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Name change because parent not visiting child
I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father
having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. |
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wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. That would depend on your individual state, but I find it hard to imagine the court allowing any father off the hook for child support for any reason other than adoption. Generally the courts want a child to have the benifits of two adults providing for them reguardless of the personality issues between the two adults. If he contests the name change you likley would have to provide evidence that it is in the childs best interest. Some courts assume that a fit parent's decision is by definition in the child's best interest and some require more substantial proof. You might find out before filing (and before telling your ex) what the requirements are and what documents he could use your name on without crossing the line. This is not legal advice, if you want legal advice talk to a lawyer. etc. etc. etc. Ghostwriter |
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Thanks Ghost writer. I live in Georgia.
My ex and I do not have personality issues or anything. He just doesnt want to do anything with his son because he choses not to tell the world (and his girlfriends) that he has a son. I dont have a problem with it...we are divorced now. But I am concerned about this name thing affecting my child who feels strange because he has never met this person who shares his last name. It's just sad. |
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CasualObserver wrote: ghostwriter wrote: wrote: Thanks Ghost writer. I live in Georgia. My ex and I do not have personality issues or anything. He just doesnt want to do anything with his son because he choses not to tell the world (and his girlfriends) that he has a son. I dont have a problem with it...we are divorced now. But I am concerned about this name thing affecting my child who feels strange because he has never met this person who shares his last name. It's just sad. Personally, if you have the money an hour with an attorney would be best. If not I would likley file for the name change since he doesnt really seem to care. I cant imainge a way that a judge could use to make that sufficient reason to terminate child support and I suspect that the judge would be very annoyed if your ex tried that tactic. But judges dont necessarily need reasons so thats why I suggest seeing the lawyer. If your ex allows the name change it would be an admission that he wants nothing to do with his son, but his financial obligations have nothing to do with his failure to meet personal obligations to his son. Ghostwriter The mother asking for the name change is an admission by her that she doesn't want the father to have anything to do with his son. I can't imagine that it would be held against him if he cooperates. And if he's not visiting maybe she has done something really bad to the father. So if you want to continue making accusations like a typical anti-father child-support services shill, then let's go... Alright lets go, I dont know either person from Adam so I assume that the OP was telling a minimually skewed version of the facts, you on the other hand took your personal experiences and pinned your ex's face on the OP. My understanding based on the OP was that the child is old enough to wonder why their name isnt the same as mom's and that this bothers them. Dad hasnt visited in a year but has maintained payments. Assuming that this is true then, AND I HAVE LITTLE REASON TO ASSUME OTHERWISE, then no earthly reason exists that this woman cant file for a name change and give her ex an oppurtunity to challange it if he wishes. Your assumtion is that since this is a custodial mother getting child support payments that she is some kind of monster hag, THE PLURAL OF ANECTDOTE IS NOT EVIDENCE. I am a long time foster parent, I specialize in girls with histories of sexual abuse. Dont ever expect anything but contempt if you attempt to tell me fathers are the ones being mistreated. Yes the system IS far too tough on the good fathers but that is simply because the good fathers seldom have a F_#$ING CLUE about the people it is trying to get to. The truth is that while almost all of the kids that walk though my door are there because they were neglected/abused by their MOTHERS, they or their mothers were almost always abused by their FATHERS prior to the complete failure of the situation. Mom then fled the into poverty. If even a small percentage of those FATHERS paid their child-support those children would be in private therapy etc. rather than in my care. So yes the systems is too tough, boo f@#$ing hoo. Have a conversation with a 10year old about what her daddy did to her then come bitching. If the cost of getting a few of those *******s to support their kids is that the policy is harsh, I consider it cheap(and will vote to keep it that way). It also is far cheaper for us as taxpayers since the failure of a household increases hugely the chance those kids will end up in prison or having kids in the foster system once they are grown. That is not to say that there arent a thousand ways the systems could be made better, but I am tired of getting the same kids back every few months because the system was too EASY on a BAD father. ANY INCREASE IN FATHERS RIGHTS MUST BE COUPLED WITH AN INCREASE IN SOCIAL SERVICES. OTHERWISE MORE FAMILIES WILL FAIL AND WE AS A SOCIETY WILL BE STUCK WITH THE (MUCH HIGHER) BILL. IF WE AS A SOCIETY EASE THE BURDEN OFF OF THE GOOD FATHERS MORE OF THE BAD ONES WILL SLIP THROUGH. THE PRICE TO SOCIETY IS FAR GREATER IF THAT HAPPENS THAN FORCING GROWN MEN TO DO WITHOUT. YES IT SUCKS, BUT THAT IS THE SIMPLE TRUTH. Ghostwriter PS I am the father of two children by birth and just sent hold my 21st foster placment. I expect to continue fostering for the rest of my life and to adopt any child that goes permanent custody while in my care. I am however 100% in favor of reunification outside of the worst cases. |
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"Temily" wrote in message ups.com... wrote: But I am concerned about this name thing affecting my child who feels strange because he has never met this person who shares his last name. It's just sad. Seems to me that if you get the papers to change his name (the father will need to sign) and the father objects then there'd be good reason to open the case for him paying C-S. If he doesn't care about being his father, perhaps he won't care that his son has his name changed by deed poll. I've had a few students in the past who have been known at school under their preferred name, (ie their preferred name was on their books, labelling etc) but use their legal name for legal things. Exactly. All they have to do is use whatever name they choose; obviously the mother's name. What's the big deal? Temily |
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