Good twin parenting books?

My absolute favorite was a book on pg and the first few
months by two doctors out of Ann Arbor, MI. They focused on twins and
more. It was absolutely invaluable.

one of these authors is Barbara Luke. she's in Florida now. she is a
nutritionist really, with a specialty in multiples. we live in Ann
Arbor so we saw Dr. Luke, a lot. she's kind of a control freak who
liked to make you afraid of the worst so she could come in and "save"
you from your fears. i found it quite ironic that she really didn't
seem to like children. i'm forming this opinion on the interactions i
saw with her and children. her own son was in boarding school in
California while we were seeing her. but...she was very nice. =)

pam

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Hmmm...I'm a bit "off" on this one. Most of my friends didn't buy in
to the books and preparations of parenthoood. They "winged it" and did
fine. I'm a control freak and I needed some kind of plan to occupy my
mind while awaiting the unknown.

That's funny, Missy, because I'm a control freak who ended up totally
winging it. :-) I like making decisions, and what I found was that too
much of what I read contradicted xyz in some other book, IYSWIM.
Ultimately, I tend to fall back on what I learned when I was raised, and
because I had a (relatively) healthy and happy upbringing, I'm just going to
rely on that knowledge and experience. DH and I agree most of the time
because our moms were similar in many of the parenting techniques they used
(though they are very different in most other ways, lol).

There are some instances where DH resents something his parents failed to do
(e.g., communicate adequately with the kids), so we put that on our front
burner. And I have certain things I want to concentrate on that my parents
didn't (e.g., sharing my kids' interests).

If I find a book/author that mirrors my interests, I've enjoyed reading that
source. For instance, John Rosemond is a "parenting expert" whose writings
seem to be coming straight from my brain...so I have a lot of his books on
my shelf and like to offer them to friends who want to know what I'm all
about.

I've also always loved the Ames & Ilg developmental books, because they're
so short, sweet, to the point, and remarkably accurate! ("Your
One-Year-Old," "Your Two-Year-Old," etc.)

Lastly, my biggest piece of advice - since I know you're just hoping
I'll ramble some more LOL - is this: Line up help now.

Great advice, Missy!! Esp. about not playing the martyr. I definitely made
this mistake. :-O

C: If you don't bathe on the right
schedule, put the diaper on inside out, and can't figure out how to use
that blue bulb on their noses, you'll still be a good Mom if you love
'em. They'll be just fine and so will you. I promise

Yup. And the kids won't remember most of what you did wrong. You can tell
them all that when they're older, and trust me, they'll crack up to hear how
much they confused you. ;-)

Jenny

"m.ackerman" wrote in
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Each time I meet a mom of twins who has "older" twins I usually am
convenience that I too shall live through these stages and as one mom
of 12 year old twin boys said "I'm not in a mental institution and they
are still alive - I guess all is going well!" Some stages feel like
they will NEVER end, others (the sweet ones) feel like they are over in
a blink of an eye - all in all - I wouldn't trade them for the world!
Tonight at swim club practice I walked over to Chris to remind him to
breath (yeah, one would think it would be second nature in swimming),
anyhow, after telling him to remember to breath he said "hey mom, you
look great"! One can't beat that!

Shirley
Chris and Kathleen 1/95


The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is don't
listen to your parents or in-laws. Maybe just don't take what they say as
gospel, you can listen a little I guess. heh. My mother-in-law has told us
about how my wife was eating solid food at 2 months, sleeping through the
night at 3 months, walking at 6 months, potty trained at 12 months, etc. I
am not exaggerating on those numbers. It gets very frustrating. The only
one I could maybe agree with under the best of situations is the sleeping at
3 months. I've known some really lucky parents who have been blessed with
that. Our girls are 3 months and 1 week and sleep 4-6 hours at night, but
they are getting better. Other things my wife's mom has told us:
(1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole milk.
(2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day.
Oh, and the most funky one!
(3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute each
day to help align their backs.
Our doc almost laughed at that last one and said that that would probably
just make them throw up everything from their stomach.

Steve

Dad of Brianna (2/03) and Rebecca & Sydney (12/04)

I found it wasn't just the in-laws or out-laws but strangers - they ALWAYS
have/had advice to give, wanted or not. Usually I just said thank you and
went on my way but there was one dad on here in our group that after many
times of being asked whether his wife took drugs (of course on one's
business IMO), said "yes, after the cocaine and heroine she finally
conceived! The nosey party soon shut up wide mouthed and walked away - cute
reply after being inundated with personal questions. Now that the twins are
10 I don't have too many problems with unsolicited recommendations. Both
are very different, she is actually 1.5 taller than her brother - finally!
They are in totally different activities, Kathleen is a dancer (Irish),
violin player, drama class and soccer, Chris is in a swim club and does
cartoon drawing (to which I might add sold his first drawing to the teacher
a week ago), on Saturday. Because they aren't seen together and no longer
look alike they can go on their merry way. I do get asked though "who got
held back" when we are at school functions. In reality it was Kathleen as
Chris is 4 minutes older!

Shirley
Chris and Kathleen 1/95

"Steve Smith" wrote in message
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"m.ackerman" wrote in
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Each time I meet a mom of twins who has "older" twins I usually am
convenience that I too shall live through these stages and as one mom
of 12 year old twin boys said "I'm not in a mental institution and they
are still alive - I guess all is going well!" Some stages feel like
they will NEVER end, others (the sweet ones) feel like they are over in
a blink of an eye - all in all - I wouldn't trade them for the world!
Tonight at swim club practice I walked over to Chris to remind him to
breath (yeah, one would think it would be second nature in swimming),
anyhow, after telling him to remember to breath he said "hey mom, you
look great"! One can't beat that!

Shirley
Chris and Kathleen 1/95


The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is
don't
listen to your parents or in-laws. Maybe just don't take what they say as
gospel, you can listen a little I guess. heh. My mother-in-law has told
us
about how my wife was eating solid food at 2 months, sleeping through the
night at 3 months, walking at 6 months, potty trained at 12 months, etc.
I
am not exaggerating on those numbers. It gets very frustrating. The only
one I could maybe agree with under the best of situations is the sleeping
at
3 months. I've known some really lucky parents who have been blessed with
that. Our girls are 3 months and 1 week and sleep 4-6 hours at night, but
they are getting better. Other things my wife's mom has told us:
(1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole
milk.
(2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day.
Oh, and the most funky one!
(3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute each
day to help align their backs.
Our doc almost laughed at that last one and said that that would probably
just make them throw up everything from their stomach.

Steve

Dad of Brianna (2/03) and Rebecca & Sydney (12/04)

The best advice I could give to any new parent, twin or singleton, is
don't
listen to your parents or in-laws.
Other things my wife's mom has told us:
(1) the colic is caused by breastfeeding, stop it and feed them whole
milk.
(2) you should give the girls 2-3 bottles of water each day.
Oh, and the most funky one!
(3) you should hold newborns upside down by their ankles for a minute
each
day to help align their backs.

Maybe the best advice is "Don't listen to my (your) inlaws"! LOL!

Okay, I just couldn't resist

Missy in Indiana

If you're planning on breastfeeding, one book I've heard highly recommended
is "Mothering Multiples". I didn't have it myself, but I always wished I
did.


"KellyH" wrote in message
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Any suggestions? Also, any good general "care and feeding of babies"
books?
Not specific to parenting methods, but just what to do. I don't even know
how often you bathe a baby.

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