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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok@4ax. com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok@4ax .com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
On Jul 16, 10:51 am, "Chris" wrote:
"John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Sat, 14 Jul 2007 23:19:35 -0700, " wrote: Yeah. You read that right. He drove all the way from Arizona to Ukiah in California and shot the succubus in the head. And then he walked next door to the courthouse and surrendered. You gotta hand it to him. There's only so much abuse a man can take before reacting. And this is the kind of man that pushes back, violently. So he'll spend the rest of his life with another guy in a tiny bunk-bed prison cell, instead of being out and economizing, or even running away to Brazil and starting over there. That doesn't sound like a sensible reaction to me. It does to someone who believes in erasing wicked people. John HE SHOULD HAVE KEPT HIS DICK IN HIS PANTS! OR AT BEST IF HE DIDN'T WANT KIDS GET A VASECTOMY. BUT NOW BECAUSE HE COULD NOT CONTROL HIS NEEDS TO GET LAID, A WOMEN IS DEAD AND A CHILD IS PARENTLESS! YOU CALL THIS A SENSIBLE REACTION? FREAK! |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok@4a x.com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. So let's get this down to your personal opinion--not that it is any more important than mine or any other individual's when it comes to the child support system. Do you, personally, think that a woman should be able to have a child without informing the father, raise that child for 12 years, then demand 12 years of back child support and ongoing support? (Barring any sort of abuse, of course) Do you think this is right? |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"timley" wrote in message oups.com... On Jul 16, 10:51 am, "Chris" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Sat, 14 Jul 2007 23:19:35 -0700, " wrote: Yeah. You read that right. He drove all the way from Arizona to Ukiah in California and shot the succubus in the head. And then he walked next door to the courthouse and surrendered. You gotta hand it to him. There's only so much abuse a man can take before reacting. And this is the kind of man that pushes back, violently. So he'll spend the rest of his life with another guy in a tiny bunk-bed prison cell, instead of being out and economizing, or even running away to Brazil and starting over there. That doesn't sound like a sensible reaction to me. It does to someone who believes in erasing wicked people. John HE SHOULD HAVE KEPT HIS DICK IN HIS PANTS! OR AT BEST IF HE DIDN'T WANT KIDS GET A VASECTOMY. BUT NOW BECAUSE HE COULD NOT CONTROL HIS NEEDS TO GET LAID, A WOMEN IS DEAD AND A CHILD IS PARENTLESS! YOU CALL THIS A SENSIBLE REACTION? FREAK! Of course he should not have killed her!! That is outrageous!! But do you think it was ok for her to keep his child from him for all those years, and not demand child support until after the child was an adult? |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok@4 ax.com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. So let's get this down to your personal opinion--not that it is any more important than mine or any other individual's when it comes to the child support system. Do you, personally, think that a woman should be able to have a child without informing the father, raise that child for 12 years, then demand 12 years of back child support and ongoing support? (Barring any sort of abuse, of course) Do you think this is right? **No I don't. As I said it was her choice to keep the father away from the child not his. Whay should he have to pay for her choice? Now, if the mother is prepared to allow the father visitation and allow him to get to know his child. I think from that point on out he should pay child support. Hard to pay for something you didn't even know you had. |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok@ 4ax.com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. So let's get this down to your personal opinion--not that it is any more important than mine or any other individual's when it comes to the child support system. Do you, personally, think that a woman should be able to have a child without informing the father, raise that child for 12 years, then demand 12 years of back child support and ongoing support? (Barring any sort of abuse, of course) Do you think this is right? **No I don't. As I said it was her choice to keep the father away from the child not his. Whay should he have to pay for her choice? Now, if the mother is prepared to allow the father visitation and allow him to get to know his child. I think from that point on out he should pay child support. Hard to pay for something you didn't even know you had. Yes, that's my take on it also. Some places, however, still charge a man back to the birth of the child, no matter what. Other places have recognized the unfairness of using a man as a savings account without his knowledge, and limit the amount of time they charge for. Some have refused to charge any arrearages at all in such situations. From your experience growing up without your father, I can see that you realize first