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Neighbours kids
On Fri, 22 Aug 2003 18:11:37 +0200, Barbara Bomberger
wrote: It has been woth every step. In most neighborhoods, even with every mom home, some specific house eventually becomes the kids home away from home. I want it to be mine. Barb Yes, that was how I was too. I would much rather the kids all be at my house than anywhere else and it meant that I was privy to the information about what was happening because the kids hung around and even slept on my living room floor sometimes as teens. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. Outer Limits |
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"Gill" wrote: I have an only child aged 6. recently she has started playing with the neighbours kids. The problem is they seem to spend all of their time at our house as the other Mums don't seem to want a bunch of kids at their house. I don't mind 3 or 4 times a week for a couple of hours a day, but sometimes the kids want to come over all day, every day, and constantly knock, even if I have told them 10 minutes before DD isn't playing. When I send the kids home my DD gets upset as she wants to play. I feel like I am some kind of unpaid babysitter. Also a 10 yr old girl my DD plays with has started bringing her 14 yr old brother over. Now I don't mind the 10 yr old here, but I don't want a 14 yr old boy in the house. he is no trouble, but I just don't think its appropriate. How do I explain to DD and the boy and his sister that the boy is not welcome here, without causing a row. Please help! As others have said, my own preference would be to have all the kids at my house, anyway. As far as the 14 yo goes -- it could be a problem, or he could just be bored and looking for something new. How about trying to befriend him, and engage his assistance in entertaining the younger kids/cleaning up, etc? I find that kids this age are often fascinating friends -- you can learn a lot about what your own kids will be facing soon, about the local neighborhood, and might serve as a source of comfort or support for a lonely kid, or just a mentor for a normal 14 yo. meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Gill" wrote
Also a 10 yr old girl my DD plays with has started bringing her 14 yr old brother over. Now I don't mind the 10 yr old here, but I don't want a 14 yr old boy in the house. he is no trouble, but I just don't think its appropriate. How do I explain to DD and the boy and his sister that the boy is not welcome here, without causing a row. What does the boy do when he's there? I have a lot of teenage neices and nephews and some, though not all -- both boys and girls -- seem to get a pretty big kick out of playing with my little ones. I think that many 14 YOs, esp. boys, are often still little kids at heart. If he is a nice normal boy, which you haven't said anything to contradict, he may be thinking it's fun to play with a little kid but I doubt he would want to come over much for long. If he's really good with her, I'd consider him babysitting material! Even though I do not share everyone else's assumption that the kid's either weird or desperate, I do sympathize with the fact that a 14 YO in the house (girl or boy) makes for a different occasion than having another 6 YO over. We know a big family of girls and sometimes one of the older ones does ask to come along with her little sister to play with my 5 YO DD. It's actually really nice for everyone, but I tend to feel I have to clean up a bit more and stuff like that. What I might do is ask the kids -- both -- to call before coming over. You could say it's because your DD gets upset when you turn them away. That way, when they call, if you don;'t want eiethr, then you say no and there's no tantrum. if you want only the younger child, you can say, e.g., "I'm not up for a bigger gathering; why doesn't Sue just come over alone today and we'll have John come over some other time?" However, if the boy appears problematic in any way, then of course other steps would be necessary. |
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"Brandy Kurtz" wrote in message om... "Gill" wrote in message ... I have an only child aged 6. recently she has started playing with the neighbours kids. The problem is they seem to spend all of their time at our house as the other Mums don't seem to want a bunch of kids at their house. I don't mind 3 or 4 times a week for a couple of hours a day, but sometimes the kids want to come over all day, every day, and constantly knock, even if I have told them 10 minutes before DD isn't playing. When I send the kids home my DD gets upset as she wants to play. I feel like I am some kind of unpaid babysitter. Also a 10 yr old girl my DD plays with has started bringing her 14 yr old brother over. Now I don't mind the 10 yr old here, but I don't want a 14 yr old boy in the house. he is no trouble, but I just don't think its appropriate. How do I explain to DD and the boy and his sister that the boy is not welcome here, without causing a row. Please help! Ugh, I am in the same boat as you are. When I tell this one cetain boy that the kids can't play yet, he will go in our backyard and play on the swingsett until I get sick of him knocking and just make them go out. It drives me bonkers. The other night he was here until 10 pm, and his parents didn't care. He starts knocking at 9 am, and if I let him in, he will be here until my kids bedtime, it drives me nuts! So I am going to listen to the suggestions right along with you... Brandy Brandy it sounds as though he's not getting any attention at home and has found a great person in you. you might be a great influence in his life? -- Edith oht nak |
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