Japanese, etc. etc.) are lacking in tempramental variety in their kids. It's that, just like with car seats, certain strategies are set in place firmly and early. Actually, I think there is some evidence that there are temperamental/personality traits that do vary somewhat with race/culture/etc. Obviously, those are probably things like sex differences, where the distributions overlap, but apparently there are differences. They may not be genetic (may be due to the environment in utero), but seem to be observable from birth. The *Swiss*? Would be different diet-wise from Americans how? Should we load up on cheese and chocolate?? I'm skeptical, honestly. I don't think diet is the likely culprit. There are many other things that contribute to the environment in utero, including mom's emotional reactions and external stimuli (sounds, etc.). Heck - *I'm* overstimulated at Best Buy I hate that place. Well, yeah, me too. We avoid it like the plague. My neighbor with three boys would call out to her boy to come when I was visiting on the porch; he'd ignore her, then she'd look at me with this look and hand gesture "see what I have to deal with??". One time I actually did tell her "well, just go GET HIM" I do agree that there are folks who seem bewildered that their kids don't arrive under voice control. On the other hand, it doesn't sound to me like the OP was expecting her child to be under voice control and throwing up her hands when that didn't work. I think she was just trying various strategies to figure out what *would* work. Nope. Just wouldn't go and *get* the kid. I've seen it elsewhere, too, like the OP. Wasn't commenting on your neighbor--was commenting on the OP in this thread, who was clearly up and moving and clearly said that she had tried to carry the child, who wouldn't stand for it. IIRC, she *did* start by picking the child up, but the child wouldn't stay in her arms, leaving her trying to manage the child on the loose or making a scene by holding onto her. I'd have been in a similar situation with my DD at 18 months if I didn't plan *really* well in advance and bring along not only a stroller or some other restraint device, but also toys/food/etc. to keep the child distracted while in the stroller. And even with that preparation, I'd only have slightly better than even odds of not having to take her out of the store (hence the avoidance as the first order strategy ;-) ). And if she got ornery in the store, I really would have to consider whether it'd be more irritating if I spent some moments trying to advise/distract/redirect or if I just grabbed and ran, with DD likely kicking and screaming (which can be rather spectacular). I don't know that the onlookers would have been all that much happier with the latter strategy, depending on how prolonged option 1 was. I think if it were a particularly intractible situation, you would choose a different venue. Right? Well, life doesn't always afford all these choices. If I had to go, I'd prepare the best I could and go. If I could avoid, I'd avoid. Sometimes things blow up despite your best efforts, and then you're between a rock and a hard place and you have to choose between the quick and very noisy exit or the slower and less noisy attempt to distract/redirect. When you've got a difficult kid to deal with, you don't always have predictable outcomes, and you can't sit at home and never venture into public until you can guarantee that there will never be an outburst despite your best preparations. You have to make the best judgment calls you can, and then handle whatever comes up as best you can. I just don't think there's any easy, pat answer that creates a guarantee that you will never inconvenience anyone else. And again IIRC, the OP was on vacation and not even on her home turf (so preparation opportunities may have been limited) and her child is very young (so they may just be learning about some of these little personality traits, if they are in fact personality traits and not the result of jet lag or an unfamiliar environment or what have you). The world ain't perfect. We all have an obligation to try to minimize negative impacts on other people (and sitting on your butt calling out to your child and giving up when that doesn't work clearly doesn't constitute a serious effort in that direction), but as far as I can tell, that's a far cry from the OP's situation, where mom was trying hard and simply may have made a small error in timing the hasty exit. After all, OP tried holding (didn't work), tried hands on redirecting/distracting/advising (didn't work), and then moved on to removal. Seems reasonable, with the only question being whether the process moved along quickly enough or whether mom could have predicted the situation in advance and laid in some preventive measures. All in all, not too shabby a response for a first time parent of a very young child, IMO. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"cjra" wrote in message ... On Jan 7, 9:48 am, "Stephanie" wrote: "cjra" wrote in message ... On Jan 6, 2:48 pm, Banty wrote: In article , Ericka Kammerer says... Banty wrote: Possibly, the more naturally quiet Swiss kids were the ones sitting, and more rambunctious Swiss kids were being held or in strollers I mean, I truly don't think the Swiss (or the Japanese, etc. etc.) are lacking in tempramental variety in their kids. It's that, just like with car seats, certain strategies are set in place firmly and early. Actually, I think there is some evidence that there are temperamental/personality traits that do vary somewhat with race/culture/etc. Obviously, those are probably things like sex differences, where the distributions overlap, but apparently there are differences. They may not be genetic (may be due to the environment in utero), but