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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... "Chotii" skrev i en meddelelse ... "Clisby" wrote in message ... We have a gun. It is kept locked away in a gun safe. What about your nabour who doesn't? And who doesn't act responsible with regards to his kids? What about the neighbors who have dogs that sometimes jump the fence and chase and maul people? Or the neighbors who drink and smoke and burn their house and the neighborhood down? Or the neighbor with the idiot teenager who speeds while driving down the street? The neighbors with the Ginsu knive collection Gun ownership is allowed, so like other things that are legal and potentially dangerous, we simply have to hope for thebest. |
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OT religion and smacking
"Nikki" skrev i en meddelelse
... I absolutely do not fee it is necessary to hit or spank. I have the urge to spank though :-( I wonder why that is. I sometime - in frustration and powerlessness - have felt like doing it, but as I would never hit another adult, being in deep s**t if I did, the law also helps me not to hit my kids. It's simply illegal as all other kinds of violence is. And my kids know it's illegal - I would be in trouble with them if I did. :-D Please - someone - convince me, that hitting, shooting, killing people (by death penalty or by having guns in the house) is not the norm amongst Americans. Well of course not! THANKS! You are the first to respond plainly like that. By the way....I don't think there is anywhere that an American would be arrested for 1-2 open handed slaps to the butt. Almost anything else could/would be considered abusive. Probably not even in Denmark. But technically it is illegal and has been for 10 years. Tine, Denmark |
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One is clearly done out of anger and maybe as retaliation, one is a
carefully determined punishment. EVEN if you dont agree with it being done after a person is tried and judgedm its not difficult to see it is administered differently. I think I would prefer the anger. Here killing someone in a rage is looked upon milder than if it had been planned. Tine, Denmark |
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OT religion and smacking
Tine Andersen wrote:
One is clearly done out of anger and maybe as retaliation, one is a carefully determined punishment. EVEN if you dont agree with it being done after a person is tried and judgedm its not difficult to see it is administered differently. I think I would prefer the anger. Here killing someone in a rage is looked upon milder than if it had been planned. Tine, Denmark I have to agree. It seems to me, it would be much worse for the child if s/he knew that the parent was hitting/spanking in a cold and calculated manner. Hitting in anger isn't good, but it's understandable as a human failing. Then again, I'm against the death penalty, so I wasn't thrilled with the lynching/jury and hanging analogy. Jeanne |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
Chotii wrote:
"Clisby" wrote in message ... Nevermind wrote: If someone has a gun in their house, your kid can get shot with it there, or that person can take it out of the house, or unwittingly allow some other dope to do so, thus possibly endangering the rest of us. Your friend can get shot by her jealous ex-boyfriend, etc. Guns do kill people, all too easily. I don't have to wonder about *someone* having a gun in his/her home; we have a gun in our home. Yes, what you're saying is theoretically possible. It is not anything I would lose sleep over. We have a gun. It is kept locked away in a gun safe. When we chose to do this, we took on this responsibility: to make our children safe around guns. It isn't enough to make the guns safe from the children. To this end, we have utilized the NRA's 'Eddie Eagle' safety video, which teaches the child If you see a gun: Stop, Don't touch, Leave the Area, Tell an Adult. [snip] Bah. My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. Jeanne |
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"Bruce and Jeanne" wrote in message ... Tine Andersen wrote: One is clearly done out of anger and maybe as retaliation, one is a carefully determined punishment. EVEN if you dont agree with it being done after a person is tried and judgedm its not difficult to see it is administered differently. I think I would prefer the anger. Here killing someone in a rage is looked upon milder than if it had been planned. Tine, Denmark I have to agree. It seems to me, it would be much worse for the child if s/he knew that the parent was hitting/spanking in a cold and calculated manner. Hitting in anger isn't good, but it's understandable as a human failing. The issue is that you would prefer a child to hink you hit in anger because u had lost your temper, than to believe that you hit them deliberately because you intended to inflict pain. If you believe that there is never a good reason to inflict pain, then that is understandable. If you believe that there are instances when physical pain can be a useful tool, then you wouldnt have a problem with the child knowing the spanking was calculated. We all inflict some emotional pain, there is almost no way to raise a child using all postive reinforcment but never any negative consequences for unwanted behaviors. In Tanzania, people are very closeknit. Being sent to jail is a death sentence because most of the people wither away from being excluded from society. There, a time out, or sending a child to his room for hours would be seen as a punishment FAR more cruel and hard on the soul than blow to the buttocks. One is a mere whack on the flesh the other is devastating to the pysche. In societies where shunning is a punishment, the silent treatment would be considered cruel. People die from this. They would prefer to be spanked and allowed to participate in the family/society, than given a time out and excluded. In the US and the South in particular, non-white families discipline harshly. It seems cruel, but because their children are going to be held to a higher standard under more suspicion and treated with less tolerance, it is important for many families that their children be able to withstand cruel treatment. They have to become somewhat calloused in order to survive what they will have to deal with in society. A black teenaged male who becomes indignant or agitated or upset when called an ugly name or treated harshly, is more likely to be accused of resisting arrest and maybe killed at the hands of the cops. It is believed that a child who is "coddled" is more likely to break when the time comes. So though it may not be correct or may seem cruel, a LOT of families do believe a child who is wholly unaccustomed to harsh discipline, is not going to make it in the world. And they do it out of the utmost love and care. If you knew your child one day had to walk on hot coals, you might want to let him wear shoes his whole life, keep his feet soft and tender and not have him go thru any pain. But, if you want him to walk on thse coals successfully and make it to the other side, from childhood you would have him walk barefoot and as he got tougher, walk or harder and