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OT religion and smacking
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... "KC" skrev i en meddelelse om... "Tine Andersen" wrote in message . dk... This whole discussion is extremely painful to me. After spending a lot of time on this newsgroup, I have finally arrived to the conclusion that Americans are not as primitive and savage as we think, but this conversation bombs me back into prejudice again. You say primitive like it's a bad thing :-) I think we do (generally speaking) operate a little more on instincts than you based on what other people said about all your kids being in daycare. My instincts make it intolerable for me to be separated from my small children. I sympathise for all who have to. Please remember that here small children is usually 13 months or older. They are not entitled to day care before that and we have long maternaty leaves. To me, small children means those under 3 and 4. Most school type programs are for kids age 4 and above. |
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OT religion and smacking
"Chotii" wrote in message . ..
Kate, if I may ask....since 'gun control' means making guns illegal to keep people from killing each other, of what value are new laws controlling guns, when it is *already* illegal to kill people (with a gun or anything else)? I will concede that a firearm makes it easier to kill from a distance; what it cannot do is prevent killing. It just seems to me that people who casually break laws will pay no more attention to 'guns are illegal' than they do to 'killing people is illegal'. And if you know a way to fix *that*, I'd adore knowing it. No time to reply -- we're moving today. We may be without internet access for a week. Will certainly reply when I can. Kate and the Bug, 8.5 months |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
Cathy Weeks wrote:
Bruce and Jeanne wrote in message ... My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. If she was bent on suicide, she would have found a way to end her life, and she wasn't safe regardless of the presence of firearms. Vilifying guns doesn't help. I don't buy that argument - it's specious. I don't know if she would have killed herself using a different method. (WHY do people make this argument - has this been proven somewhere?) I DO know that she chose a gun because it was available. Why make it *easy* by having guns in the house? Jeanne |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
Bruce and Jeanne wrote: Cathy Weeks wrote: Bruce and Jeanne wrote in message ... My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. If she was bent on suicide, she would have found a way to end her life, and she wasn't safe regardless of the presence of firearms. Vilifying guns doesn't help. I don't buy that argument - it's specious. I don't know if she would have killed herself using a different method. (WHY do people make this argument - has this been proven somewhere?) Probably they think it's common sense. I do. I DO know that she chose a gun because it was available. Why make it *easy* by having guns in the house? It would be easy to cut your throat with a razor. Why make suicide easy by having razors in the house? It would be easy to drive your car head-on into a building at 90 mph. Why make suicide easy by having cars? If an adult, like your friend, (or even a near-adult) is bent on suicide, I don't know what you can possibly do to stop it. Clisby |
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OT religion and smacking
"Nikki" wrote in message ...
Tine Andersen wrote: It keeps going in my head:: what can you expect from citizens of a country that still considers guns in private homes normal and approves of death penalty. We considered this in-human 60 years ago (or more). I'm with you on the death penalty but I don't think it is going anywhere. :-( I'm not sure how much publicity it got outside of Illinois, but the (possibly only?) good thing that our last governor (George Ryan) did was to put a moratorium on the death penalty, after finding out how many people had been exonerated either shortly before or, sadly, after they had been executed. He was even nominated for a Nobel Peace prize for it. The big problem with capital punishment is, it's an awfully final decision. :-( So, anyhow, maybe there is hope. (Though, sometimes there is a criminal whose crimes just seem so heinious that it seems wrong that they should get to go on living...there are times I am torn...) So far, ds (age 2.5) has never been spanked. We asked him the other day, and he had no idea what the word "spanking" meant, in fact! I definitely think that spanking him would just open up the idea that hitting is ok, which I'm trying to discourage. (This is a response to his particular personality, I should note.) Though, we have had to open up the idea that sometimes you have to fight to defend yourself or others, due to watching things like The Lion King. Those have been, umm, interesting conversations. Irene mom to Thomas 7/01 & Marcus or Gwendolyn EDD 4/04 |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Cathy Weeks" wrote in message om... In anything you own, or anything you do, there is inherent risk in taking on the responsibility. A person who owns a butcher knife has a higher risk of having an accident or deliberate injury or death than one who doesn't. Same for cars. Cars in fact, kill many, many more people than guns do. For that matter, doctors kill many more people than guns do. Maybe you'll say "But they're trying to help". Yes, I concede that. But the victims are just as dead. And there are an awful lot of them. tongue in cheek Let's get rid of all the doctors! /tongue in cheek --angela |