seem to be observable from birth. The *Swiss*? Would be different diet-wise from Americans how? Should we load up on cheese and chocolate?? I'm skeptical, honestly. Heck - *I'm* overstimulated at Best Buy I hate that place. Well, yeah, me too. We avoid it like the plague. My neighbor with three boys would call out to her boy to come when I was visiting on the porch; he'd ignore her, then she'd look at me with this look and hand gesture "see what I have to deal with??". One time I actually did tell her "well, just go GET HIM" I do agree that there are folks who seem bewildered that their kids don't arrive under voice control. On the other hand, it doesn't sound to me like the OP was expecting her child to be under voice control and throwing up her hands when that didn't work. I think she was just trying various strategies to figure out what *would* work. Nope. Just wouldn't go and *get* the kid. I've seen it elsewhere, too, like the OP. Actually, as I stated I *did* go and get the kid, held her long enough to calm her, but she was in her "I need to move and can't be confined" stage. I didn't take her outside immediately - as I would have done at home - because it was so cold outside. If you have to leave the store because she feels the need to move at any given moment, how do you get the shopping done? I actually know a set of parents who "can't" go shopping with their kids. They *always* go separately to the store. Until recently she's been really easy to shop with, except in places like these. We are usually only in such places because DH wants to be, so I leave him to do the shopping and DD and I go outside. The grocery store has recently become problematic though, because she wants to move. In CH it was easier because the carts are much smaller, and she could walk pushing the cart and was happy (except the one time i put her *in* the cart and she managed to opent he yoghurt and spill it everywhere...fortunately DH was with me that time and could speak to the staff as a local). Now we're back in TX, where the carts are big, she can't push them (and it's too crowded), but she's fighting sitting in them. I am entertaining her the whole time (I alsogive her things to entertain her, but that doesn't always last). It's exhausting..... What I started doing a little before age 2 was to give my DD a shopping list of a few items (pictures are available online if your kid isn't a ridiculously early reader like mine is) of a half dozen or so things to look for, usually divided so they're spaced out (tomatoes, bread, milk, cheerios, cheese....), and she'd stay pretty occupied looking for these from the cart, and be excited when she found one. Now, at 3, what I often do is give her her own list and DH goes with her to find those items and bring them back to me (one at a time), and meanwhile I can get the full week's shopping done while she's "shopping". Except for the occasional bag of "Allipops" or cookies which make it into the cart (with DH's active collaboration), it works quite well. When she's alone with me, she still does the list thing and walks with me, but has to stay in the aisle that I'm in when she's shopping. She's not big for her age, but she's been very clear that shopping carts pinch her legs and that she doesn't like them. I don't shop at peak times or if she's in a bad mood if I can at all avoid it-I'm more likely to ask DH to pick up takeout on the way home than try to do a "few ingredients to make dinner" trip with a tired 3 yr old who refused to take a nap but really needed one. However, DD is a pretty calm child by nature, and really loves helping, so I don't know that it would work so well for other toddlers. |
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What I started doing a little before age 2 was to give my DD a shopping list of a few items (pictures are available online if your kid isn't a ridiculously early reader like mine is) of a half dozen or so things to look for, usually divided so they're spaced out (tomatoes, bread, milk, cheerios, cheese....), and she'd stay pretty occupied looking for these from the cart, and be excited when she found one. Now, at 3, what I often do is give her her own list and DH goes with her to find those items and bring them back to me (one at a time), and meanwhile I can get the full week's shopping done while she's "shopping". Except for the occasional bag of "Allipops" or cookies which make it into the cart (with DH's active collaboration), it works quite well. When she's alone with me, she still does the list thing and walks with me, but has to stay in the aisle that I'm in when she's shopping. She's not big for her age, but she's been very clear that shopping carts pinch her legs and that she doesn't like them. I don't shop at peak times or if she's in a bad mood if I can at all avoid it-I'm more likely to ask DH to pick up takeout on the way home than try to do a "few ingredients to make dinner" trip with a tired 3 yr old who refused to take a nap but really needed one. However, DD is a pretty calm child by nature, and really loves helping, so I don't know that it would work so well for other toddlers. Hmmm, I like the idea of a list, but although I don't think DD is slow developmentally, I'm having a hard time imagining her understanding this much. I'm not sure she knows what a tomato is yet, for example. We talk about it at the store "Where's the tomato? There it is!" but she doesn't seem to have the cognitive skill to really get that yet. Maybe she's a lot more behind than I thought. At first, it was more like "I spy", where I'd pick things she knew, and put them on the list in the order that I knew we'd go, so when we were in produce, she'd look for bananas or whatever, and pretty soon she could tell me where we had to go to find specific things. DD's always had a really good spacial memory (she loves puzzles and maps so long as her limited fine motor skills don't frustrate her too much), so this was really fun for her, and it kept her busy. The best sections for this are the ones where things weren't in cans or boxes, because it was easier to tell those apart, although she picked out the Cheerios box pretty early. DD is an early reader and got into naming things early as well, so maybe she's just really advanced in this area, but from what I've seen toddlers tend to get into play food around age 2, and if they can recognize a play banana or a play carton of milk, I'd think they'd be able to recognize the real thing and enjoy looking for it. |
