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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
I recently got married and my wife is now two weeks late. She did an
EPT home pregnancy test after one week being late, but it came back negative. She later said that she had been drinking a ton of water and the urine was clear, so we're trying again in the morning since another week has passed... her breasts are still swollen like she's getting her period and she says she's had some minor cramps... so I don't know what to expect tomorrow when we retest... The thing is, if the test is positive, I would be pretty excited, but I don't think she'll be too excited (she would NEVER get an abortion though). Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? |
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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
Hi Jay
Maybe you should discuss this before she takes the test. When I told my lovely DH that I was pregnant he said "You're gonna get fat" - anything else you would say would be better :-)))) Camille (the fat one - damn I hate it when he's right) EDD 17 May 2004 "Jay Golden" wrote in message om... I recently got married and my wife is now two weeks late. She did an EPT home pregnancy test after one week being late, but it came back negative. She later said that she had been drinking a ton of water and the urine was clear, so we're trying again in the morning since another week has passed... her breasts are still swollen like she's getting her period and she says she's had some minor cramps... so I don't know what to expect tomorrow when we retest... The thing is, if the test is positive, I would be pretty excited, but I don't think she'll be too excited (she would NEVER get an abortion though). Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? |
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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
Jay Golden wrote:
I recently got married and my wife is now two weeks late. She did an EPT home pregnancy test after one week being late, but it came back negative. She later said that she had been drinking a ton of water and the urine was clear, so we're trying again in the morning since another week has passed... her breasts are still swollen like she's getting her period and she says she's had some minor cramps... so I don't know what to expect tomorrow when we retest... The thing is, if the test is positive, I would be pretty excited, but I don't think she'll be too excited (she would NEVER get an abortion though). Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? Well, I've always been a fan of honesty, myself. I would rather know exactly what my husband is feeling. I don't know your wife, though. |
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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
"Jay Golden" wrote in message om... I recently got married and my wife is now two weeks late. She did an EPT home pregnancy test after one week being late, but it came back negative. She later said that she had been drinking a ton of water and the urine was clear, so we're trying again in the morning since another week has passed... her breasts are still swollen like she's getting her period and she says she's had some minor cramps... so I don't know what to expect tomorrow when we retest... The thing is, if the test is positive, I would be pretty excited, but I don't think she'll be too excited (she would NEVER get an abortion though). Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? Honestly, I think you should express what you are feeling. Lying to one's spouse about something important never did anyone any good. You're happy. It's ok to say "Hey, I think this is great!". If she isn't as excited as you, that's ok, as well. What you are feeling is perfectly natural, as are her feelings. As long as no one is saying "You're a bad person for feeling the way you do.", I *really* don't see any value in faking something you aren't feeling. Donna |
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"Cam & Shane" wrote in message
Maybe you should discuss this before she takes the test. When I told my lovely DH that I was pregnant he said "You're gonna get fat" - anything else you would say would be better :-)))) My DH made the mistake of calling me a "chub-wallop" once when I was pregnant. It was a total joke, but I never let him forget his cruel verbal abuse of a vulnerable pregnant woman ;-) I weighed 147 the day I gave birth to my son (and I'm 5'7"), so I don't think I ever truly made it to chub-wallop status! -- Em mama to L-baby, almost 6 months old! |
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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
"Jay Golden" wrote Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? I thought my husband and I were on the level and both really wanting kids. It happened so fast we got pregnant the very first month. My husband seemed a bit reluctant to TTC, I was enthusiastic. When I had a funny feeling that I was pregnant we waited until a few days before my period was due and I took one of the early response tests and it showed up positive. I was shocked and scared speechless, my husband was not surprised and was happy. So in both scenarios we were the opposite of each other, lol. In fact, he was starting to wonder about me because I was so much more scared about what I had gotten myself into and started having doubts I was ready, even though I WAITED to TTC until I was ready. It was a confusing time. No matter if you think you're ready or not. So my suggestion is for you to seem happy about it but also pay close attention and be sensitive to how SHE's feeling, and most of all, be reassuring. If she's happy let her know you are. If she's nervous or reluctant, let her know you are happy but don't go overboard with it. Let her adjust to her own feelings. But, definitely, let her know you are ok with it! Jill |
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"Cam & Shane" wrote in message
... Hi Jay Maybe you should discuss this before she takes the test. When I told my lovely DH that I was pregnant he said "You're gonna get fat" - anything else you would say would be better :-)))) Good advice, talk about it beforehand! LOL on the husband's comment. My own husband said something equally bad IMO. He said "All right!! We have a 15-pounder in the hatcher!" I fully expected him to pound on his chest and scream "ooga booga" eyeroll, but he WAS just teasing me- he knows I am easy to annoy. |
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How should I react to my wifes pregnancy test??
I'd love for DH to just call me fat. He's found the many words for manatee,
sea cow, dugong...not very nice to be woken up by a comment like "How's my lovely dugong this morning?", esp at 23 weeks! "Cam & Shane" wrote in message ... Hi Jay Maybe you should discuss this before she takes the test. When I told my lovely DH that I was pregnant he said "You're gonna get fat" - anything else you would say would be better :-)))) Camille (the fat one - damn I hate it when he's right) EDD 17 May 2004 "Jay Golden" wrote in message om... I recently got married and my wife is now two weeks late. She did an EPT home pregnancy test after one week being late, but it came back negative. She later said that she had been drinking a ton of water and the urine was clear, so we're trying again in the morning since another week has passed... her breasts are still swollen like she's getting her period and she says she's had some minor cramps... so I don't know what to expect tomorrow when we retest... The thing is, if the test is positive, I would be pretty excited, but I don't think she'll be too excited (she would NEVER get an abortion though). Any suggestions on what the best thing to say is, in either scenario, positive or not... I don't want to seem really happy if she's not because that might freak her out... but then if I'm cavalier about it she might think I'm not sensitive??? |
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