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"Irene" wrote in message om... So far, ds (age 2.5) has never been spanked. We asked him the other day, and he had no idea what the word "spanking" meant, in fact! I definitely think that spanking him would just open up the idea that hitting is ok, which I'm trying to discourage. (This is a response to his particular personality, I should note.) Though, we have had to open up the idea that sometimes you have to fight to defend yourself or others, due to watching things like The Lion King. Those have been, umm, interesting conversations. Since I have already confessed that we *do* spank, I can discuss what I have observed in the girls as a result of it. And please don't think it doesn't disturb me. Because it does, and it makes me determined to work harder on finding other sorts of crime-appropriate punishments. I have seen the girls spank their toys for 'misbehavior'. I have seen them spank (in fact) like the spankings they see on the Little Rascals (which to me appear nothing short of physical abuse and I'm a little more horrified every time I see them, because *every* parent in the Little Rascals short films spanks a child at least 20-30 times. I should count next time I watch.) I have seen them spank over *imagined* wrongdoing. Yesterday, Alexandra slapped Victoria in the face, because "Victoria wasn't doing what she told her to do." I can assure you, she didn't learn this from us. But she seemed to think it was entirely justified. I chased A up to the top of the stairs and made her sit there, isolated in the stairwell, alone for about 5 minutes. She tried to get out before then, calling down "Mommy, I've learned my lesson about slapping people in the face," but I wasn't buying it. The stairwell thing seems to work fairly well. No toys there. No sisters there. Can't see anybody else. Yes, ladies, I do see how violence begets violence. I just don't necessarily know what else to do sometimes. --angela |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
Marie wrote in message . ..
On Sat, 21 Feb 2004 18:52:44 -0500, Bruce and Jeanne wrote: My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. That is really, really sad to hear ( But I feel the need to make the point that there are other objects to commit suicide with...drugs, or a car, or a knife. Marie Yes, but people who attempt suicide with a gun are much, much more likely to end up dead. I don't have statistics handy, but I am sure they are readily available to support that. Irene |
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OT religion and smacking
"Chotii" skrev i en meddelelse
... "Irene" wrote in message om... Since I have already confessed that we *do* spank, I can discuss what I have observed in the girls as a result of it. And please don't think it doesn't disturb me. Because it does, and it makes me determined to work harder on finding other sorts of crime-appropriate punishments. Respect! It takes a quite mature personality to say what you say in this post. It's easy enough when you have never had the option: Should I spank now? It's having the option and trying not to use it that's hard. Cudos from Denmark Tine |
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OT religion and smacking
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message . dk...
"KC" skrev i en meddelelse om... You can expect a free coountry where people have a right to protect ourselves. Now that you reminded me that many places in the world do not have all the rights we have I am extra glad to live here. That's probably part of the difference. We are not supposed to - I even believe it's illegal - protect ourselves. Or rather - not supposed to revenge. Revenge is illegal here too. We are only allowed to protect ourselves. I have never felt it necessary to hit. I have children who rage at me, but they recognize my superiority never the less. I do shout once in a while, but they know it's over in an instant. Where does hitting of any kind fit with AP'ing? I have frequently wondered what AP'ing and day care have in common. I admit I don't consider myself AP'er, and it probably doesn't. Apart from that: I was talking about psysical punishments - not all other aspects of life. You can't make a intelligent discussion by just saying: I may be doing this and that, but you are doing something much worse, so there! I am not a big fan of spanking, so I didn't have an argument against you for that, but you were the one who brought in so many other things you disapproved about our culture, so I brought up one thing I disapprove about your culture. KC |
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