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Old February 20th 04, 11:40 PM
Betty
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"V" wrote in message
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hey Betty. The problem is that they do not get off the bus until 4:30.
V



Bus? You mean not all of your kids live across the street from the school
like mine? LOL

Sorry, I guess I forgot how easy I have it living so close.

Also, getting off work at 2:45 and home by 3:00 sure helps too!

Betty


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Old February 20th 04, 11:40 PM
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"V" wrote in message
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10 years old and the amount of homework is amazing!
Whoo..


My son is in grade 3, and get less homework now than when he was in first
grade.

In first grade, he used to get an hour or more worth of home work every
night until a few parents wrote to the principal and complained.

The teacher was a real academic (and B*tch), and should NOT have been
teaching primary children.
She made more than one parent cry, not to mention the kids.

Thank goodness she is no longer at our school.

Betty


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Old February 21st 04, 03:57 AM
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On Fri, 20 Feb 2004 22:29:35 GMT, "V" wrote:

You think you could come over and make him do it? =) kidding. I think I might
clear some more distractions, but what do I do with his sibling? I do not want
to punish her with quiet, no tv, etc, if she had the incentive to do her
homework on the bus, and timely and accurately?


Well, that's part of being a family. He'll go to her plays and games,
she'll sit through his recitals, etc. Sometimes he will require more
of your attention and sometimes she will. Sometimes you'll need more
from them than at other times. Right now it's about him. :-)

lm



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Old February 21st 04, 01:44 PM
Bebe lestrnge
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homework hassles

Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Fri, Feb 20, 2004, 2:41am
(EST+5) From: (V)

It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to
do his work from school. He doddles. I take away privlidges, games, etc.
to no avail. OMG I feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it
is not done. Any suggestions?
V


Bev wrote:
I have two very different children as well, My first in no way prepared
me for the second ! LOL! Jessica is the one that it all came to easy ,
Sara has learning disabilities and so also has an IEP.
Homework time with Sara was a very frustrating time for both of us,
From the 4th grade on was a struggle and I was told her disabilities are
what made it hard. I was told to do exactly what everyone here has
suggested, taking out the distractions was a big improvement. Right or
wrong what I did was make a schedule around her. I gave her an hour
after school to unwind and get a break from that stuff, We would use
the kitchen so that I could go back and forth from preparing dinner, and
be there in the same room, if it was more difficult I would leave the
meal go ( a good idea is to have stuff prepared in advance in your
freezer and pop it in the oven ! Some nights cereal was supper and that
is O.K. on occasion. A limit of time spent was good so we would divide
the work up in piles and say this is first and after a break we will do
that etc. this encouraged her cause she knew another break was coming
After eating I let her have more free time , and I also found any
reading was good to save to last when we could cuddle up in the big
chair and share some really good time together ! Of course as she got
bigger the chair really became uncomfortable. Hope this helps, just
remember it takes a lot of patience and with a bit of organization some
of the stress will be relieved. Good luck . Bev

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Old February 21st 04, 08:30 PM
Betty
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"Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message
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Bev wrote:
I have two very different children as well, My first in no way prepared
me for the second ! LOL! Jessica is the one that it all came to easy ,
Sara has learning disabilities and so also has an IEP.



My son also has an IEP and is being tested for ADD. I don't know if he
actually has ADD, or is just being 8, but I know with the IEP, at least he
gets extra help at school.
He works with the resource teacher twice a week right now, and if he is
diagnosed as ADD, will get extra time with her and also the school
psychologist.

I know people hate to have their kids labelled, but if means my kid will get
extra help, then I'm all for having a label applied to him.

Our big thing is reading and retention.
He is ok in other subjects, but he has a really hard time with reading. He
is supposed to read for at least 15 minutes every day, and it is a constant
battle to get even that much from him.
He also has a hard time retaining information he has learned.
He always does really well on spelling test (usually 100%), but will not
remember the word 2 days down the line.
This leads me think it might not be ADD he has, but some other form of
learning disability.

B


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Old February 22nd 04, 12:18 AM
V
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That is true. It is totally giving and receiving ...
V
"lm" wrote in message
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On Fri, 20 Feb 2004 22:29:35 GMT, "V" wrote:

You think you could come over and make him do it? =) kidding. I think I

might
clear some more distractions, but what do I do with his sibling? I do not

want
to punish her with quiet, no tv, etc, if she had the incentive to do her
homework on the bus, and timely and accurately?


