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Legal aid denied me..
"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... snicker you call me a 'dumbass' yet you don't have a clue what an 'ex-parte' order is...........better look in the mirror BTW...nice snip job of the various points you didn't want to answer. "natural_4u" wrote in message . ca... OK detective Paul... I don't know what an ex-parte order is but... the other parent NEVER appeared in court once. That looked good for me in court. I guess it doesn't hurt to tell you exactly what happened. The other parent did not like the fact that my daughter had my last name and that MY parents are still together and not alcoholics. The other parent, I guess was jealous. You picked the other parent..........dumbass....................and we all know what ASSuming does. The other parent had told the legal aid lawyer they were scared of me... that why legal aid had denied me. A 'legal-aid' can't have you denied....only a judge can.........dumbass I had to pay for my lawyer. So. My lawyer said to the judge, "My client has appeared at every court date and the other parents has not appeared once now the other parent has left my client with the child" That cheap ass legal aid lawyer was put to shame. The judge did not hesitate to reverse the restraining order and added a supervised visitation. "after 2 month of going back and forth to court I come home from work one day and find my daughter at my house with my parents. I assumed that this was a trap to make me go to jail so I went straight to court the next day with my daughter and spoke to a legal council." doesn't sound like 'not hesitating' to me............dumbass Hey dumb-ass I almost forgot one last thing, if the other parents legal aid lawyer can't get a hold of their own client and left the child to me... the judge called it neglect and abandonment. Are you asking a question or making a statement.......dumbass My parents don't drink or do drugs. The court usually will look at each parents family background for help on decision making on who the child should stay with. No they don't, they look at the parents.......dumbass I think you are just in a different part of the world with different rules. snicker you have already admitted you don't even know what the rules are.........dumbass " This is where your story falls apart. The only type of order this could be is an ex-parte order. It would only b calid until you both appeared in court, typically within 14 days..................either you are full of crap or there is something you are not disclosing |
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ex-parte = From a one-sided or strongly biased point of view
I didn't know that before. I guess I should of looked it up before calling you a dumb-ass and stuff. Paul... I'm just saying that why all of sudden does my daughter's mom want to start seeing her again? I know... because it's her daughter too.. right?! You know I'm just getting my life back together and I dont need another road block. I just don't want to take any chances. The court did let me decide on the person to pick for the supervised visitation. My daughter's mom never went for it. She rather not see her own daughter than to have someone peeking over everytime she wants to see her daughter. I nevered ask for that supervised visitation, the judge just decleared it. I'm not sure if you'd been burned before but its' not a good feeling. |
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"natural_4u" wrote in message . ca... ex-parte = From a one-sided or strongly biased point of view I didn't know that before. I guess I should of looked it up before calling you a dumb-ass and stuff. Paul... I'm just saying that why all of sudden does my daughter's mom want to start seeing her again? I know... because it's her daughter too.. right?! Exactly......and your daughter NEEDS both her parents. (On a side note.........Amy Lynn should be choking on her kneecaps right about now, she stuck her feet so far down her throat snicker ) You know I'm just getting my life back together and I dont need another road block. I just don't want to take any chances. Your daughter's mother is NOT a road block...........she is half your daughter.......and will be part of your life forever. You need to start dealing with that fact. The court did let me decide on the person to pick for the supervised visitation. My daughter's mom never went for it. Then that is her decision. She rather not see her own daughter than to have someone peeking over everytime she wants to see her daughter. Then that is her decision I nevered ask for that supervised visitation, the judge just decleared it. Based on the additional information you posted, this is not necessarily a bad thing in the short term........she needs to reestaclish trust with the courts. I'm not sure if you'd been burned before but its' not a good feeling. More so than you could ever imagine. I may be wrong, but you sound young. I would suggest that you look up and join a local 'father's rights' group. Not that you need it.....you are one of the lucky (and rare) ones that actually got custody of your child. The reason to join is that you will have access to a lot of legal information, many times lawyers attend......you need to learn how the system works, and to make it work effectively for you and your daughter....parental kidnapping laws for one........but you need set parenting times to use it effectively. Second......never bash your ex to your daughter, and for the sake of your daughter, and in her best interest, your ultimate goal should be a shared parenting of your your daughter with her mother. I am not saying that this will happen overnight, it will take time for her to regain yours, and the courts trust. Children need both a mother and a father, it takes that to create them, it certainly takes that to raise them properly. Third, realize that your daughter is a 'ward of the court' The courts......not you, will be the ultimate decision maker for your child......as bad as that seems, it is the fact........which is why you need to know 'the system' Finally, learn to be protective, not controling |
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natural_4u wrote in message . ca... ex-parte = From a one-sided or strongly biased point of view I didn't know that before. I guess I should of looked it up before calling you a dumb-ass and stuff. Paul... I'm just saying that why all of sudden does my daughter's mom want to start seeing her again? I know... because it's her daughter too.. right?! You know I'm just getting my life back together and I dont need another road block. I just don't want to take any chances. The court did let me decide on the person to pick for the supervised visitation. My daughter's mom never went for it. She rather not see her own daughter than to have someone peeking over everytime she wants to see her daughter. I nevered ask for that supervised visitation, the judge just decleared it. I'm not sure if you'd been burned before but its' not a good feeling. If you don't let your daughter mom see her, one day your daughter is going to ask why? Do you want to get into that with her? You should be bad mouthing aboutyour ex with your daughter or anything. We all have been burned but we all swallow our pride when it comes to the ex. Its about the kid, not you. |
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"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ...