rougher surfaces until his feet became calloused enough to endure what lay ahead. You may not believe it is neccessary, but there are people who do. And whether they are correct , their actions are not due to cruelty or insensitivity. Think what people who were ignorant of vaccines would think of us sticking babies with needles? Then again, I'm against the death penalty, so I wasn't thrilled with the lynching/jury and hanging analogy. Well, Im not for the death penalty either but the manner in which a punihment is meted out is |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Bruce and Jeanne" wrote in message ... Chotii wrote: "Clisby" wrote in message ... Nevermind wrote: If someone has a gun in their house, your kid can get shot with it there, or that person can take it out of the house, or unwittingly allow some other dope to do so, thus possibly endangering the rest of us. Your friend can get shot by her jealous ex-boyfriend, etc. Guns do kill people, all too easily. I don't have to wonder about *someone* having a gun in his/her home; we have a gun in our home. Yes, what you're saying is theoretically possible. It is not anything I would lose sleep over. We have a gun. It is kept locked away in a gun safe. When we chose to do this, we took on this responsibility: to make our children safe around guns. It isn't enough to make the guns safe from the children. To this end, we have utilized the NRA's 'Eddie Eagle' safety video, which teaches the child If you see a gun: Stop, Don't touch, Leave the Area, Tell an Adult. [snip] Bah. My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. Jeanne knife pills alcohol razor rope she could have used anything |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... "Chotii" skrev i en meddelelse ... "Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... My first fear would be knowing the nabour had a gun and wondering when his 12-yo son would use it, just because he could or because he thought it was 'cool'. That's why I like drivers licenses given out after having received education. I can drive as cautious I will - if the other guy doesn't, I die anyhow. This is true and sensible. However, a license doesn't make a 16 year old wise. Lots of 16 year old drivers kill themselves and/or their friends. As do older people. A license is a good thing but it doesn't stop a certain number of deaths. Did I mention I would require my children to take a gun-safety course (either from us, or the gun range) and have supervision at all times when handling firearms? How does this differ from the education required to handle a 3000-lb motor vehicle? I'm not the least afraid of your children - I'm sure they'll be sensible. First: I forgot you could get a drivers license when you are 16 in USA - you have to be 18 in Denmark. And you can't drive without an authorized teacher before you have your drivers license. 18 is a bit better, but not much. A lot of accidents happen with youngsters involved in Denmark as well. I guess that to me the difference between a gun and a car is that in my world/mind set you don't need a gun, but some people need a car. what if there is an intruder with a knife or bat? eliminating guns wouldnt eliminate violence here and i am for gun control,btw |
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OT Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... "Chotii" skrev i en meddelelse ... "Tine Andersen" wrote in message k... My first fear would be knowing the nabour had a gun and wondering when his 12-yo son would use it, just because he could or because he thought it was 'cool'. That's why I like drivers licenses given out after having received education. I can drive as cautious I will - if the other guy doesn't, I die anyhow. This is true and sensible. However, a license doesn't make a 16 year old wise. Lots of 16 year old drivers kill themselves and/or their friends. As do older people. A license is a good thing but it doesn't stop a certain number of deaths. Did I mention I would require my children to take a gun-safety course (either from us, or the gun range) and have supervision at all times when handling firearms? How does this differ from the education required to handle a 3000-lb motor vehicle? I'm not the least afraid of your children - I'm sure they'll be sensible. First: I forgot you could get a drivers license when you are 16 in USA - you have to be 18 in Denmark. And you can't drive without an authorized teacher before you have your drivers license. 18 is a bit better, but not much. A lot of accidents happen with youngsters involved in Denmark as well. I guess that to me the difference between a gun and a car is that in my world/mind set you don't need a gun, but some people need a car. Ah. Well, this is a different argument entirely. Some 12 year old children steal cars and drive them and crash. Some 12 year olds pick up guns and shoot them. You may well argue that the gun is unnecessary. Depending on where the family lives, you might well argue that the *car* is unnecessary. But that is a different argument from 'guns are dangerous, nobody should own a gun'. For some people, the possession of a (legal) firearm provides a feeling of safety. Perhaps they feel that, in the event of a break-in to their place of residence or business, they cannot rely on the police to protect them in time, or at all. In any event, in most cases, all the police can do is *react* to a crime. Restraining orders - one of the few legal recourses people have to aggressors in their lives - frequently fail, fatally, to protect the people who need them the most. (And for some people, of course, a firearm is a necessary item for various sports.) Simply making guns illegal doesn't make crime go away. And not just in America - see http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/e...lk/3009769.stm - this fellow's house was burgled so many times that he used an (illegal) gun and shot somebody to death. He is now in prison, because "The parole board...has continually refused him early release - saying he has shown no remorse and would continue to pose a danger to any other burglars." It is not illegal in the USA (yet, anyway) to defend one's self inside one's own home or business, *provided* there is evidence of a threat to life from the intruder. How do you place a value on peace of mind? Is that unnecessary? And with what do you propose to replace this method of self- and home-defense for people who *want* it, if it were taken away? Of course, if people do *not* want a firearm, nobody's forcing them to. (And those who do have one, have a very high responsibility to store/handle them responsibly, and to train their children accordingly.) (Repeat ad nauseum.) --angela |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
On Sat, 21 Feb 2004 18:52:44 -0500, Bruce and Jeanne
wrote: My best childhood friend lived with a gun in her house. Locked. Given safety lessons. Then, at 18, because she wasn't doing well at college, she unlocked the case because she knew where the key was and shot herself. That is really, really sad to hear ( But I feel the need to make the point that there are other objects to commit suicide with...drugs, or a car, or a knife. Marie |
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