Well, that's part of being a family. He'll go to her plays and games,
she'll sit through his recitals, etc. Sometimes he will require more
of your attention and sometimes she will. Sometimes you'll need more
from them than at other times. Right now it's about him. :-)

lm





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Old February 22nd 04, 12:21 AM
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"Betty" wrote in message
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"V" wrote in message
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10 years old and the amount of homework is amazing!
Whoo..


My son is in grade 3, and get less homework now than when he was in first
grade.

In first grade, he used to get an hour or more worth of home work every
night until a few parents wrote to the principal and complained.

The teacher was a real academic (and B*tch), and should NOT have been
teaching primary children.
She made more than one parent cry, not to mention the kids.

Thank goodness she is no longer at our school.

Betty


His teacher would tap over and over on their foreheads to get blood to their
brains. I had a conference with her about his. I did not like my child
repeatedly having someone thug him on the forhead. She made it seems as though
I overreacted, but with his connective tissue disorder and the fact I teach
them no one is to touch them, especially painfully and then...well, I am
confused myself, but I did not like it at all. How would you guys have handled
this situation?
curiously,
V


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Old February 22nd 04, 12:22 AM
V
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Oh Kate...thanks for the reminder....it will only get worse! hee hee....
V
'Kate wrote in message news
On Fri, 20 Feb 2004 22:28:14 GMT, "V"
10 years old and the amount of homework is amazing!
Whoo..


Like David said... make it a habit and it'll become automatic. You'll
have to keep on him when he starts to slack off and you may have to call
a few teachers to ask about homework (they lie you know) but it'll pay
off.

If it helps any, lots of 10 year old boys go through this. Next stage
is forgetting to hand it in or give you notes from teachers. Then the
report card, absence notes, etc... oh it's lots 'o fun.

'Kate



  #19  
Old February 22nd 04, 12:23 AM
V
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Betty, we live FAR out in the country. Hell we just got
internet...kidding....I just miss them because I am in school, or else I would
pick them up.
V
"Betty" wrote in message
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"V" wrote in message
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hey Betty. The problem is that they do not get off the bus until 4:30.
V



Bus? You mean not all of your kids live across the street from the school
like mine? LOL

Sorry, I guess I forgot how easy I have it living so close.

Also, getting off work at 2:45 and home by 3:00 sure helps too!

Betty




  #20  
Old February 22nd 04, 12:29 AM
V
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"Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message
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homework hassles

Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Fri, Feb 20, 2004, 2:41am
(EST+5) From: (V)

It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to
do his work from school. He doddles. I take away privlidges, games, etc.
to no avail. OMG I feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it
is not done. Any suggestions?
V


Bev wrote:
I have two very different children as well, My first in no way prepared
me for the second ! LOL! Jessica is the one that it all came to easy ,
Sara has learning disabilities and so also has an IEP.
Homework time with Sara was a very frustrating time for both of us,
From the 4th grade on was a struggle and I was told her disabilities are
what made it hard. I was told to do exactly what everyone here has
suggested, taking out the distractions was a big improvement. Right or
wrong what I did was make a schedule around her. I gave her an hour
after school to unwind and get a break from that stuff, We would use
the kitchen so that I could go back and forth from preparing dinner, and
be there in the same room, if it was more difficult I would leave the
meal go ( a good idea is to have stuff prepared in advance in your
freezer and pop it in the oven ! Some nights cereal was supper and that
is O.K. on occasion. A limit of time spent was good so we would divide
the work up in piles and say this is first and after a break we will do
that etc. this encouraged her cause she knew another break was coming
After eating I let her have more free time , and I also found any
reading was good to save to last when we could cuddle up in the big
chair and share some really good time together ! Of course as she got
bigger the chair really became uncomfortable. Hope this helps, just
remember it takes a lot of patience and with a bit of organization some
of the stress will be relieved. Good luck . Bev


Thank you Bev. The groups reaction of moving anything distracting was also
something my sister (who was a child counselor) told me to do as well. She
also said stay close, yet as Joelle said, natural consequences will also play
a part.
This has been ongoing since he was in school. I have not set up an IEP but it
might be needed with Aspberger's Syndrome. He has a mild case, and the
psychiatrist and I decided until it got bad to then do it. Frankly I just do
not know if this is part of the autism or if it is just his nature. And also
it amazes me how a child can memorize everything about the solar system and
get frustrated with timed math problems.
Take care,
V


 




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