hand how important it is for a child to have his/ father in his/her life. I wish more people understood that money will never replace a father. Nor can the hole in the father's heart be healed by telling him "but you get to pay for all the time you missed." |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok @4ax.com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. So let's get this down to your personal opinion--not that it is any more important than mine or any other individual's when it comes to the child support system. Do you, personally, think that a woman should be able to have a child without informing the father, raise that child for 12 years, then demand 12 years of back child support and ongoing support? (Barring any sort of abuse, of course) Do you think this is right? **No I don't. As I said it was her choice to keep the father away from the child not his. Whay should he have to pay for her choice? Now, if the mother is prepared to allow the father visitation and allow him to get to know his child. I think from that point on out he should pay child support. Hard to pay for something you didn't even know you had. Yes, that's my take on it also. Some places, however, still charge a man back to the birth of the child, no matter what. Other places have recognized the unfairness of using a man as a savings account without his knowledge, and limit the amount of time they charge for. Some have refused to charge any arrearages at all in such situations. From your experience growing up without your father, I can see that you realize first hand how important it is for a child to have his/ father in his/her life. I wish more people understood that money will never replace a father. Nor can the hole in the father's heart be healed by telling him "but you get to pay for all the time you missed." ** Well, I had to leave my son's father. He was very abusive to me and was starting on our son. I could handle it, but you don't beat on a 1 1/2 year old because he won't stop crying because he doesn't want a nap. He had anxiety issues and was being medicated for about a month. Then he quit. He promised month after month to go back but it never happened. AFter 3 months State troppers knock on my door because my husband was caught on surveillance cameras stealing over 1200.00 for his job.( he worked retail). I couldn't handle anymore. I gave him an easy choice. He could forego paying support by just signing him totally over to me. He refused. He paid child support. He couldn't keep a job,and was constantly behind on his payments. In over 4 years, he never once tried to see his son yet would tell me that the name is what's important ( mind you the child knows nothing about the family name since his father never saw him) and that he still loves him. I never will understand my ex-husbands philosophy on all of this. But Alas, I have remarried and Next month we all go downtown to swear in front of the judge that my husband is adopting my son. his father finally.. (after 7 years) realizes that our son is better off having a father who does things with him and takes care of him. So I guess my story DOES have a happy ending April |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"timley" wrote in message oups.com... On Jul 16, 10:51 am, "Chris" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Sat, 14 Jul 2007 23:19:35 -0700, " wrote: Yeah. You read that right. He drove all the way from Arizona to Ukiah in California and shot the succubus in the head. And then he walked next door to the courthouse and surrendered. You gotta hand it to him. There's only so much abuse a man can take before reacting. And this is the kind of man that pushes back, violently. So he'll spend the rest of his life with another guy in a tiny bunk-bed prison cell, instead of being out and economizing, or even running away to Brazil and starting over there. That doesn't sound like a sensible reaction to me. It does to someone who believes in erasing wicked people. John HE SHOULD HAVE KEPT HIS DICK IN HIS PANTS! OR AT BEST IF HE DIDN'T WANT KIDS GET A VASECTOMY. BUT NOW BECAUSE HE COULD NOT CONTROL HIS NEEDS TO GET LAID, A WOMEN IS DEAD AND A CHILD IS PARENTLESS! YOU CALL THIS A SENSIBLE REACTION? I call it consequences of her wicked behavior. FREAK! New word or favorite word? |
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Man walks into office and kills ex-girlfriend over child support
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "April" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "John Larkin" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:56:31 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: "John Larkin" wrote in message news:k58r9314s5d0bpnn6tgndii8k5tmpcnvok @4ax.com... On Tue, 17 Jul 2007 20:38:32 -0700, "teachrmama" wrote: John, think about it. How would you feel in a situation like that. (And please don't go all preachy on me and tell me how you would *never* behave in such a way as to create such a problem) I have no idea. I wouldn't get into a situation like that. How did I know that you were going to say that. So, John, I would like a bit of clarification from you. Do you feel that it is ok for a woman to conceal from a man the fact that he is a father until 