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Banty wrote:
In article , Ericka Kammerer says... Banty wrote: OK, shoot me, but I've noticed that American moms just plain won't, just won't won't won't, for some unexaplainable reason - - - *pick the toddler up and just plain hold them so they don't get into trouble*. American moms call, European moms go and get the kid. (I also note northern Europeans are quieter than Americans about public behavior, maybe that's a factor.) You too! Why chase? Why *explain*? What's *with* all that stuff? But cjra already said that she tried holding her daughter and her daughter wouldn't stand for that. That seems to leave chasing as an option. BTW, the reason for explaining is because it seems to be a good *long-term* strategy in teaching children how to behave. Of course it's not going to work in solving the immediate problem, but, apparently, there is evidence that children whose parents' discipline strategy included explanations of why they couldn't do such-and-such (along with other strategies such as reasoning and redirection) develop more of an internalised moral compass - i.e., instead of learning that they shouldn't do something because they'll be punished if they do, they learn that they shouldn't do something because it hurts others/might damage property/whatever the reasons are why it's wrong. And they become more likely to stick to these rules of behaviour even when they don't think they're being watched. (I should add, as a disclaimer, that I have not read the original studies but only books discussing them.) [...] Then, you'd be pre-strollerified and avoid that whole scenario, no? Possibly. Or possibly she might have a child like my son, who at that age could get out of his five-point safety harness almost as quickly as I could do it up, climb out of the pushchair in another couple of minutes, and be off. Back to the chasing. ;-) (Besides, the OP might not have had a stroller available, since she was away from home.) All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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In article , Ericka Kammerer
says... Banty wrote: Well, life doesn't always afford all these choices. If I had to go, I'd prepare the best I could and go. If I could avoid, I'd avoid. Sometimes things blow up despite your best efforts, and then you're between a rock and a hard place and you have to choose between the quick and very noisy exit or the slower and less noisy attempt to distract/redirect. When you've got a difficult kid to deal with, you don't always have predictable outcomes, and you can't sit at home and never venture into public until you can guarantee that there will never be an outburst despite your best preparations. You have to make the best judgment calls you can, and then handle whatever comes up as best you can. I just don't think there's any easy, pat answer that creates a guarantee that you will never inconvenience anyone else. And again IIRC, the OP was on vacation and not even on her home turf (so preparation opportunities may have been limited) and her child is very young (so they may just be learning about some of these little personality traits, if they are in fact personality traits and not the result of jet lag or an unfamiliar environment or what have you). The world ain't perfect. We all have an obligation to try to minimize negative impacts on other people (and sitting on your butt calling out to your child and giving up when that doesn't work clearly doesn't constitute a serious effort in that direction), but as far as I can tell, that's a far cry from the OP's situation, where mom was trying hard and simply may have made a small error in timing the hasty exit. After all, OP tried holding (didn't work), tried hands on redirecting/distracting/advising (didn't work), and then moved on to removal. Seems reasonable, with the only question being whether the process moved along quickly enough or whether mom could have predicted the situation in advance and laid in some preventive measures. All in all, not too shabby a response for a first time parent of a very young child, IMO. Yes yes yes sure sure sure. That's what everyone says and fits in with expectations around here. And, yes, there's truth to it. But consider the case of using car seats. All of the above (kids with different tempraments, parents doing the best they can, life not being so neat, blah blah blah blah blah...) can be applied to whether or not a kid can be put into a car seat. But most of us treat *that* as a non-negotiable. Kid. Seat. Put. In. Stay. Wail all you want. Period. And it works thereby. I submit parents can and do treat other points of behavior and discipline with a similar attitude, in some other cultures. As well as here - depends on the family background and parent(s). I clipped it by accident, but I can't imagine any physical difference between Swiss women in their pregnancies that would make a difference in the tempraments of their children vs. American children. Banty |
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