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preschool question -- kinda long!
My son, Logan, is currently in preschool 2 mornings a week. About a month
into the year, he quit talking to his teacher or to any of the other kids in his class. He will still participate and do the activities, etc but he will not talk at all the entire 2 1/2 hours he is there. He won't even sing the songs when they go to music...but he will sure come home and sing them around the house all day long! I have talked to his teacher about what might have happened to cause him to "shut down" at school...she doesn't know and Logan doesn't say anything negative about school...he loves it and talks great things about his teacher! His teacher just says he must not be ready to express his self and open up to people...he will in his own time. Another thing about Logan (and his preschool teacher has confirmed this), is he is very advanced for being 3 (almost 4). While the other kids are learning their shapes, colors, and letters....he is bored. He has known his alphabet and all that other stuff since he was 2...he can currently spell about 8 words and tell time on a digital clock! My thoughts were, he was just bored at preschool so he has withdrawn. However, while Logan is "book smart", he is just where he needs to be socially. My DH and I have thought about moving him preschools next year to see if a totally new environment will help him begin talking and be outgoing again at school. When I talked to his current preschool teacher about this, she said that she felt this would only make him regress even more. I had to wonder if she was saying this truly out of concern for Logan, or just because she wanted our money at her preschool for next year. So...with all of that said. I wondered if any of you might deal with preschoolers and/or have any of this same experience with your children. I'm at a loss as to what would be best for Logan....move him to a new preschool or keep him at the same one? Also...if we keep him at the same one, would it be beneficial to stay with the same teacher or have a new one for next year? Thanks for reading if you made it this far...and for any advice you might be able to give ) Janette -- Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 remove word SPAM to reply |
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I really can't help with a lot of your problem, only to say that my oldest
daughter goes to school with a boy (since kindergarten together) that hasn't spoke at school. The family and school does get some flak about letting this go on so long (he is in 5th grade now) and some feel that it is a power struggle issue. I have no idea though what to make of it. As far as what to do next year, have you thought about asking your son what he would like to do? Good luck. ) -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... Janette wrote in message news:99vUb.16116$Q_4.14174@okepread03... My son, Logan, is currently in preschool 2 mornings a week. About a month into the year, he quit talking to his teacher or to any of the other kids in his class. He will still participate and do the activities, etc but he will not talk at all the entire 2 1/2 hours he is there. He won't even sing the songs when they go to music...but he will sure come home and sing them around the house all day long! I have talked to his teacher about what might have happened to cause him to "shut down" at school...she doesn't know and Logan doesn't say anything negative about school...he loves it and talks great things about his teacher! His teacher just says he must not be ready to express his self and open up to people...he will in his own time. Another thing about Logan (and his preschool teacher has confirmed this), is he is very advanced for being 3 (almost 4). While the other kids are learning their shapes, colors, and letters....he is bored. He has known his alphabet and all that other stuff since he was 2...he can currently spell about 8 words and tell time on a digital clock! My thoughts were, he was just bored at preschool so he has withdrawn. However, while Logan is "book smart", he is just where he needs to be socially. My DH and I have thought about moving him preschools next year to see if a totally new environment will help him begin talking and be outgoing again at school. When I talked to his current preschool teacher about this, she said that she felt this would only make him regress even more. I had to wonder if she was saying this truly out of concern for Logan, or just because she wanted our money at her preschool for next year. So...with all of that said. I wondered if any of you might deal with preschoolers and/or have any of this same experience with your children. I'm at a loss as to what would be best for Logan....move him to a new preschool or keep him at the same one? Also...if we keep him at the same one, would it be beneficial to stay with the same teacher or have a new one for next year? Thanks for reading if you made it this far...and for any advice you might be able to give ) Janette -- Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 remove word SPAM to reply |
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"Janette" wrote:
: My son, Logan, is currently in preschool 2 mornings a week. About a month : into the year, he quit talking to his teacher or to any of the other kids in : his class. He will still participate and do the activities, etc but he will : not talk at all the entire 2 1/2 hours he is there. [...] I think it is quite odd that he would totally shut down like this, particularly if he enjoys the setting and the other children. You mentioned that he shut down about one month into the year, so has this been going on for about four months? It seems that it might be a purposeful withdrawing of something that he can control in this environment but I am at a loss as to what or why. It is generally difficult for children his age to be able to spend 2 1/2 hours without speaking, even in a brand new setting where it might be more natural for them to be reserved. I have one child in my care now that took an unusual amount of time to adjust and to the point where I was beginning to suspect a learning challenge (since resolved -- just very reserved and sheltered) but even at her quietest she would respond to direct queries although never offering anything or engaging in conversation with the others (probably for about three weeks). : My DH and I have thought about moving him preschools next year to see if a : totally new environment will help him begin talking and be outgoing again at : school. When I talked to his current preschool teacher about this, she said : that she felt this would only make him regress even more. I had to wonder : if she was saying this truly out of concern for Logan, or just because she : wanted our money at her preschool for next year. Those little suspicions