NC Child-Support

I live in North Carolina. I currently pay child support through the
court system. It was started when the mother of my kids requested it
be paid about 9 years ago. Never behind or anything like that, but
need to know how to get it reduced. My ex and I are in total agreement
about what she wants to receive each month (believe it or not!). It's
considerably lower that what I'm paying. My question, can she simple
request a lower amount from DSS or do we have to involve lawyers and
the whole mess? Remember, she requested this to begin with, the system
only makes sure it's paid on time.

"Gre0145" wrote
I live in North Carolina. I currently pay child support through the
court system. It was started when the mother of my kids requested it
be paid about 9 years ago. Never behind or anything like that, but
need to know how to get it reduced. My ex and I are in total agreement
about what she wants to receive each month (believe it or not!). It's
considerably lower that what I'm paying. My question, can she simple
request a lower amount from DSS or do we have to involve lawyers and
the whole mess? Remember, she requested this to begin with, the system
only makes sure it's paid on time.
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Courts frequently take the position that CPs do not have the right to
bargain away
the child's support. Yep. Once courts are involved, they make the decisions
for
both parties with the assumption that they are better deciders re the best
interest
of the child. So, it depends on the judge's mood that day.

On Aug 3, 12:30 pm, Gre0145 wrote:
I live in North Carolina. I currently pay child support through the
court system. It was started when the mother of my kids requested it
be paid about 9 years ago. Never behind or anything like that, but
need to know how to get it reduced. My ex and I are in total agreement
about what she wants to receive each month (believe it or not!). It's
considerably lower that what I'm paying. My question, can she simple
request a lower amount from DSS or do we have to involve lawyers and
the whole mess? Remember, she requested this to begin with, the system
only makes sure it's paid on time.

You don't necessarily need a lawyer to file a motion for a reduction.
If you aren't familiar with court procedures and forms, etc. you might
check the Web site for the family court in North Carolina. The forms
you need and the instructions for filing may be there for you.

Gini is correct though -- just because your ex doesn't object to you
paying less doesn't mean the court will agree. If you know for a
fact, however, that you are paying above the guideline amount for your
income, you may have a chance at getting a reduction.

Find out what the NC guidelines say for your situation. Sometimes
there are free calculators out there on the Web. If after crunching
the numbers you are confident you are paying above the guidelines,
consider filing for a reduction. Be careful though -- if you make a
mistake in your calculations or understanding of the law, the judge
could find that you are underpaying, and you might end up being
ordered to pay more. It is always a risk revisiting CS amounts.

Good luck.

"Gre0145" wrote in message
ups.com...
I live in North Carolina. I currently pay child support through the
court system. It was started when the mother of my kids requested it
be paid about 9 years ago. Never behind or anything like that, but
need to know how to get it reduced. My ex and I are in total agreement
about what she wants to receive each month (believe it or not!). It's
considerably lower that what I'm paying. My question, can she simple
request a lower amount from DSS or do we have to involve lawyers and
the whole mess? Remember, she requested this to begin with, the system
only makes sure it's paid on time.

The two of you can make the change immediately, since you are in agreement,
before DSS gets involved to formally reduce the amount paid. All you have
to do is continue paying the previously ordered amount (so you get credit
for paying it) and she can send you a refund directly.

Even if the court won't agree with your parenting plan and CS amount the two
of you can work it out by using the payment/credit process like the one
above.

On Aug 3, 6:00 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote:
"Gre0145" wrote in message

ups.com...

I live in North Carolina. I currently pay child support through the
court system. It was started when the mother of my kids requested it
be paid about 9 years ago. Never behind or anything like that, but
need to know how to get it reduced. My ex and I are in total agreement
about what she wants to receive each month (believe it or not!). It's
considerably lower that what I'm paying. My question, can she simple
request a lower amount from DSS or do we have to involve lawyers and
the whole mess? Remember, she requested this to begin with, the system
only makes sure it's paid on time.

The two of you can make the change immediately, since you are in agreement,
before DSS gets involved to formally reduce the amount paid. All you have
to do is continue paying the previously ordered amount (so you get credit
for paying it) and she can send you a refund directly.

Even if the court won't agree with your parenting plan and CS amount the two
of you can work it out by using the payment/credit process like the one
above.

I thought about that but I'm trying to show income to a bank in order
to get a home loan. Doubt they will consider that income. The sad fact
is my ex-wifes husband makes twice what I make so they are in great
shape financially. But, they don't consider the spouses income in this
type of situation, right? Only hers. Since he is not the biological
father.

"Gre0145" wrote in

I thought about that but I'm trying to show income to a bank in order
to get a home loan. Doubt they will consider that income. The sad fact
is my ex-wifes husband makes twice what I make so they are in great
shape financially. But, they don't consider the spouses income in this
type of situation, right? Only hers. Since he is not the biological
father.


In reality, the government conceders your life worthless as only the needs
of the mother and child matter.
If your income has not changed, there is no grounds for a reduction.