"natural_4u" wrote in message You should start by growing up. Thanks People!!! Paul, in case you didnt see the newsgroup name, its support single parents, there is nothing supportive in your posting whatsoever. All I can see is nitpicking, hair splitting and semantics from you Paul, I dont know why you are coming from where you are coming from and I dont want to know. But if what that lady is saying is true and I have no reason whatsoever not to believe her, she was seeking help from people who may have been there already. If you have nothing constructive to say, say nowt. Telling someone to grow up because they are scared their ex-partner will take their child away, is somewhat ironic, cos I can spot the immature poster here and its not natural4u. I hope everything works out for you natural...Althought I cant see how a written agreement will make your ex bring your child back on time. |
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"natural_4u" wrote in message news Hello people, I'm a single parent with a beautiful 10 years old daughter. I was just wondering if anyone can help me with any ideas on preparing a consent/agreement form. The form must have time of pick up/drop off, contact number, etc.. You might be thinking... if I don't trust the other person/parent why even let them take her for the day. Well...I'm not sure if I can give a straight answer... and verbal agreements just don't cut-it anymore. When I say to bring her (my daughter) back by 5 PM , it's never on time, always 3-4 hours late Before we went to court it was all verbal agreements... and to make a long story short, 7 years ago a SIMPLE weekend stay turn into a disaster evolving serious legal action. So if I serve a consent form I might not have to worry. Thanks People!!! At the beginning of the divorce, my ex couldn't be trusted to bring our son home on time. He'd deliberately bring him late or early in the attempt to screw with my schedule. As in, if I had to work until 5pm he'd show up at 4pm and say that I was irresponsible and the like.... so, I started having him sign a paper everytime he picked up our son that said what time he was bringing him home. The same type paper you use at a child care place. This was all at the suggestion of my lawyer mind you. It soon worked, because every time he would say "You never told me what time to bring him home" I'd whip out the paper. Eventually the pettiness went away and we were better able to work with each other with visitation (of course this was when DS was a toddler) If you are going to do it. Be sure to not make the wording condescending. Don't antagonize the situation. Always be mindful that your child needs both parents. with respect, *bri (who isn't really proud of how me and my ex handled things early on, but grew up and changed that quickly) |
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Free hint to the clueless......getting your facts straight may stop you from
looking like such an ass the next time you post. "SA" wrote in message om... "Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... "natural_4u" wrote in message You should start by growing up. Thanks People!!! Paul, in case you didnt see the newsgroup name, its support single parents, there is nothing supportive in your posting whatsoever. All I can see is nitpicking, hair splitting and semantics from you Paul, I dont know why you are coming from where you are coming from and I dont want to know. But if what that lady is saying is true and I have no reason whatsoever not to believe her, she was seeking help from people who may have been there already. If you have nothing constructive to say, say nowt. Telling someone to grow up because they are scared their ex-partner will take their child away, is somewhat ironic, cos I can spot the immature poster here and its not natural4u. I hope everything works out for you natural...Althought I cant see how a written agreement will make your ex bring your child back on time. |
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"natural_4u" wrote in message ... Legal aid denied me.. I said before, legal aid cannot deny you unless you make a higher income than x amount. That's what legal aid is for. Lower income persons who cannot afford a lawyer straight out of the book. |
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"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... "natural_4u" wrote in message . ca... ex-parte = From a one-sided or strongly biased point of view I didn't know that before. I guess I should of looked it up before calling you a dumb-ass and stuff. Paul... I'm just saying that why all of sudden does my daughter's mom want to start seeing her again? I know... because it's her daughter too.. right?! Exactly......and your daughter NEEDS both her parents. (On a side note.........Amy Lynn should be choking on her kneecaps right about now, she stuck her feet so far down her throat snicker ) For calling you out on how you slam women? Nah......... you wouldn't do such a thing, would you! You know I'm just getting my life back together and I dont