are what make it very difficult for a child care professional to express an opinion in certain areas without appearing self-serving As you seem inclined to question the motivations of the preschool teacher, I would suggest you speak with others in the field of early childhood education and/or have your child speak with an early intervention specialist to determine if there is an area of concern. : So...with all of that said. I wondered if any of you might deal with : preschoolers and/or have any of this same experience with your children. : I'm at a loss as to what would be best for Logan....move him to a new : preschool or keep him at the same one? Also...if we keep him at the same : one, would it be beneficial to stay with the same teacher or have a new one : for next year? I think all of that is difficult to answer unless you have a better handle on exactly why your son has clammed up Making changes when shooting in the dark may not help resolve anything, and could exacerbate the situation IMO. From what you have written, the teacher must be sharing with you that the child does not speak at all, and if her motivations were impure, one might think that she would keep this to herself as everything else seems to be going so swimmingly. It would seem at odds if you, with no indication from child or teacher (who seems to be openly sharing in the concern) assume that the issue lies with her simply because you cannot think of a better reason -- Ruth B -- Remove your blinders to send email Stewie (reading the Bible): "My my, what a thumping good read, lions eating Christians, people nailing each other to two by fours. I'll say, you won't find that in Winnie the Pooh." --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.576 / Virus Database: 365 - Release Date: 1/30/2004 |
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Janette wrote:
My son, Logan, is currently in preschool 2 mornings a week. About a month into the year, he quit talking to his teacher or to any of the other kids in his class. He will still participate and do the activities, etc but he will not talk at all the entire 2 1/2 hours he is there. Hmm. I think if I were you I'd call your school district and ask to talk to your early childhood developmental specialist just to ease your mind. On the one hand, my oldest son was in the new daycare for a *very* long time before he would talk to anyone. He was a bit younger, he started out that way, and he had some speech difficulties. He was quiet, but fine and somewhat talkative, when he started preschool at age 4yr5mo. He had speech therapy but no other interventions. On the other hand, your son doesn't seem to have any speech difficulties, is a little older, and was talking at one point but isn't talking now. I don't have any experience with that. I wouldn't be *really* worried since he is fine at home, but I would want to investigate a little. Do you have any occasion to be in other groups of kids with him, or could you observe one of his preschool days to see if things change when you are there? You could also arrange some play dates with one class mate at your home and see if having that friend move back and forth doesn't help. I can't see how that would hurt. Good luck and post an update! -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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x-no-archive: yes "Janette" wrote in message news:99vUb.16116$Q_4.14174@okepread03... My son, Logan, is currently in preschool 2 mornings a week. About a month into the year, he quit talking to his teacher or to any of the other kids in his class. He will still participate and do the activities, etc but he will not talk at all the entire 2 1/2 hours he is there. He won't even sing the songs when they go to music...but he will sure come home and sing them around the house all day long! I have talked to his teacher about what might have happened to cause him to "shut down" at school...she doesn't know and Logan doesn't say anything negative about school...he loves it and talks great things about his teacher! His teacher just says he must not be ready to express his self and open up to people...he will in his own time. Another thing about Logan (and his preschool teacher has confirmed this), is he is very advanced for being 3 (almost 4). While the other kids are learning their shapes, colors, and letters....he is bored. He has known his alphabet and all that other stuff since he was 2...he can currently spell about 8 words and tell time on a digital clock! My thoughts were, he was just bored at preschool so he has withdrawn. However, while Logan is "book smart", he is just where he needs to be socially. Hi Janette, I'm not sure if I got this right, but it seems Logan has no difficulty expressing himself at home, is this correct? If so, have you asked him why he won't talk or sing in school? I think he is old enough to understand that the teacher and you are concerned that something at preschool might be bothering him. If he repeatedly assures you that nothing is wrong, let him know that it would make the teacher happy if he would talk to her, but I, personally, wouldn't "force" the issue. If nothing is bothering him, consider inviting some of the friends from preschool on a play date... I assume he could probably tell you who he would like to become better friends with. This seemed to help my daughter open up to at least some of the kids in her preschool class. : ) My daughter was quite shy/quiet in preschool, to the point where her teacher suggested I not send her to kindergarten when she was 5, thinking she "wasn't ready". Academically she did very well (sounds like Logan), so I ignored the preschool teacher's advice. She is now a junior in high school, very active and successful in sports and other extra curricular activities, and doing extremely well academically. But, she is still quiet around people she doesn't know. I don't think that will ever change. Good Luck! Shelly -- newsgroup address is munged reply: randersons at lsol dot net |
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"Sue" wrote in message ... As far as what to do next year, have you thought about asking your son what he would like to do? Good luck. ) -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... Yes, we have actually. I have also taken him with me to "tour" and "interview" new preschools. He loves it all. He LOVES to learn new things. He always wants to go to preschool and has all kinds of things he is going to tell his teacher, etc, but once we get in that classroom door, he clams up and doesn't talk again until I pick him up...then he talks about his day all the way home. I've very frustrating for me because I don't understand what is causing him to do this! Thanks Sue! Janette Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 |
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preschool question -- kinda long!
