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OT religion and smacking
Chotii wrote:
Kate, if I may ask....since 'gun control' means making guns illegal to keep people from killing each other, of what value are new laws controlling guns, when it is *already* illegal to kill people (with a gun or anything else)? I will concede that a firearm makes it easier to kill from a distance; what it cannot do is prevent killing. I think a more valid point is that most of the guns used to kill people are *already* illegal. It is my feeling that increasing gun control is only going to affect the legal gun owners and generally, they aren't the ones killing people. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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OT religion and smacking
"Nikki" wrote in message ... Nina wrote: "Nikki" wrote in message news Nina wrote: IMO hitting a child out of frustration isn't discipline, its "fighting". ie "I'm mad at you, so I'm going to hit you". Spanking is a carefully measured punishment not just striking out in anger. Sort of. I'm not thinking that I'm hitting because I'm mad. ..... I don't feel that is correct but when I get totally frustrated then I spank quickly, with out thinking it through. Thats what I mean, dont hit out of anger or frustration, In those cases, its best to just leave and take a breather. Yes I agree. I don't mean to say one should spank out of frustration. I've swatted a total of 5 times and I've regretted every one. It isn't something I want to do. When I was spanked because I had done something wrong, I knew it was the consequence of my actions and it wasnt my mother hitting me because she was mad. Its kinda like the differnece between someone being tried and hung and being lynched by a mob. Maybe. It is certainly more 'civil' for the person doing the hanging (or spanking) but the poor guy is dead both ways....I'm not sure he sees a big difference. But in the former circumstances, the dead guy is far more likely to have been innocent or deserving of a lesser punishment. So when it is done in haste and anger, the chances are greater that the pubishment is NOT appropriate for the crime. When done carefully and calculated, or shall I say "measured" since "calculated" seems to have negative connotations,it is very likely that the offense merits this response and is not being meted out unfairly, unjustly, or excessively. |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
"Akuvikate" wrote in message om... I'm not going to jump into the fray too much here because I doubt I'll change anyone's mind. Nonetheless: -- A gun in the home is 8 times more likely to kill a resident of that home in suicide than it is to be used against an intruder. -- It is 6 times more likely to kill a resident of the home in homicide (either by a family member or an intruder) than it is to be used against an intruder. I suspect that the in vast majority of those suicides and homicides, the gun owner believed that these sorts of things happen to other families, not his or hers. I fear guns less in the homes of young children than in the homes of teenagers, who as part of their developmental process often do stupid things. If you choose to have a gun in the home, please don't just keep in mind safety around accidents with young children, but also keep in mind that kids deliberately do stupid things when they get older, and adults do stupid things sometimes too. Easy access to a gun can seriously up the ante when people get crazy ideas. Please be careful. I grew up in a family that was both southern and military. Gun accidents weren't much of an issue. Its like binge drinking in teens isn't a problem in countries where wine is habitually taken with meals. gun play isn't a problem in homes where guns aren't considered cool exotic macho toys. They are tools like hunting knives, meat cleavers etc, and are things everyone knows how to live with safely. There are always some idiots who will play with dangerous things: fire, matches, knives bows and arrows, power tools, fast cars. But it is important to both control access to these things AND teach proper safety. I have always lived with weapons and they were under lock and key, there is no way on earth any of us could have ever played with them, as the ammo and the gun were in separate areas with separate keys, and the keys weren't where we could find them As my brothers got older, they learned to hunt. One still does and has his own guns, the other doesn't, but has joined the Navy so will probably have a fair amount of weapons training. I do NOT believe in just having guns lying about, or in unsecure locations. |
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Nina wrote:
So when it is done in haste and anger, the chances are greater that the pubishment is NOT appropriate for the crime. When done carefully and calculated, or shall I say "measured" since "calculated" seems to have negative connotations,it is very likely that the offense merits this response and is not being meted out unfairly, unjustly, or excessively. That make sense. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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OT religion and smacking
"Tine Andersen" wrote in message . dk...
