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Some questions from a friend
Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some
research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified. He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and most likely to keep it. My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still on birth control. He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do. Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship with the child he didn't want to create in the first place. |
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Some questions from a friend
On Jul 31, 1:42?pm, wrote:
Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified. He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and most likely to keep it. My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still on birth control. He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do. Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship with the child he didn't want to create in the first place. He needs to determine paternity through a DNA test and if the father, accept he will be a living wallet for the next 18 years. And learn how to use a rubber. |
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Some questions from a friend
wrote in He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do. Does anyone have any advice? The laws of the land can and will hold him hostage for the next 18 years! Best thing he can do is convince and make clear to the mother that he wants total separation from her and her child. She might see the light and free him from this burden, but unfortunately it's her call. |
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Some questions from a friend
"DB" wrote wrote in He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do. Does anyone have any advice? The laws of the land can and will hold him hostage for the next 18 years! Best thing he can do is convince and make clear to the mother that he wants total separation from her and her child. She might see the light and free him from this burden, but unfortunately it's her call. == Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent cannot bargain away the child's right to support. == |
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Some questions from a friend
"Gini" wrote in Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent cannot bargain away the child's right to support. She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this! |
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Some questions from a friend
"DB" wrote "Gini" wrote in Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent cannot bargain away the child's right to support. She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this! == It can if she ever goes on welfare. Anyway, I was responding to your statement that any agreement is up to the CP. And, yes she can make a deal but if the courts ever get involved (if she goes on welfare or simply changes her mind) the court will likely "overrule" any prior agreements she made. Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs. |
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Some questions from a friend
"Gini" wrote in Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs. Yea, basically he's at her mercy!!!!!!! |
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Some questions from a friend
wrote in message ups.com... Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified. He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and most likely to keep it. My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still on birth control. He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do. Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship with the child he didn't want to create in the first place. He has no choice. In this country he's a second class citizen with basically no rights. |
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Some questions from a friend
"Gini" wrote in message newssPri.4708$oW3.458@trndny08... "DB" wrote "Gini" wrote in Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent cannot bargain away the child's right to support. She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this! == It can if she ever goes on welfare. I fail to see the difference. Anyway, I was responding to your statement that any agreement is up to the CP. And, yes she can make a deal but if the courts ever get involved (if she goes on welfare or simply changes her mind) the court will likely "overrule" any prior agreements she made. Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs. |
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