I think it is quite odd that he would totally shut down like
this, particularly if he enjoys the setting and the other children. You mentioned that he shut down about one month into the year, so has this been going on for about four months? Yes, it has been going on for awhile now. He can be very stubborn...and my mom thinks this is a control issue with Logan. I'm not so sure what it is. I agree with you that 2 1/2 hours of silence is difficult for this age. He will nod yes or no to answers if the teachers asks him a question, but he never verbally answers her and will never initiate conversation. He stays to himself and does his own thing the entire time. From what you have written, the teacher must be sharing with you that the child does not speak at all, and if her motivations were impure, one might think that she would keep this to herself as everything else seems to be going so swimmingly. It would seem at odds if you, with no indication from child or teacher (who seems to be openly sharing in the concern) assume that the issue lies with her simply because you cannot think of a better reason I truly don't know where the issue lies. Logan's teacher is very open with me about this and she is not concerned about it at all, just wants me to be informed that it's happening. She believes Logan is just not ready to express himself yet, and once he's ready he will talk again. I say, if this is the case, why would he start talking and then stop? I'm not trying to place blame on the teacher at all...just mainly wondered what anyone in early childhood, etc thought of her comment regarding if we changed preschools, teachers etc for next year, it would cause him to regress even more. Thanks for your reply!! Janette Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 |
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I had a similar thing happen but my dd was older, and I didn't find out about it until afterwards. It was kindergarten, and according to the teacher, dd sat there and did not participate at (including going out for recess) or speak for several weeks. She was 5. I found out about it at the first parent conference session, and she had stopped by then. In her case, she pitched a fit about going, and I'd have to lock her out of the house and tell her older sister to walk on without her. Eventually, as dd#1 was disappearing, she'd run after her and go on to school. I had a new baby, which was one reason I didn't walk her to school, so that might have been part of it. grandma Rosalie |
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preschool question -- kinda long!
Do you have any occasion to be in other groups of
kids with him, or could you observe one of his preschool days to see if things change when you are there? I have gone and helped in his classroom one time and there was no change in Logan. Well, he would talk to me while I was there, but he still did not talk to his teacher of the other kids. In the mornings when I drop him off, Logan will talk to me and show me different things in his classroom, etc and that allows his teacher to see that he can talk at least lol. In fact, he was spelling "mom", "dad", "exit" (and other words) to me...and saying letters randomly from carpet squares laying around, etc etc...and the teacher was floored at how much more he knew than the other kids in his class. When I told her he could tell him on a digital clock already, she could not believe it. The kid LOVES to learn and is always asking to learn new things lol. Thanks Nikki! Janette Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 |
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preschool question -- kinda long!
Hi Janette,
I'm not sure if I got this right, but it seems Logan has no difficulty expressing himself at home, is this correct? If so, have you asked him why he won't talk or sing in school? That's correct. He talks all the way to school and all the way home...just as soon as we get through his classroom doors, he clams up and will not talk to his teacher or the other kids. We have asked him over and over and over why...his reply every time is "I don't know...I just don't want to talk to her". We have backed off of him (we being the teacher and me and dh) regarding him needing to talk, etc because we realize that the more we push the issue, the more tendency he will have to "regress" even more. He did have one "banner" day 2 weeks ago when he just started talking to her while doing his yearly preschool assessment and Logan told her it was fun to talk to her and he was going to talk to her everyday the rest of the year, etc...but the very next time he was there, it was back to the same ol' no talking Logan. VERY odd to everyone. My daughter was quite shy/quiet in preschool, to the point where her teacher suggested I not send her to kindergarten when she was 5, thinking she "wasn't ready". Academically she did very well (sounds like Logan), so I ignored the preschool teacher's advice. She is now a junior in high school, very active and successful in sports and other extra curricular activities, and doing extremely well academically. But, she is still quiet around people she doesn't know. I don't think that will ever change. That's very encouraging...thanks Shelly! DH and I were very shy when we were younger too, but seem to be ok now...maybe it's just in our genes LOL Janette Mom to Logan Alexander 2-29-00 and Caleb Benjamin 2-11-02 |
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