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crying it out
has anyone here let there baby cry it out at night? does it really
work, and what are any suggestions on the "right" way to do it...part of me wants to do it to my 7 month old becuase he wakes up about 3 times a night, and part of me cant bear to listen to him cry |
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Mary Hewitt wrote: has anyone here let there baby cry it out at night? does it really work, and what are any suggestions on the "right" way to do it...part of me wants to do it to my 7 month old becuase he wakes up about 3 times a night, and part of me cant bear to listen to him cry A lot depends on why they're crying. Any clues as to what, if anything, soothes him? Pity he can't really tell you what's wrong yet! Our son used to cry himself to sleep, and our daughter rather likes to be held, but we've been fairly lucky really in terms of babies only crying about things we can fix. -- Mark |
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"Mary Hewitt" wrote in message ... has anyone here let there baby cry it out at night? does it really work, and what are any suggestions on the "right" way to do it...part of me wants to do it to my 7 month old becuase he wakes up about 3 times a night, and part of me cant bear to listen to him cry I have had to let my (now) 13 month old daughter "cry it out" a number of times this last year. Initially, when she was about six months old, my husband and I decided to let her cry it out becuase she had developed a nasty habit of wanting a bottle at 2:30 am every morning. No healthy 15 pound baby needs a bottle in the middle of the night. The very first time was the worst. I did the controlled crying method, going in at 5, then 10, then 20, then 30 minutes to pat her on the back, tell her it's still nigh-night time and that she needs to go back to sleep. She fell asleep finally after yelling for 45 minutes. It was heartbreaking. I should never have let my xanax prescription run out. My husband has been through that once before, and he was fairly phlegmatic about the whole thing. The second night she woke, and we went through the same routine, but she gave up in about 20 minutes. Same for the third night, and then she started to sleep through the night. I periodically have to re-do this entire thing, after every ear infection or trip to the grandparents. But it is SO much easier each subsequent time. First off, it only lasts one night, secondly, she only cries for 10 minutes or so, and thirdly, it's just something a mom has to do, and you get used to knowing that the baby is mad, not suffering. I am trying to think of it like innoculations - it's something that just has to be done, and that's that. Some tips: 1)If you are feeding the baby in the middle of the night now, start diluting the milk/formula down. 1/2 strenghth one night, then 1/4, then mostly tap water with a bit of milk. This might solve the problem. A lot of kids aren't willing to wake up in the middle of the night just for WATER. 2) If that doesn't work, pick a three or four night period, and resign yourself to a bit of angst. Remind yourself that a) the baby is mad, not hurt. b) the crying will only make her tired, c) your parents undoubtedly had to teach you to sleep, and you suffered no ill effects and d) in the long run, an uninterrupted night's sleep is better for you, AND HER. 3) Don't take the baby out of the crib during this crying period - no snuggles, no walks, just a soothing pat/rub, a reminder that it's still night, and go back to your egg timer (personal recommendation: and cocktail). 4) DO NOT BACK DOWN ONCE YOU'VE STARTED. If you give in on night two (or one), you'll teach your smart little baby that persistent crying (hers) pays off. Not the lesson you are trying to teach. 4) You'll have to do this at least a couple more times during your daughter/son's infancy. But it will never be as hard as the first time. Good luck. Tell me how it goes? Donna (who just went through iteration 3 of "It's night time, sweetie, you need to stay in bed" two nights ago.) |
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Donna wrote:
Initially, when she was about six months old, my husband and I decided to let her cry it out becuase she had developed a nasty habit of wanting a bottle at 2:30 am every morning. No healthy 15 pound baby needs a bottle in the middle of the night. Well, you could argue about a six-month-old needing a night feeding or not, but the weight has almost nothing to do with it. Many babies reach 15 pounds at far younger ages. Personally, I don't regard waking up, eating, and going cheerfully back to sleep as any problem at all. Waking up screaming and unsoothable multiple times a night, THAT'S a sleep problem. --Helen |
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Donna wrote:
[snip excellent suggestions] 4) You'll have to do this at least a couple more times during your daughter/son's infancy. But it will never be as hard as the first time. Yes. After every interruption to my DD/DS's routine, especially illness/vacation, it always took a night or two for them to remember that yes, it is okay to sleep through the night. Donna (who just went through iteration 3 of "It's night time, sweetie, you need to stay in bed" two nights ago.) It doesn't end in infancy Scott DD 10.5 and DS 7.9 |
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Hi - We let our boys cry it out a couple of times when we needed to get them to change their sleeping habits. Our older son needed it at about 10 months, when we needed him to go to sleep on his own. The first night it took about 15 minutes, the second night 5 minutes, and that was it. This gave us confidence to use the same method when he was older, and for him it worked every time, and just as easily. Our younger boy was a different story. We tried having him cry it out several times, but with an appalling lack of success. So we gave it up and tried other methods, such as: - music to fall asleep by (cassette) - no food until he'd been awake at least 30 minutes, so he wouldn't wake from mild hunger pangs. - no attending to him at night unless he was REALLY awake, not just whimpering a bit. - limiting the frequency and length of his naps - Putting opaque shades on his windows so light wouldn't wake him up, and a night light so there'd be less of a transition between night and dawn, in terms of how light his room was. For some kids, crying it out works and is pretty painless. FOr others it's a total disaster. Good luck, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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"Scott" wrote in message ... It doesn't end in infancy Scott DD 10.5 and DS 7.9 Oh, damn. Donna |
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thank you everyone for your advice...my boyfriend and i have decided to
go at this on monday, when i have a full five days off of work...ill let you all know how it goes :-) |
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after how long of crying should i go and pick him up? my 2 month old will
not fall asleep in his playpen or crib... only in his carseat... and when i transfer him over he cries and wakes up and wont go to sleep... for the past week hes been sleeping in his car seat... Mary Hewitt wrote in message ... has anyone here let there baby cry it out at night? does it really work, and what are any suggestions on the "right" way to do it...part of me wants to do it to my 7 month old becuase he wakes up about 3 times a night, and part of me cant bear to listen to him cry |
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