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Old March 10th 04, 10:05 PM
Barbara
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I'd drop it for a while, but that's me.

Have you tried the *7 days and $75* (higher in NY) approach, where you
let him run around without bottoms? Also, some kids despise a potty
seat on the regular toilet, while others can't tolerate a stand-alone
potty chair. Perhaps trying the opposite of whatever you're now using
would help.

Anyway, I remember that, as a child, I loved my position as the baby
in the family, and had no desire whatsoever for that to change.
Perhaps your youngest is feeling a bit ambivalent about *being a big
boy* (which you didn't say, but its a pretty common comment on
training) or even being like his big brothers. If there's some sort
of treat you can use to take the place of that, maybe it would help.
Eg *I wish that I could take you to X, but its just too hard with you
in diapers. We'll be able to go once you use the potty, though*

And a happy 3d birthday.

Barbara




(Robyn Kozierok) wrote in message ...
My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty
training would be an understatement. He will not sit on the potty
without a diaper on. He seems scared, though he is not afraid to sit
on it in a diaper and PJs (which he does every night after brushing
his teeth while I give him his fluoride supplement).
SNIP
It just seems really odd to me that he is so resistant to this and it
can't be "marketed" to him in any way, shape or form. I would like him
to train before kindergarten ;-) So, should I just drop it for now, or
keep talking about his cool underwear and about how "someday" he'll
wear underwear and use the potty like his big brothers do. We have a
potty video that he likes, but no books, fwiw.

Thanks in advance,

--Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)


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Old March 10th 04, 10:06 PM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ayv3c.93058$PR3.1589762@attbi_s03,
Claire Petersky wrote:
"Robyn Kozierok" wrote in message
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I've tried casually mentioning that at some point he's going to be
too big for diapers and will wear underwear, and make his pees and
poops in the potty.


When Rose was three, she mentioned that she would do such things when she
was old enough to drive the car, and vote.


Evan is so far steadfastly denying that he will use potty even as a
grownup. ;-)

Thanks for the anecdotes,
--Robyn

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Old March 10th 04, 10:22 PM
Rosalie B.
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(Robyn Kozierok) wrote:


My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty
training would be an understatement. He will not sit on the potty
without a diaper on. He seems scared, though he is not afraid to sit
on it in a diaper and PJs (which he does every night after brushing
his teeth while I give him his fluoride supplement).

I've tried casually mentioning that at some point he's going to be
too big for diapers and will wear underwear, and make his pees and
poops in the potty. Whenever I mention anything of the sort, he gets
agitated and says he doesn't "like" (he means "want") to go potty,
and I drop it.

Whenever I pick him up from preschool, I casually ask if he went potty
that day and he repsonds (calmly) that he did not, and I say, "Oh,
well, maybe tomorrow" to which he agrees ;-) Several of his classmates
are trained or training, so there's plenty of potty use going on there.


My 2nd one at age 2.4 was perfectly able to stay completely dry all
day long - had enormous control. She would only pee in her diaper in
bed either at night or during her nap. (Of course then the diaper
was soaked.) I don't know whether she waited until just before she
got up or if she did it after she went to bed. In any case - complete
refusal to sit on the toilet whatsoever.

All I had to do to get her trained was tell her she couldn't go to
pre-school with her older sister unless she was trained. So voila she
was trained. I think she had one accident after that.

My mom trained #1, and I totally don't remember how #3 and #4 were
done. Of course in those days, we didn't have pull-ups. #2 is now 40
years old.


grandma Rosalie

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Old March 13th 04, 12:53 AM
Tara Simpson
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My advice is this:use a favorie candy or snack for efforts at the potty.
For instance M&M's worked for our son.Put a bowl of them on the back of
the toilet and enforce that the only way he gets "that" candy is for
effort to poop or pee in the potty.By the way,our son didn't potty train
until a week before I had our daughter and still had accidents for a
year afterwards.He was 3 and a half when she was born.

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Old March 13th 04, 04:51 AM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ,
Jessica wrote:
(Robyn Kozierok) wrote in message
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My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty
training would be an understatement. He will not sit on the potty
without a diaper on. He seems scared, though he is not afraid to sit
on it in a diaper and PJs (which he does every night after brushing
his teeth while I give him his fluoride supplement).


