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How do you decide?
"Shirley M...have a goodaa \\;-)" wrote:
Something that I have found is that they need to know they have strong points in different things. Whether they are in the same class or not believe me, they know. They hear each other read, do math or just question/answer things. It is sooo important to stress that even though they are twins, they are very different and have different talents. One may be better at math or reading, but the other might be better at drawing. My DS is a fantastic artist, it shows in everything that he does, he has a perceptive eye that can distinguish symmetry, lines, distance, etc. His sister doesn't have any of those skills and does talk about how Chris is better at drawing. Chris's art teacher is the same one Kathleen has and he works with all kids, but has said many times how talented Chris is, of course he doesn't say that Kathleen isn't but it's there just by the grades he gets. She is a wonderful Irish Dancer, passionate, dedicated and very artistic in her presentation. Something that even Chris says he of course could never achieve. I try to stress over and over, just as everyone has a burden to carry in life (loss of parents, disease or other things - in our house Chris has seizures and medicine and tests that he has to live with), each one of us also has a talent that grows and needs to be fed. They will be compared all of their lives, maybe not directly but they compare each other - especially as they get older, and you would be lying if you told both they were equal in everything. It's more truthful to let them know how they are talented and what they seem to excel in. BTW, Kathleen is a straight A student (Chris A/B). She retains some things quicker and school work comes easier to her than him. They see that too, one seems to have to study more than the other. Chris write better, I could go on and on. But it will start to grow and I think especially with multiples you have to be prepared to be honest but supportive. Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 Each child's strong points should be noted and encouraged - as they need it. However, I would advise caution on any scale that starts them competing to excell at the same things (or stop excelling so as to not be different). I've unfortunately met some multiples who had learned either side of these abnormal attitudes. That is why I dislike seeing a statement of a teacher comparing two students who share a last name. In the school situation, it's more informative for the parents to know if the student(s) abilities are consistently improving over time compared to that child's starting point. (Comparison to an average for the age is useful for determining special needs or assistance - whether it be tutoring to bring up to the norm or additional activities to avoid boredom.) For something like reading skills, comparing siblings can lead to odd anomalies in evaluating their skills. I'm a faster reader than my sister and this sometimes made me seem like a better reader. However throughout school we were both considered advanced compared to our age-groups averages. The major difference was that I completed more questions on the tests - no significant differences in comprehension for the material we both completed. Cindy Wells (who excelled in the humanities and did reasonably well in math and science; both of my siblings were better with the math and science. However when we went off to our various college experiences, I chose to major in chemistry at a school with a good liberal arts program available for my electives (coursework outside of the major was required). My sister went to an engineering college where there were fewer humanities requirements. After those programs we both went on to do grad work in our respective majors.) |
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