If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#51
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
I don't think so. In fact, I probably won't really leave her with anyone
until she's 2, at which time she'll start pre-school 4 hours a day (because studies have shown that up to 20 hours of pre-school/daycare per week is actually beneficial for social development). Sorry folks, one more thing. Actually, I disagree with this. I think going to preschool at 2 yrs old is too young and at four hours a day is a long time for a little one. Preferable age for preschool for us is 4 yrs old. Having said that though, DD1 and DD2 went to preschool at 3 years old. DD1 because of her disability and DD3 because she begged to go to school and be like her sisters. So she went at 3 yrs old and it was fine. I've never seen this research, but it seems to me 20hrs from none is a huge jump. I would have thought that other activities are as valuable, for example, toddler groups, family groups that kind of thing. We tend to do something most mornings, some are activities where the children go to a creche, which is a structured activity, not just stop the children from crying for 2hrs, also we go to groups where we sit down and have meal together, do parachute play, all sorts of things. Plus, setting down a fixed ages is so arbitraray, DS was so not ready at age 2, now at almost 3, he is desperate to be independent and do something, but I suspect 20hrs would still be too much. He will go is September 5 mornings a week 2.5hrs a morning. Anne |
#52
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
emilymr wrote: Sorry for the sarcasm/exaggeration, but I find this line of thinking almost as implausible as the idea that my post-false-negative-PT winetasting trip gave my 1/4-Japanese child red hair and blue eyes. :P Don't get me wrong; I *do* believe there are many things we as parents can do to screw up our kids. I also think most of these things fall into pretty well-defined categories of abuse - categories that everyone on this board would agree with. I'm NOT as convinced that detailed parenting choices we make will (automatically) result in independent, loving, self-disciplined, attached, spiritual, [fill in your desired characteristic] child. I think we can (and should) try and foster these characteristics, but we're dealing with individual children with their own personalities and propensities - not blank slates. Please -- I *knew* that the choices I made helped DD1 to become the amazing child that she was and is, and that any, well, misbehavior was due to something she obviously learned from another kid. But clearly, everything that was positive was a result of my own efforts. Then I had baby #2. Oh. Caledonia |
#53
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Caledonia" wrote in message oups.com... Please -- I *knew* that the choices I made helped DD1 to become the amazing child that she was and is, and that any, well, misbehavior was due to something she obviously learned from another kid. But clearly, everything that was positive was a result of my own efforts. Then I had baby #2. Oh. Isn't that the truth. Oh my, and #3 and #4 have really only reinforced what I learned when #2 came along. -- Joy Rose 1-99 Iris 2-01 Spencer 3-03 Grant 9-05 www.caringbridge.org/visit/grantphilip |
#54
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Sue" wrote in message ... Or, if you want to travel, you can go with her and stay with her at his parents for a week, but there is NO way that I would allow my daughter to go anywhere for that long without me. None. Not under any circumstances in the world. Not even if I were in the hospital or something. Good God... Sometimes life gets in the way. I am glad that you don't have any circumstances in your life to ever be away. I hope it stays that way. I had to be away from my kids during some points of their lives because of DD1 special needs and being in the hospital for months at a time. Middle daugher was around 8 months when DD1 had to be in the hospital. I had to have strangers/family/friends/husband keep her. It wasn't the end of the earth for her because I have made sure that my kids are exposed to other people for this very reason. Then I had to be away when DD3 was 4 and DD2 was 5 for three months, again for a hospitalization. It was harder because they were older, but again since I have exposed them to other people, they did fine. And of course dad was with them as much as he could. I think your untrusting of people is really OTT. Sometimes a person just cannot help situations. The OP situation is of course optional, but still I have left my girls with my mom so hubby and I could go on a trip. I trust my family and I trust the people that cared for my kids when I couldn't be there. Coming home from a six day hospital stay, I have to agree with life and circumstances changing things. I'm awfully grateful for the people in my life that have come through for us. It's been tough for my kids because they've been so used to having me here (they are 3, 5 and 7), but they're making it (so am I!). I feel their (and mine) lives have been enriched by the generous and loving people who have helped so much. You (general you) can only do the best with the cards you're dealt, and I think, Sue, that you are doing a terrific job. -- Joy Rose 1-99 Iris 2-01 Spencer 3-03 Grant 9-05 www.caringbridge.org/visit/grantphilip |
