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"Sophie" My 5 yr old has been microwaving her own popcorn and warm chocolate milk for at least the last 6 months. I think Ian is not giving his 8 yr old enough credit, or space and opportunity, to try these things. Wow, talk about having everything done for you. Can I move in - lol? Did you know C could do her own popcorn? I had no idea Emily knew how to do it and it freaked me out when I came downstairs after my shower and her and Katie were eating a bag of popcorn. I knew she could do milk and hot cocoa.. I guess I just didn't think about other possibilities. |
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Ian wrote:
I get a taste when my kids has friends over. The noise and mess level goes up about 200%. Constant "He did this" and "she did that" I usually get a break when my daughter has friends over. The noise level goes down and the mess level remains the same. As for the arguing, I let them resolve their differences - kids over 3 can do so without adult intervention. I get more trouble from the kids with siblings. I thought kids with siblings would know how to share, get along, but I have had my eyes opened. Maybe I live on a street of brats, but they seem like normal kids to me. No wonder their Moms send them over so often, they need the break! Again, I let them resolve their differences. If they come to me, I tell them to work it out themselves. I am not knocking anyone with more than one kid. I just couldn't live with it 24/7. The demands, financial and otherwise of just one are more than enough for me. To be honest I have no idea how people cope with more than one. I`d love more, but I would be a wreck. I thought the same way - until I had DS. Two is more of an effort, but not really that much more. I do have it easier in that there's five years between them - during the day, DD goes to school while DS and I remain at home. The financial hit was the biggest - I quit my job (40% less income), but you pretty much live on what you have and adjust. Actually the house is cleaner and more organized because I'm at home and I can do things like grocery shopping and picking up and vacuuming during the weekdays. Why not be honest to the OP? 2, 3 kids ARE more work than one. Yes, more kids may be more work, but the amount of work each additional child brings is probably less and less. Jeanne |
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"Ian" wrote in message
... How does your 5 year old get their own cereal? Do they have a stool for the counter or something? Does it not end up all over the place. I am sure it would be that way if my 8 yr old tried it! I'm going to go out on a limb and say I think you are overly babying your 8 year old. My TWO year old can get her own cereal, for pete's sake. Yes kids make messes as they are learning a new skill, but they are never going to learn anything by not doing it. If you'd encourage your child to be more independent by being more accepting of mis-steps along the way you'd probably find things a lot easier a lot sooner. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 9 mo. And Jaden, 4 months Cleaning the house while your children are small is like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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"Sophie" wrote: Its not dangerous, we just cant really sleep properly when he is up. And he is too short to reach the counter to get cereal. Step stool? You have no friends who can babysit? Yes, but I really don't want to be returning the favor so I don't ask. Most of my friends have little kids, or more than one. Yeah and you don't want to watch more than one, right? Nice. I don't have a problem with someone who knows their limits: he says he doesn't ask friends to babysit, because he doesn't want to return the favor. That's just an honest thing -- not rude in any way. meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Ian" wrote: So get a babysitter. He's 8, hire a teenager. Its not like he needs mass amounts of supervision. I live 2500+ miles away from my closest relative. Make friends with your neighbors and swap babysitting for a couple hours. Whats the point of hiring a babysitter for the evening when you still have to be up at 7am? I am also not comforable with the idea of some teen being in my house alone. I was a teen babysitter once... You don't trust others. Fine. Live with that fact and stop complaining so much. And why do you still need to wake up on the weekends? My 5 year old is perfectly capable of getting her own cereal and turning cartoons on Saturday mornings. I am not comfortable with my child being up alone. He gets up, so one of us gets up. Besides its hard to sleep with the TV blaring anyway. Ive tried it. You cant have a proper rest when they are up. One can be awake while the other sleeps a bit, and vice versa on another day. There isn't any reason that two adults need to stand over an eight year old 24/7. How does your 5 year old get their own cereal? Do they have a stool for the counter or something? Does it not end up all over the place. I am sure it would be that way if my 8 yr old tried it! Perhaps it's because he's never been taught how to do it right? I'm teaching my two year old how to fill the cat dishes with food. Pouring cereal is pretty similar, though the box is to big to handle at this point. Still, it shouldn't be far off. It's amazing what kids can learn when an effort is made to teach them. P. Tierney |
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"dragonlady" wrote in message ... In article , "Sophie" wrote: Its not dangerous, we just cant really sleep properly when he is up. And he is too short to reach the counter to get cereal. Step stool? You have no friends who can babysit? Yes, but I really don't want to be returning the favor so I don't ask. Most of my friends have little kids, or more than one. Yeah and you don't want to watch more than one, right? Nice. I don't have a problem with someone who knows their limits: he says he doesn't ask friends to babysit, because he doesn't want to return the favor. That's just an honest thing -- not rude in any way. Well if he's not willing to compromise something, hire a babysitter, swap babysitting does he honestly have a right to make himself look like some sort of martyr? |
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"Denise Anderson" wrote in message ... "Sophie" My 5 yr old has been microwaving her own popcorn and warm chocolate milk for at least the last 6 months. I think Ian is not giving his 8 yr old enough credit, or space and opportunity, to try these things. Wow, talk about having everything done for you. Can I move in - lol? Did you know C could do her own popcorn? I had no idea Emily knew how to do it and it freaked me out when I came downstairs after my shower and her and Katie were eating a bag of popcorn. I knew she could do milk and hot cocoa.. I guess I just didn't think about other possibilities. Yeah I showed her how. It's easy - she just presses the popcorn button twice - lol. Dylan did not know though, came back from Iraq quite surprised at the little things the kiss could do. Communication was so bad that I think I forgot to tell him little things like that. He told her off the first time she made her milk, didn't realize she knew how. |
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"Sophie" wrote in message ... Its not dangerous, we just cant really sleep properly when he is up. And he is too short to reach the counter to get cereal. Step stool? Or put it at a lower location before everyone goes to bed. P. Tierney |
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"Jenn" wrote: so much of this once basic needs are covered is about attitude -- what you make of your life -- and a full time mom school age child and breadwinner family seems to offer pretty good opportunities for bliss to me Bingo. P. Tierney |
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"Sophie" wrote in message ... "Denise Anderson" wrote in message news:1FARb.12131 The SGLI always looks mighty fine right around 6 months into one of DH's deployments. BG LOL! So glad to know someone else jokes about that! Well that and my marine boyfriend that lives here when he's deployed |
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