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SIX!!! Wow! Does your daughter remember it? What does she think about it
now? (Sorry if you've been asked these questions before...) Well done! ROSIE XxXxX "Jenrose" wrote in message ... Well, sorta... Was chatting with the pediatrician today and she mentioned that my daughter and I were the "longest nursing" in her entire lifetime of practice. My kiddo weaned, if you remember on her sixth birthday. She's now 10 and yes, she really did stay weaned. I liked her attitude, that it was a good (although obviously a little strange to her) thing. Jenrose |
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Rosie writes:
: SIX!!! Wow! Does your daughter remember it? What does she think about it : now? Heck, do YOU remember it? :-) Larry |
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"Rosie" wrote in message ... SIX!!! Wow! Does your daughter remember it? What does she think about it now? (Sorry if you've been asked these questions before...) Well done! ROSIE XxXxX She remembers it a little, and it's just one of her "stories" about her life. The ironic thing is that the last two years of it, there would be times that I would forget she was "still nursing" as she'd go a week or more without even asking--and after age 4, she was not allowed to nurse if milk came out (I weaned her to go on medication at 4--after a couple weeks she said, very seriously, "You know, mommy, you don't have much milk left anyway, and I'd stop if ANYTHING came out so I wouldn't get the bad medicine, so can I PLEASE have my num nums back?") so it was totally about comfort/security from about 4 up, (actually it was about comfort from about age 2 1/2 up...she was capable of going a week without at age 3.) She totally thinks nursing is good and doesn't see anything weird about as long as she nursed--she had several friends who weaned somewhere between age 4 1/2 and 6 (i.e. I knew they were still nursing at 4 1/2, 5 even, but knew they were not nursing by age 6, never asked when weaning happened) so it's pretty normal in my "circle" and at her school for kids to have nursed a very long time. I don't think we NIP, ever, from about age 3 up. It just didn't come up. She'd nurse sometimes going to bed, mostly in the middle of the night (even sleepwalking into my room, latching on without waking either of us up...) and when she stopped getting up to nurse, she'd only nurse at home very occasionally when she was cranky or frustrated or just needing me. The last time she nursed in public it was while travelling with my family--we were "out" during naptime and she just lost it...I think she was just three... and my mom said, "If she wants to nurse, just nurse her!" Even by age 3, NIP was really unusual for us, not because we felt weird about it, but because when were out and about she wanted to be exploring or playing or what have you. I think one of the reasons it was okay for me to go so long was that I really set some hard-and-fast rules about nursing when she was old enough to understand the concept of rules. It would have driven me up a wall if she'd been a gropy kid--I never let her put her hands down in my clothes and was pretty consistant about distracting from the twiddles--going so far as to make my own clothing so that I could foil her hands without being the mean ogre mommy about it. Didn't take long before she quit trying to grab my boobs or take my clothes off. I set limits according to what I could and couldn't stand. And I let her say when she'd wean, but I insisted that she set a time and stick to it. I also didn't grit my teeth through nursing much after she turned two--if it was uncomfortable, made me feel squirrelly or made my period cramps worse, we stopped for a while. I thought for sure that when she went with her dad to visit Puerto Rico when she was three and a half, that she'd be weaned when she came back. But "Num nums" was one of the first things she wanted from me, after her hug. I'd heard of kids that age "forgetting how", but this kid has an insanely long memory--she remembers the day of her birth, and the balloon that flew off its' string when she was two, etc. (She burst into tears about that balloon a year after it went away... which would have been okay except that she was still blaming me for it... Augh.) She was born with an intense sucking need and it was clear that even at 4 and less at 5 that she still had a biological need to suck. When she didn't get to nurse for a while, she'd gradually get more "mouthy"....putting things into her mouth that didn't belong there (which she never did much as a baby) and "talking back". She'd nurse, even for a very short time, and it would be as if all were right with her universe again. I've known a lot of 4-year olds who'd been weaned at 2 or so, and many of th em were clearly still attached to "boob comfort", and in ways that I'd find much more objectionable personally than nursing. I really can't stand having a child play with my boobs--nursing doesn't bother me at all, but little fingers trigger a "get-away" reflex and I would MUCH rather nurse a child to age 4 than have them constantly groping me for comfort. But the whole point is that parents need to do what works for them, in their comfort levels. I think my daughter would have weaned much earlier had I not been a single parent. Not because I needed something from HER nursing (because the only way I was able to tolerate it was that it was very brief when she was older) but because without an extra adult around to buffer the stresses, etc., nursing was MUCH more important than it might have been with a non-nursing parent in the picture. When her dad was around when she was 2 and 3, she nursed MUCH less than when he was not visiting. Jenrose |
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