need another road block. I just don't want to take any chances. Your daughter's mother is NOT a road block...........she is half your daughter.......and will be part of your life forever. You need to start dealing with that fact. The court did let me decide on the person to pick for the supervised visitation. My daughter's mom never went for it. Then that is her decision. She rather not see her own daughter than to have someone peeking over everytime she wants to see her daughter. Then that is her decision I nevered ask for that supervised visitation, the judge just decleared it. Based on the additional information you posted, this is not necessarily a bad thing in the short term........she needs to reestaclish trust with the courts. I'm not sure if you'd been burned before but its' not a good feeling. More so than you could ever imagine. I may be wrong, but you sound young. I would suggest that you look up and join a local 'father's rights' group. Not that you need it.....you are one of the lucky (and rare) ones that actually got custody of your child. The reason to join is that you will have access to a lot of legal information, many times lawyers attend......you need to learn how the system works, and to make it work effectively for you and your daughter....parental kidnapping laws for one........but you need set parenting times to use it effectively. Second......never bash your ex to your daughter, and for the sake of your daughter, and in her best interest, your ultimate goal should be a shared parenting of your your daughter with her mother. I am not saying that this will happen overnight, it will take time for her to regain yours, and the courts trust. Children need both a mother and a father, it takes that to create them, it certainly takes that to raise them properly. Third, realize that your daughter is a 'ward of the court' The courts......not you, will be the ultimate decision maker for your child......as bad as that seems, it is the fact........which is why you need to know 'the system' Finally, learn to be protective, not controling |
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Paul Fritz typed: "natural_4u" wrote in message . ca... ex-parte = From a one-sided or strongly biased point of view I didn't know that before. I guess I should of looked it up before calling you a dumb-ass and stuff. Paul... I'm just saying that why all of sudden does my daughter's mom want to start seeing her again? I know... because it's her daughter too.. right?! Exactly......and your daughter NEEDS both her parents. (On a side note.........Amy Lynn should be choking on her kneecaps right about now, she stuck her feet so far down her throat snicker ) You know I'm just getting my life back together and I dont need another road block. I just don't want to take any chances. Your daughter's mother is NOT a road block...........she is half your daughter.......and will be part of your life forever. You need to start dealing with that fact. The court did let me decide on the person to pick for the supervised visitation. My daughter's mom never went for it. Then that is her decision. She rather not see her own daughter than to have someone peeking over everytime she wants to see her daughter. Then that is her decision I nevered ask for that supervised visitation, the judge just decleared it. Based on the additional information you posted, this is not necessarily a bad thing in the short term........she needs to reestaclish trust with the courts. I'm not sure if you'd been burned before but its' not a good feeling. More so than you could ever imagine. I may be wrong, but you sound young. I would suggest that you look up and join a local 'father's rights' group. Not that you need it.....you are one of the lucky (and rare) ones that actually got custody of your child. The reason to join is that you will have access to a lot of legal information, many times lawyers attend......you need to learn how the system works, and to make it work effectively for you and your daughter....parental kidnapping laws for one........but you need set parenting times to use it effectively. Second......never bash your ex to your daughter, and for the sake of your daughter, and in her best interest, your ultimate goal should be a shared parenting of your your daughter with her mother. I am not saying that this will happen overnight, it will take time for her to regain yours, and the courts trust. Children need both a mother and a father, it takes that to create them, it certainly takes that to raise them properly. Third, realize that your daughter is a 'ward of the court' The courts......not you, will be the ultimate decision maker for your child......as bad as that seems, it is the fact........which is why you need to know 'the system' Finally, learn to be protective, not controling Well said, Paul. You pointed out the exact same things I would have, but more concisely than I could have. I tend to ramble on a bit, if you hadn't noticed. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. |
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