This whole discussion is extremely painful to me. After spending a lot of time on this newsgroup, I have finally arrived to the conclusion that Americans are not as primitive and savage as we think, but this conversation bombs me back into prejudice again. You say primitive like it's a bad thing :-) I think we do (generally speaking) operate a little more on instincts than you based on what other people said about all your kids being in daycare. My instincts make it intolerable for me to be separated from my small children. I sympathise for all who have to. Wanting to protect ourselves also is a very strong instinct that many people in the US choose to heed with gun ownership. I think the death penalty also for me at least is governed by the instinct of wanting to protect myself. I don't want even the chance of some people to get back out into society. It keeps going in my head:: what can you expect from citicens of a country that still considers guns in private homes normal and approves of death penalty. We considered this in-human 60 years ago (or more). You can expect a free coountry where people have a right to protect ourselves. Now that you reminded me that many places in the world do not have all the rights we have I am extra glad to live here. I have never felt it necessary to hit. I have children who rage at me, but they recognize my superiority never the less. I do shout once in a while, but they know it's over in an instant. Where does hitting of any kind fit with AP'ing? I have frequently wondered what AP'ing and day care have in common. KC |
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OT religion and smacking
"Akuvikate" skrev i en meddelelse
om... If it makes you feel better, I'm strongly anti-death penalty and *very* pro-gun control. I come from a city with a major gun violence problem (over 100 homicides last year, 85% among black men under 25 years of age) and have worked on anti-violence initiatives. There are those of us who agree with you! On the flip side I went to a shooting range recently with my father-in-law and rather enjoyed it. I figured given my opinions (which didn't change) it was all the more important for me to experience the other side. You may not believe it, but I went to a shooting club once and dit enjoy it very much. That doesn't mean I want them in my house. And you did make me feel better. Tine, Denmark |
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OT religion and smacking
"Nikki" skrev i en meddelelse
... Tine Andersen wrote: By the way....I don't think there is anywhere that an American would be arrested for 1-2 open handed slaps to the butt. Almost anything else could/would be considered abusive. Probably not even in Denmark. But technically it is illegal and has been for 10 years. I wouldn't want to clog up an already over taxed system by hauling people into jail/court or over burden child protection for swatting their kids but I would support a strong message that it was not OK. A strong anti-spanking campaign sounds good ;-) That's actually what we have. The law enforces that we mean it. Tine, Denmark |
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"KC" skrev i en meddelelse
om... "Tine Andersen" wrote in message . dk... This whole discussion is extremely painful to me. After spending a lot of time on this newsgroup, I have finally arrived to the conclusion that Americans are not as primitive and savage as we think, but this conversation bombs me back into prejudice again. You say primitive like it's a bad thing :-) I think we do (generally speaking) operate a little more on instincts than you based on what other people said about all your kids being in daycare. My instincts make it intolerable for me to be separated from my small children. I sympathise for all who have to. Please remember that here small children is usually 13 months or older. They are not entitled to day care before that and we have long maternaty leaves. Wanting to protect ourselves also is a very strong instinct that many people in the US choose to heed with gun ownership. I think the death penalty also for me at least is governed by the instinct of wanting to protect myself. I don't want even the chance of some people to get back out into society. It keeps going in my head:: what can you expect from citicens of a country that still considers guns in private homes normal and approves of death penalty. We considered this in-human 60 years ago (or more). You can expect a free coountry where people have a right to protect ourselves. Now that you reminded me that many places in the world do not have all the rights we have I am extra glad to live here. That's probably part of the difference. We are not supposed to - I even believe it's illegal - protect ourselves. Or rather - not supposed to revenge. I have never felt it necessary to hit. I have children who rage at me, but they recognize my superiority never the less. I do shout once in a while, but they know it's over in an instant. Where does hitting of any kind fit with AP'ing? I have frequently wondered what AP'ing and day care have in common. I admit I don't consider myself AP'er, and it probably doesn't. Apart from that: I was talking about psysical punishments - not all other aspects of life. You can't make a intelligent discussion by just saying: I may be doing this and that, but you are doing something much worse, so there! Tine, Denmark |
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Chotii wrote: Kate, if I may ask....since 'gun control' means making guns illegal to keep people from killing each other, of what value are new laws controlling guns, when it is *already* illegal to kill people (with a gun or anything else)? I will concede that a firearm makes it easier to kill from a distance; what it cannot do is prevent killing. I wouldn't necessarily equate "gun control" with making guns illegal. I'd be in favor of one form of gun control - basically, treating a gun like you do a car. If I have a car that I keep and drive only on my own property, I don't need a driver's license, I don't need to register the car, I don't need a car tag, I don't need to insure the car. Once I take it out on a public road, I'm *much* more restricted in what I can do with that car. I would have no problem at all in making people get licenses to take guns (any guns - not just handguns) off their own property. Clisby |
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Gun safety/America (was: OT religion and smacking)
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