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TULSA, Okla. - Some foster kids have Reactive Attachment Disorder.



 
 
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Old March 20th 08, 06:43 AM posted to alt.support.child-protective-services,alt.support.foster-parents,alt.dads-rights.unmoderated,alt.parenting.spanking
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Default TULSA, Okla. - Some foster kids have Reactive Attachment Disorder.

Some foster kids have disorder

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(TULSA, Okla.) March 18 - A judge is deciding whether a lawsuit against
DHS can be filed as a class action lawsuit. If so, it will include all
10,000 foster care children in the state.

Now, four moms who have adopted some of these children are trying to
help other parents out there. These moms are forming a support group.

More than half of the foster children in Oklahoma bounce from foster
home to foster home at least four times. Moms we talked to say, not
only is that hard on the kids, but they believe it also causes a brain
disorder that can tear families apart.

These four moms found each other out of sheer desperation. They all
adopted children who have the same problem.

One Tina Cox never saw coming. “When we met her, she dazzled us, she
was bubbly and cute, melted our hearts.”

But within the first month, her 3-year-old daughter started acting
strangely. “There was urinating on the floors, some issues with feces,
lying, crazy lying, hoarding food.”

The caseworker told her all her daughter needed was a lot of love. “We
loved her, still love her very much, but that didn't make it fine.”

Turns out, these moms adopted children who all have a brain disorder
called Reactive Attachment Disorder.

“They don't trust, they won't trust. They will do anything to be in
control even to their own detriment, the more you try to love them the
more threatened they feel”, Tina said.

These moms blame the DHS foster care system. “She did get bounced
around, she was in foster care for 18 months and in that time she had 5
placements.”

And during that time, Tina says her daughter's brain developed
differently than most kids, because of the trauma. “They use the back
part of the brain, they're in a flight or fight mode, which they're
disconnected from the emotional part.”

As the kids get older, without the right intervention, they get worse.
At age 10, Tina's daughter put her family in danger. “She decided to
experiment with putting kitchen chemicals in our drinks. She put Drano
in our son's Gatorade, she made multiple threats to stab me in the heart
and kill me.”

At that point, Tina had to put her daughter in a group home. “I have to
accept being mother from a distance at this point.”

With the hope that she'll get the kind of help she needs, so she can
come home. Until then, Tina relies on the other moms for strength.

These moms say when you're dealing with kids with Reactive Attachment
Disorder, traditional therapy and traditional parenting techniques do
not work. That's why they're starting a local support group to help
other parents. The first one is Monday night at the Promenade Mall's
food court at 7:00 p.m.

The moms are working with the director of DHS to diagnose these kids
early, so adoptive parents will know what they're dealing with and can
get them help.

If you want to see the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder or learn
more about the support group, click on links and reminders.



CURRENTLY CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES VIOLATES MORE CONSTITUTIONALLY
GUARANTEED LIBERTIES & CIVIL RIGHTS ON A DAILY BASIS THEN ALL OTHER
AGENCIES COMBINED INCLUDING THE NATIONAL SECURITY AGENCY/CENTRAL
INTELLIGENCE AGENCY WIRETAPPING PROGRAMS....

CPS Does not protect children...
It is sickening how many children are subject to abuse, neglect and even
killed at the hands of Child Protective Services.

every parent should read the free handbook from
connecticut dcf watch..

http://www.connecticutdcfwatch.com

Number of Cases per 100,000 children in the US
These numbers come from The National Center on
Child Abuse and Neglect in Washington. (NCCAN)
Recent numbers have increased significantly for CPS

*Perpetrators of Maltreatment*

Physical Abuse CPS/Foster care 160, biological Parents 59
Sexual Abuse CPS/Foster care 112, biological Parents 13
Neglect CPS/Foster care 410, biological Parents 241
Medical Neglect CPS/Foster care 14 biological Parents 12
Fatalities CPS/Foster care 6.4, biological Parents 1.5

Imagine that, 6.4 children die at the hands of the very agencies that
are supposed to protect them and only 1.5 at the hands of parents per
100,000 children. CPS perpetrates more abuse, neglect, and sexual abuse
and kills more children then parents in the United States. If the
citizens of this country hold CPS to the same standards that they hold
parents too. No judge should ever put another child in the hands of ANY
government agency because CPS nationwide is guilty of more harm and
death than any human being combined. CPS nationwide is guilty of more
human rights violations and deaths of children then the homes from which
they were removed. When are the judges going to wake up and see that
they are sending children to their death and a life of abuse when
children are removed from safe homes based on the mere opinion of a
bunch of social workers.


CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES, HAPPILY DESTROYING THOUSANDS OF INNOCENT
FAMILIES YEARLY NATIONWIDE AND COMING TO YOU'RE HOME SOON...


BE SURE TO FIND OUT WHERE YOUR CANDIDATES STANDS ON THE ISSUE OF
REFORMING OR ABOLISHING CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES ("MAKE YOUR CANDIDATES
TAKE A STAND ON THIS ISSUE.") THEN REMEMBER TO VOTE ACCORDINGLY IF THEY
ARE "FAMILY UNFRIENDLY" IN THE NEXT ELECTION...


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Old March 20th 08, 01:02 PM posted to alt.support.child-protective-services,alt.support.foster-parents,alt.dads-rights.unmoderated,alt.parenting.spanking
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Default TULSA, Okla. - Some foster kids have Reactive AttachmentDisorder.

On Mar 20, 2:43 am, fx wrote:
Some foster kids have disorder

http://www.fox23.com/mostpopular/sto...4d7bb7ac-b16a-...


Turns out, these moms adopted children who all have a brain disorder
called Reactive Attachment Disorder.


And during that time, Tina says her daughter's brain developed
differently than most kids, because of the trauma. "They use the
back
part of the brain, they're in a flight or fight mode, which they're
disconnected from the emotional part."

There is NO definite brain science to back up these statements.
None. The point is that if you lay it off to the brain, you don't
have to look anywhere else for a way to help fix it, such as how
adults interact w.kids, how learning and living environments are set
up and managed.

These are common behaviors across many cases. There are tons of
whacko therapists who suggest making kids beg for food and water,
holding them against their wills, and more crazy **** to "break down
the child's walls and make them look to the new parent as THE source
for love, safety, etc." These techniques are abuse, plain and simple.


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Old March 20th 08, 05:14 PM posted to alt.support.child-protective-services,alt.support.foster-parents,alt.dads-rights.unmoderated,alt.parenting.spanking
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Default TULSA, Okla. - Some foster kids have Reactive AttachmentDisorder.

On Mar 20, 7:02*am, SRplus wrote:
On Mar 20, 2:43 am, fx wrote:

Some foster kids have disorder


http://www.fox23.com/mostpopular/sto...4d7bb7ac-b16a-....


Turns out, these moms adopted children who all have a brain disorder
called Reactive Attachment Disorder.

And during that time, Tina says her daughter's brain developed
differently than most kids, because of the trauma. *"They use the
back
part of the brain, they're in a flight or fight mode, which they're
disconnected from the emotional part."

There is NO definite brain science


Isn't that basically an oxymoron anyway?

to back up these statements.
None. *The point is that if you lay it off to the brain, you don't
have to look anywhere else for a way to help fix it, such as how
adults interact w.kids, how learning and living environments are set
up and managed.

These are common behaviors across many cases. *There are tons of
whacko therapists who suggest making kids beg for food and water,
holding them against their wills, and more crazy **** to "break down
the child's walls and make them look to the new parent as THE source
for love, safety, etc." *These techniques are abuse, plain and simple.


I saw a foster/adopter once in a library talking with the
librarian about a RAD kid, right in front of the kid,
and I got some wierd vibes from the way she presented it.

1. Came across as comparable to a person talking about their dog.

2. Presentation made Foster "special" and the center of attention.

Despite all of this, Reactive Attachment Disorder is
not a complete mystery, particularly where a child
is moved through 5 different foster homes.

CPS has never used the "First, Do no harm." motto.

To quote a prosecutor "This is what we do."
To quote a caseworker "I'm just doing my job."

( "Arbeit Macht Frei", "I was just following orders!" )

Right, SRplus?
 




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