#55
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
oregonchick writes:
: My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the : US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this : year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to : drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. : Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the : house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect : care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. : Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her : being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents : will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel : a little guilty. : Opinions? Yes, of course. Oh, you actually wanted someone to tell you what their opinion is. :-) It is quite simple. Go along and stay with your husband's parents for the week. J'espere que tu parle Allemange. Whoops, that's the wrong language. Ich hoffe dass du Deutsch sprechen. :-) Now, you might think of all the reasons why it isn't practical for you to go, (or your DH thinks of all the reasons...), but in this situation I think it is the only solution that is a win for everybody. : Betsy Hope this works, Larry |
#56
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
"Joybelle" wrote in message
Coming home from a six day hospital stay, I have to agree with life and circumstances changing things. I'm awfully grateful for the people in my life that have come through for us. It's been tough for my kids because they've been so used to having me here (they are 3, 5 and 7), but they're making it (so am I!). I feel their (and mine) lives have been enriched by the generous and loving people who have helped so much. You (general you) can only do the best with the cards you're dealt, and I think, Sue, that you are doing a terrific job. Thank you Joybelle. I think you are doing an awesome job yourself. My kids too were used to me being around all the time and it was hard for them, mostly my youngest though because she didn't have the experience of being with other people. My middle one just rolls with the punches. I am very grateful that A hasn't had to be in the hospital for a while (knock on wood). We just celebrated 13 years out from her liver transplant on May 3rd and I am very grateful for every day that I am allowed to have her with us. Hang in there Joybelle. ) -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
#57
|
|||
|
|||
your opinion please ( baby traveling away from mom)
wrote in message ... oregonchick writes: : My husband is from Germany. All his family is still there (We're in the : US). He travels back there for business trips about once a year, and this : year it will probably be in August. He wants to take the baby with him to : drop off at his parents while he is there on business for a whole week. : Emily will be 8 months at that time. My husband will not be staying at the : house for that time period. He assures me that his mother will take perfect : care of Emily, but I feel sooo uncomfortable with this on so many levels. : Regardless of whether or not she takes perfect care, I can't imagine her : being gone for a whole week, being so far away, etc. Of course his parents : will have very limited opportunities to see their ONLY grandchild, so I feel : a little guilty. : Opinions? Yes, of course. Oh, you actually wanted someone to tell you what their opinion is. :-) It is quite simple. Go along and stay with your husband's parents for the week. J'espere que tu parle Allemange. Whoops, that's the wrong language. Ich hoffe dass du Deutsch sprechen. :-) Now, you might think of all the reasons why it isn't practical for you to go, (or your DH thinks of all the reasons...), but in this situation I think it is the only solution that is a win for everybody. : Betsy Hope this works, Larry Thanks Larry, with all things considered, you are probably right. |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
misc.kids FAQ on Nursing Strikes | [email protected] | Info and FAQ's | 0 | July 31st 05 05:24 AM |
misc.kids FAQ on Nursing Strikes | [email protected] | Info and FAQ's | 0 | May 30th 05 05:28 AM |
misc.kids FAQ on Nursing Strikes | [email protected] | Info and FAQ's | 0 | April 30th 05 05:24 AM |
misc.kids FAQ on Nursing Strikes | [email protected] | Info and FAQ's | 0 | March 30th 05 06:34 AM |
misc.kids FAQ on Nursing Strikes | [email protected] | Info and FAQ's | 0 | February 16th 04 09:59 AM |