I don't know if you're a big fan of Dr. Phil or not, but he had a show
about this very topic. His procedure seemed to really work.

Basically, try to find a doll that pees. What you do is make the doll
pee and then make a big deal out of it - have a little party for the
doll (part hats, noise makers are all you really need). Then, give
your child a lot of water to drink. Ask him several times if he needs
to go. Tell him when he does go, he'll get a party. When he finally
says he has to go, take him to the potty and have him go. Then have
your "party" .. You can put on music and dance, etc. You can also
have someone call and pretend to be a character loved by your child
(the child on Dr. Phil like Thomas the train).


There is a book about this method called something like Potty training
in under a day. I can't see this working right now where Evan is
particularly resistant to even sitting on the potty naked or being out
his diaper for longer than it takes to change it. Besides, he wouldn't
drink the water if he thought I wanted him to ;-)

Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)
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Old March 13th 04, 04:51 AM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ,
Bev Brandt wrote:

My youngest has noticed that everyone else in the family goes in the
potty but him. Doesn't care, not his problem. Peer pressure doesn't
work on this one. (Let's hope that carries through to other, more
important things later on!)


Our boys would get along great ;-)

Bribery is in the form of his favorite candies. Doesn't care.


Same here.

He'll
even talk about the candy he'll get when he goes in the potty, but
then say he's not going to do that now.


Oh, for Evan there is no "when he goes potty". He's never going.
Period. He will agree to "maybe tomorrow" if I suggest it, but he's
just saying that to shut me up ;-P

Being a "big boy?" Eh...he thinks he's already "big" and will tell me
that. In fact, he's so self assured that he says that he's not big,
he's not little, he's "Jarrod." So there. So it's not a matter of
maturity for him, it's a matter of convenience.


Evan says "I not big, I just little".

I have tried saying that one day he will be "too big" for diapers,
but I have to be careful about that approach since I expect he will
need night diapers for a while yet.

We live walking distance from a high caliber, private university. I'm
convinced that my youngest is smart enough to go to med school there.
I'm also convinced that between classes he's going to rush home so
that I can change his diaper.


hee hee

Well, good luck and let me know if anythign works ;-)

--Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)

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Old March 13th 04, 04:52 AM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ,
Ann Porter wrote:
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If that doesn't work, I was thinking of taking a few days off and
hiding the diapers and letting youngest go about in either underwear
or nothing.


We did "naked and $75" with our little boy. When he was home, he wore no
pants. He had a little potty seat in the family room so he could use the
potty right when he needed to. He had a few accidents, and we had to
occasionally put the computer in "time out" when he'd have an accident while
playing on the computer, but within a couple of weeks he was trained.


Evan does not tolerate being out of his diaper for even a few minutes

P.S. Robyn, how the heck did Evan get to be three already? He was just
born!


The time just flies ;-(

Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)
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Old March 13th 04, 04:52 AM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ,
Barbara wrote:

Anyway, I remember that, as a child, I loved my position as the baby
in the family, and had no desire whatsoever for that to change.
Perhaps your youngest is feeling a bit ambivalent about *being a big
boy* (which you didn't say, but its a pretty common comment on
training) or even being like his big brothers.


I've been thinking about that aspect. I think there is definitely something
to that.

If there's some sort
of treat you can use to take the place of that, maybe it would help.
Eg *I wish that I could take you to X, but its just too hard with you
in diapers. We'll be able to go once you use the potty, though*


Worth a try.... We've been bribing with candy but that doesn't work.
But I wonder if he'd be excited enough about some unknown place,
considering that any place he's already been is obviously doable with
diapers.

Thanks,

--Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)

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Old March 13th 04, 04:52 AM
Robyn Kozierok
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In article ,
Chris Himes wrote:
(Robyn Kozierok) wrote in message
...
My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty
training would be an understatement. He will not sit on the potty
without a diaper on. He seems scared, though he is not afraid to sit
on it in a diaper and PJs (which he does every night after brushing
his teeth while I give him his fluoride supplement).

What worked for us was a trip to Grandma's house. I just
announced that Grandma didn't have any diapers and he would need to
start using the potty there.



I can't believe he fell for that ;-) I'm pretty sure my Evan would
insist that we bring some of ours. After all he has experience with us
bringing diapers when wo go out other places.


Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01)
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