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Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my
own. There is just one problem. My girlfriends ex boyfriend who is the biological father is a dead beat who has a record of child abuse and domestic violence. my girlfriend feels that her baby should have no part in his life because Of his record and how he treated her when they were together. We would like to have it where she has full custody. So my question is what are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) |
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On Oct 30, 11:34?pm, "JamesMMattmann" u38694@uwe wrote:
Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my own. There is just one problem. My girlfriends ex boyfriend who is the biological father is a dead beat who has a record of child abuse and domestic violence. my girlfriend feels that her baby should have no part in his life because Of his record and how he treated her when they were together. We would like to have it where she has full custody. So my question is what are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) I don't know what state you are in, or even country, but in my country and state, you can ask the biological father (or mother for that matter) to give up his parental rights (via signature), but you'll need an attorney to navigate that legally to make it binding. Some deadbeat dads jump at that chance so they don't have to pay child support, and others like to play games at the expense of the child, despite not paying child support anyway, etc. Just because he has a history of anything doesn't mean a judge won't give him a chance to prove he has changed, which is very rare. It would come down to a he said she said thing. Sometimes even the deadbeat's parents (grandparents of the children) get selfishly involved, being unable to admit it would be better for the child to not have contact with their child as a parent to it because THEY want to know the child throughout life. What they don't know is that grandparents have rights separately from parents, but they just keep at that deadbeat parent to fight for THEIR rights so THEY can have access. Good luck with it all. |
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"JamesMMattmann" u38694@uwe wrote in message news:7a7e939fcb05d@uwe... Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my own. There is just one problem. My girlfriends ex boyfriend who is the biological father is a dead beat who has a record of child abuse and domestic violence. my girlfriend feels that her baby should have no part in his life because Of his record and how he treated her when they were together. We would like to have it where she has full custody. So my question is what are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) She needs to consult a lawyer. |
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In article pqZVi.6834$MW.2080@trndny05, deja.blues says...
"JamesMMattmann" u38694@uwe wrote in message news:7a7e939fcb05d@uwe... Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my own. There is just one problem. My girlfriends ex boyfriend who is the biological father is a dead beat who has a record of child abuse and domestic violence. my girlfriend feels that her baby should have no part in his life because Of his record and how he treated her when they were together. We would like to have it where she has full custody. So my question is what are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) She needs to consult a lawyer. Yes, exactly. I don't know of any US jurisdiction that allow bio parents to sign away rights, unless the child is formally adopted by the stepfather. Marriage between the mother and her boyfriend would need to take place first. And I could be wrong (though that's my understanding) - what's needed here is a consultation with a lawyer familliar with the family law of her jurisdiction. Banty |
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Chris wrote:
Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my own. There is just one problem. My girlfriends ex boyfriend who is the [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] would like to have it where she has full custody. So my question is what are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) I don't know what state you are in, or even country, but in my country and state, you can ask the biological father (or mother for that matter) to give up his parental rights (via signature), but you'll need an attorney to navigate that legally to make it binding. Some deadbeat dads jump at that chance so they don't have to pay child support, and others like to play games at the expense of the child, despite not paying child support anyway, etc. Just because he has a history of anything doesn't mean a judge won't give him a chance to prove he has changed, which is very rare. It would come down to a he said she said thing. Sometimes even the deadbeat's parents (grandparents of the children) get selfishly involved, being unable to admit it would be better for the child to not have contact with their child as a parent to it because THEY want to know the child throughout life. What they don't know is that grandparents have rights separately from parents, but they just keep at that deadbeat parent to fight for THEIR rights so THEY can have access. Good luck with it all. thank you very much -- Message posted via FamilyKB.com http://www.familykb.com/Uwe/Forums.a...nting/200710/1 |
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deja.blues wrote:
Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) She needs to consult a lawyer. Is it true that lawyers do pro bono work on those kinds of cases. -- Message posted via http://www.familykb.com |
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On Oct 31, 7:15?pm, "JamesMMattmann via FamilyKB.com" u38694@uwe
wrote: deja.blues wrote: Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) She needs to consult a lawyer. Is it true that lawyers do pro bono work on those kinds of cases. -- Message posted viahttp://www.familykb.com I'm not so sure they do, unless they have the potential for money in a ruling in their favor, but you aren't going for money, you are going for something else that involves no winning of money. I may be way off here, but just thinking about cases in which I know were pro bono, that would be the first difference. |
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On Oct 31, 7:15?pm, "JamesMMattmann via FamilyKB.com" u38694@uwe
wrote: deja.blues wrote: Im about to be a father of a child who is not mine, but I think of her as my [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] are her right? She wasn't married to the guy (fyi) She needs to consult a lawyer. Is it true that lawyers do pro bono work on those kinds of cases. -- Message posted viahttp://www.familykb.com You may get an initial free consult via telephone though. |
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If the Mom wants to sever the relationship between the
child and their father, that CAN and sometimes does backfire so badly that the MAN gets primary custody. It should not be about the mother's DESIRE or convenience, it should be about the well being of the child. Unless the Dad has a really bad and recent criminal record, it's partly the Mom's DUTY to facilitate the child's relationship with the Dad. Failing to facilitate that, in any way can go very badly for the Mom. If you marry her to be a stepdad, even you would have some duty to facilitate the childs relationship with their Dad. Badmouthing the Dad to the child is really a big no-no. Similarly, if the Mom wants to throw away the child's entitlement to CHILD SUPPORT, this could be said to demonstrate a failure to fend for the child's interests. Since the child isn't even born yet, the Dad can't possibly have failed as a parent yet. How bad is his criminal record? You have seen the cliche' where the woman actually BELIEVES that her married boyfriend is going to dump his family FOR HER, right? Sometimes they even do, but USUALLY it's a BS line right? Your pregnant girlfriend might be telling you what you want to hear similarly filling you with BS. Think about it, the other boyfriend was a bad guy? But she boinked him! She wants to cut him off FOR YOU? Don't be too very amazed if they work it out because now they have a child together, even if that's NOT what you want to hear! Don't be too hard on her for that! It's natural! This is all why you've gotta be more careful about who ya boink and protection! It's NOT a puppy. Like somebody else answered, there are issues about relatives, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins that this child will be entitled to even if it makes the Mom uncomfortable to confront the guy she once boinked. Did you think it was ORIGINAL or novel for a woman to bad mouth an ex? How bad is the Dad's criminal record and how recent? It's gotta be REALLY REALLY BAD to play the kind of game the Mom would like! If you've got BIG BUCKS you might be able to get a lawyer to run with this, just to empty the money pot. Perhaps you should realistically consider telling the MOM to get back together with the Dad. FORGET the romantic promises. Baby will be the center of the universe. You're really young aren't you? |
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