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Helping child deal with bully
My son is 6 and in first grade. He's a bright energetic kid, outgoing
and very friendly. He's doing well in school, but he can be a little overly sensitive. He's having a problem with a kid in his class who constantly makes fun of his curly hair. My son is pretty bothered by this and I'm not sure what to tell him. I've never been fond of going to the teacher for everything since in my experience, it rarely helps. Teachers aren't always around during lunch or play time etc. Any suggestions? It's not a HUGE deal now but I'd like to put an end to it before it gets to be a bigger problem. |
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bchamberlin wrote:
My son is 6 and in first grade. He's a bright energetic kid, outgoing and very friendly. He's doing well in school, but he can be a little overly sensitive. He's having a problem with a kid in his class who constantly makes fun of his curly hair. My son is pretty bothered by this and I'm not sure what to tell him. I've never been fond of going to the teacher for everything since in my experience, it rarely helps. Teachers aren't always around during lunch or play time etc. Any suggestions? It's not a HUGE deal now but I'd like to put an end to it before it gets to be a bigger problem. I think going to the teacher is probably the best option - you don't have to talk in terms of "that horrible child upsetting my little darling", more "my kid's a bit sensitive about this". What I'd expect to happen is for the teacher to have a general session for the kids, saying something along the lines of "be nice to each other and don't tease". Hopefully that would be enough for the other child to stop. While I agree there are some some things it isn't worth bothering the teacher about, I think this mild teasing/bullying is common at this age, and a 6yo doesn't have the social skills to deal with it. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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bchamberlin wrote:
My son is 6 and in first grade. He's a bright energetic kid, outgoing and very friendly. He's doing well in school, but he can be a little overly sensitive. He's having a problem with a kid in his class who constantly makes fun of his curly hair. My son is pretty bothered by this and I'm not sure what to tell him. I've never been fond of going to the teacher for everything since in my experience, it rarely helps. Teachers aren't always around during lunch or play time etc. Any suggestions? It's not a HUGE deal now but I'd like to put an end to it before it gets to be a bigger problem. My son has been in two elementary schools,and at both schools, bullying was taken very seriously. It's a new attitude these days in a lot of schools, due to the violent incidents that have happened in recent years and bullying is being nipped in the bud. My son had problems on the bus, and even though it was on the bus, his kindergarten teacher took things firmly in hand and tracked down the culprit. The bus driver also moved the offender to within his sight lines. Problems this year on the bus were dealt with by the driver, with great concern and warmth. The school is responsible for providing a safe environment for every child to learn and grow, let them do their job. If you're not satisfied with their response, make them do their job. But I would try to give your child some feeling of empowerment by discussing with him various options for addressing the problem and letting him choose a course of action. Karen |
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In article , Penny Gaines says...
bchamberlin wrote: My son is 6 and in first grade. He's a bright energetic kid, outgoing and very friendly. He's doing well in school, but he can be a little overly sensitive. He's having a problem with a kid in his class who constantly makes fun of his curly hair. My son is pretty bothered by this and I'm not sure what to tell him. I've never been fond of going to the teacher for everything since in my experience, it rarely helps. Teachers aren't always around during lunch or play time etc. Any suggestions? It's not a HUGE deal now but I'd like to put an end to it before it gets to be a bigger problem. I think going to the teacher is probably the best option - you don't have to talk in terms of "that horrible child upsetting my little darling", more "my kid's a bit sensitive about this". What I'd expect to happen is for the teacher to have a general session for the kids, saying something along the lines of "be nice to each other and don't tease". Hopefully that would be enough for the other child to stop. While I agree there are some some things it isn't worth bothering the teacher about, I think this mild teasing/bullying is common at this age, and a 6yo doesn't have the social skills to deal with it. Right. At this age a parent working with a teacher on this is absolutely appropriate. The whole sensitivity that older kids have about parents butting in doesn't come up until they're more of later elementary age (certainly by junior high). At any time, if there is actual abuse, it's appropriate for the parent to bring it up with the teacher and school if necessary. Schools are *much* more aware of the damages of bullying and much more receptive to taking necessary actions than in the past. Public schools now have rather specific policies concerning bullying. Banty |
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Thanks for the advice. We sent an email to the teacher.
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Hi -- The teasing you describe doesn't sound like bullying ... yet. But it does need to be nipped in the bud. At my children's school the children are taught a "debug" technique. The steps a Ignore Walk away Talk friendly Talk firmly Ask an adult for help. The kids get a lot of training and role-playing in the technique. What I like is that it's progressive, so kids learn to help themselves before running to an adult. (Kids are also taught to skip steps when necessary.) Their school is also very actively anti-bully, so going to an adult tends to be pretty effective. I hope these ideas help, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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The best way is for your son to tell the boy that he is not comfortable with the teasing and he does not like it. Let your son tell the boy he does not like it and tell him to stop.
If it still does not work, you may have to step in if it is affecting your son a lot. You could talk to the boy or get the teacher to help. For more info and articles, go to www.raisingconfidentkids.com |
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