12 years have passed, then demand current child support plus 12 years of back support? Do you feel that she is doing right by the child to deny that child a father for 12 years so she can build herself a nice nest egg? I'd prefer she didn't, but then if she has fed, housed, and cared for his kid for 12 years, don't you think he owes her something? Even if she collects $84K, that amounts to $7000 a year, about 80 cents an hour, not to mention expenses like food and clothing and medical. I would say that when the woman can give the man HIS SHARE of the hugs and kisses, the first steps and first sords, the firts day of schools, the "let's paly ball, Dad's" and wrestling matches and dancing-on-Daddy's-feets, and all the other wonderful growing up memories that dad's and kids share, then and only then should he pay her "child support" for all the years she stole from him and his child. If SHE made the unilateral decision to be a single parent for 12 years (while keeping all the wonders of the child's growing and development for herself), she should be not only willing, but obligated, to pay the price herself. If you gave your friend a lawnmower, and he mowed your lawn for you for 5 years, but only did it while you were at work, and never told you he was doing it, would you be willing to fork over several thousand dollars when he demanded it at the end of 5 years? Sorry, but I see too many men who abuse their children or spouses to totally agree with you. To make my point, if you gave your friend a lawnmower and he broke it while doing your lawn.... should YOU have to pay for it? Oh, I see. Because some men abuse their children, all men should be handed the sh*tty end of the stick? ** I'm not saying that. You were making a genaralization and so was I. Each case is different. That doesn't even begin to make sense, April. Are you attempting to say that a woman who has a child without informing the man that she is pregnant, then demands 12 years of back child support plus ongoing support has the RIGHT to do that. because some men have been abusive? **Nope, wasn't attempting. No proof necessary that this particular man might become abusive--just the woman's unilateral decision? I've known some mothers who have abused their children--does that mean that it is ok with you that a father could take his child and run off with the child, and 12 years later demand 12 years of back child support? ** My Mother left my father with me when I was 2, After 30 years, I finally found my father. My mother told me lies all my life. I WAS an abused child. Mentally, Physically and Emotionally by her. My mother doesn't deserve anything. It was her choice to keep me away from my father all those years and deprive me of having him in my formative years. ( doesn't matter, come to find out I was always like him even when he wasn't around lol) I'm just saying you were generalizing in your post so I retorted doing the same. I don't totally disagree with you but I don't totally agree either. There are exceptions. But, unfortunately, the current CS law does not recognize that. It's "victim mommy" deserves the money becuase she raised the child alone. I do not think that a mother who purposely keeps a child from the father deserves a flipping penny whe she finally proves paternity. IF she is doing because of abuse, she needs to PROVE it!! But the system doesn't care about anything except the almighty dollar. To heck with a child's need to have 2 parents--only money matters. ** Isn't that the way the world is with EVERYTHING? Sad I know, but it's the truth. Money is the most important thing to most ppl anymore. Not values.. and certainly not morals. So let's get this down to your personal opinion--not that it is any more important than mine or any other individual's when it comes to the child support system. Do you, personally, think that a woman should be able to have a child without informing the father, raise that child for 12 years, then demand 12 years of back child support and ongoing support? (Barring any sort of abuse, of course) Do you think this is right? **No I don't. As I said it was her choice to keep the father away from the child not his. Whay should he have to pay for her choice? Now, if the mother is prepared to allow the father visitation and allow him to get to know his child. I think from that point on out he should pay child support. Hard to pay for something you didn't even know you had. Yes, that's my take on it also. Some places, however, still charge a man back to the birth of the child, no matter what. Other places have recognized the unfairness of using a man as a savings account without his knowledge, and limit the amount of time they charge for. Some have refused to charge any arrearages at all in such situations. My state treats retroactive CS differently for never married parents versus married/separated/divorced parents. The court has no authority to set retroactive CS during a marriage dissolution and can only provide for the future care and maintenance of a child. But in never married cases the court has the authority to set past and future CS as well as order payments for pre-natal, childbirth, and post-natal care of a child. |
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