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Toddler meltdown
My son is 19 months old and spends 3-4 days a week in daycare. I work
full time and his dad works a rotating shift, so he's home with our son some days during the week. On the days he's at daycare, he's unfortunately there for 10 hours, which is obviously a really long day for him. When we get home, I usually fix him a quick snack and talk/play with him for a few minutes before starting dinner... but it seems no matter what, he goes into meltdown mode very quickly. I try engaging him in helping me with dinner (stirring, putting items in the pot, putting things in the trash, etc), which works for a few minutes, but the meltdown always happens... he ends up standing in the middle of the room with crocodile tears and a snotty nose just screaming inconsolably. He doesn't want me to hug or hold him and tells me "shut up" when I try and usually tries to hit me. Any ideas on how to make the transition from daycare to home any easier on him? I've been back at work for almost 5 months now and this started rather randomly about 2 months ago. Kim |
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Hi Kim,
Maybe dinnertime could be changed? My first thought was 'Kim needs a crockpot!'! And not just for your son's sake.... if I imagine doing your day: get ready, drop off, work, pick-up, dinner... I want to know where the 'relax' part comes in! If the relaxing doesn't happen til after your boy is in bed, then it means he doesn't get to enjoy it. On workdays, if your time with your son mostly happens between daycare pickup and bedtime, then why not have dinner later? Don't just play with him for a few minutes when you get home... Come home and focus on relaxing together for a while..give both of you a break! Ate his age, a kid needs to feel some sense of control. Daycare is awesome for alot of things (creative outlets, socializing, etc.), but the structure of daycare doesn't do enough for a toddlers need to explore being 'in charge'. I bet if you came home and made the first 45 minutes 'his time', and really played with him, you'd see a difference. And it really is less work than starting dinner, haha..... you could just flop onto his bed and engage him, ask him about his toys, chat with him, and snuggle (if he is the kind that will stay still, haha) Good luck |
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Kim wrote:
When we get home, I usually fix him a quick snack and talk/play with him for a few minutes before starting dinner... but it seems no matter what, he goes into meltdown mode very quickly. What does he get for snack? Is it something high sugar that has a quick blood sugar high then blood sugar drop? Or - the other idea of a crock pot dinner may be a good thing to try. -- Anita -- |
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Toddler meltdown
Kim wrote:
My son is 19 months old and spends 3-4 days a week in daycare. I work full time and his dad works a rotating shift, so he's home with our son some days during the week. On the days he's at daycare, he's unfortunately there for 10 hours, which is obviously a really long day for him. When we get home, I usually fix him a quick snack and talk/play with him for a few minutes before starting dinner... but it seems no matter what, he goes into meltdown mode very quickly. I try engaging him in helping me with dinner (stirring, putting items in the pot, putting things in the trash, etc), which works for a few minutes, but the meltdown always happens... he ends up standing in the middle of the room with crocodile tears and a snotty nose just screaming inconsolably. He doesn't want me to hug or hold him and tells me "shut up" when I try and usually tries to hit me. Any ideas on how to make the transition from daycare to home any easier on him? I've been back at work for almost 5 months now and this started rather randomly about 2 months ago. My eldest was a similar age when he started having meltdowns like this. It was nothing to do with daycare (he was at home with me). I never found an adequete way of stopping them, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in the problem. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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