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Question about support
Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but
wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? |
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What, you can't feed 2 kids on $1000 per month?
"Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? |
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"Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? |
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On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote:
"Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore. |
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On Aug 6, 11:57?am, Thalador wrote:
On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "Thalador" wrote in message roups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Too bad. |
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"Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore. Just because I am curious, what percentage of her income is the $1000 per month? Does it leave her enough to live on? From the perspective of the non-custodial parent, sometimes what seems "reasonable" to the person receiving the money doesn't feel quite as reasonable to the one paying it out. It seems that the 2 of you communicated well enough to make this agreement without the help of the courts. Maybe you could sit down together again and discuss her difficulties with the amount and why you feel the amount is reasonable. A couple more questions occur to me. How old were the children when she married you and adopted them? Is their bio mother still in the picture? (the was not clear from your original post) How long did your current ex raise the children before your divorce? (I would think that she would feel somewhat used if you were only married for 2 years, and you are now expecting her to pay child support for the next 12 years) |
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"teachrmama" wrote in From the perspective of the non-custodial parent, sometimes what seems "reasonable" to the person receiving the money doesn't feel quite as reasonable to the one paying it out. They forget the amount of money they receive is after taxes, so the NCP has to earn $1300 to pay $1000. |
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"Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore. == Legally she owes what the court says she owes. Fortunately, on usenet we get to espouse opinions. My opinion is that the NCP shouldn't be required to pay more than half the actual cost of basic needs (which is nowhere near 1k mo). |
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"Gini" wrote in message news:vKKti.1983$jQ3.1849@trndny06... "Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "Thalador" wrote in message oups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore. == Legally she owes what the court says she owes. Fortunately, on usenet we get to espouse opinions. My opinion is that the NCP shouldn't be required to pay more than half the actual cost of basic needs (which is nowhere near 1k mo). Depends on how you define "needs." chuckle It is sad when one's children come down to dollars and cents, isn't it?! |
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On Aug 6, 5:21 pm, "teachrmama" wrote:
"Gini" wrote in message news:vKKti.1983$jQ3.1849@trndny06... "Thalador" wrote in message roups.com... On Aug 6, 12:42 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "Thalador" wrote in message egroups.com... Greetings all. I have a question, I think I know the answer, but wanted some other opinions. Background: I have custody of my two children and the ex-wife adopted them legally (They are mine from prior wife). Question - Prior to the divorce she and I signed a notarized form saying she would pay me $1000.00 per month child support. Three months later the divorce went through and the court ordered she pay $1600 per month. She has always concluded that our agreement takes precedence over the divorce order. I disagree. So, legally how much does she owe per month? If the court ordered $1600, then that's how much she owes legally. But morally, don't you think you should abide by the agreement you and she made? The problem is, she is now trying to lower that agreed upon number to something she is "more confortable" with. I am looking at this from a legal issue, not moral. I told her the $1000 we agreed to is fine but she isnt happy with it anymore. == Legally she owes what the court says she owes. Fortunately, on usenet we get to espouse opinions. My opinion is that the NCP shouldn't be required to pay more than half the actual cost of basic needs (which is nowhere near 1k mo). Depends on how you define "needs." chuckle It is sad when one's children come down to dollars and cents, isn't it?!- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Honestly, I couldn't care less what the courts say...It's pretty sad that you allowed the real mother to have no responsibility and are trying to take money from your ex-wife, who is NOT the biological mother of these children. I think you need to step up to the plate and support your own children. |
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