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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
I called my OB's office earlier today to reschedule an appointment I had for
Sept. 12 in the AM - my mom had booked DS in for the dentist that same morning, and it's just easier to reschedule my appointment than the dentist... Luckily, I was able to get in at a better time in the morning the very next day. As I had requested, my doc's nurse called me back... I had asked to be tested for any and all STDs, and the nurse said I had been tested for the common stuff at the beginning of this pregnancy, as it's standard procedure. Nothing had changed from being pg with DD and this one... up until now, or so I hear. I had a feeling the last little while, but now I've heard (from a friend) who just said that he's not going to step in, but he told me to get tested just to be sure. The nurse listed off what they normally test for... I can't recall off hand, but she said they test for the most common STDs, and I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? |
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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
xkatx wrote:
I called my OB's office earlier today to reschedule an appointment I had for Sept. 12 in the AM - my mom had booked DS in for the dentist that same morning, and it's just easier to reschedule my appointment than the dentist... Luckily, I was able to get in at a better time in the morning the very next day. As I had requested, my doc's nurse called me back... I had asked to be tested for any and all STDs, and the nurse said I had been tested for the common stuff at the beginning of this pregnancy, as it's standard procedure. Nothing had changed from being pg with DD and this one... up until now, or so I hear. I had a feeling the last little while, but now I've heard (from a friend) who just said that he's not going to step in, but he told me to get tested just to be sure. The nurse listed off what they normally test for... I can't recall off hand, but she said they test for the most common STDs, and I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? I'm not really sure exactly what the question or issue is. Let me see if I am clear...you were tested a month or more ago for STD's as a routine pregnancy thing, but you've been given the heads up from a friend that your dh is sleeping around, so you are thinking you should get tested again? Is there something specific that you've been told to test for? For example, has your dh suddenly come down with herpes or something? If it's just general "he's been sleeping around and you should get tested" stuff, you might want to wait a little while to make sure that everything that could be infectios has time to incubate. As of a few months ago you were clean. I'm assuming they test for Chlamidia, HIV, Herpes, etc. Maybe wait a month and then ask to be retested. Also, if it isn't obvious, do not sleep with him again. If you do sleep with him, make sure you use protection, but it's probably easier to just say no all together and cut the risk the most. I'd also speak to your OB and explain the sticky situation and see what they recommend. I'm sure they have the same standard panel that a clinic would have, and probably easier to make it unobtrusive and less public, since you're pregnant and going for regular visits anyway. Hugs. I'm sorry you are dealing with all of this. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
"Jamie Clark" wrote in message . .. xkatx wrote: I called my OB's office earlier today to reschedule an appointment I had for Sept. 12 in the AM - my mom had booked DS in for the dentist that same morning, and it's just easier to reschedule my appointment than the dentist... Luckily, I was able to get in at a better time in the morning the very next day. As I had requested, my doc's nurse called me back... I had asked to be tested for any and all STDs, and the nurse said I had been tested for the common stuff at the beginning of this pregnancy, as it's standard procedure. Nothing had changed from being pg with DD and this one... up until now, or so I hear. I had a feeling the last little while, but now I've heard (from a friend) who just said that he's not going to step in, but he told me to get tested just to be sure. The nurse listed off what they normally test for... I can't recall off hand, but she said they test for the most common STDs, and I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? I'm not really sure exactly what the question or issue is. Let me see if I am clear...you were tested a month or more ago for STD's as a routine pregnancy thing, but you've been given the heads up from a friend that your dh is sleeping around, so you are thinking you should get tested again? Is there something specific that you've been told to test for? For example, has your dh suddenly come down with herpes or something? If it's just general "he's been sleeping around and you should get tested" stuff, you might want to wait a little while to make sure that everything that could be infectios has time to incubate. As of a few months ago you were clean. I'm assuming they test for Chlamidia, HIV, Herpes, etc. Maybe wait a month and then ask to be retested. I would have been tested at the beginning of this pregnancy, which would have been months ago. I think my first appointment was around March or so. As I knew all along, everything came back fine at that point. This friend had said that he's heard a lot of garbage going around where DH is currently 'living' at his mother's house. Back in June or July (can't remember, exactly) he had a very suspicious email from some random girl to him saying a bunch of stuff - I did question him on it, and of course, as usual, he said he had no idea who this person was, nor did he know what was going on. I really haven't believed a word that's come out of his mouth in many, MANY months. Now this friend heard (not sure where) some stuff, and he said that seriously, I should get tested just to be sure. Since things have clearly been crap - he'd come home with more lies about this and that (oh, I love you, let's make this work) and it was a couple days and he'd take off again, and each and every time, though, I felt like he was coming home for a piece of a$$ - and each time I had told him no, it doesn't work like that. Also, if it isn't obvious, do not sleep with him again. If you do sleep with him, make sure you use protection, but it's probably easier to just say no all together and cut the risk the most. No, there won't be anything like that going on again. If and when he can admit he has a drug problem, a problem with anger management, lacks parenting/life/human skills and get help with that, whatever (I don't believe that time will ever come anyways) and when he has a damn good excuse and explanation for his behavior, actions and all that... Yup, won't happen, and I don't care to hear it anymore. I'd also speak to your OB and explain the sticky situation and see what they recommend. I'm sure they have the same standard panel that a clinic would have, and probably easier to make it unobtrusive and less public, since you're pregnant and going for regular visits anyway. Well, that's why I figured the OB was the best bet, as I'm there often anyways. The nurse marked it down on my chart thing so it won't be forgotten for my next appointment next week. Hugs. I'm sorry you are dealing with all of this. Not sure how and why I got myself mixed up with this garbage. I am starting to really believe it's better this way, though, just not sure how to deal with quite a few things right now. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
xkatx wrote:
"Jamie Clark" wrote in message . .. xkatx wrote: I called my OB's office earlier today to reschedule an appointment I had for Sept. 12 in the AM - my mom had booked DS in for the dentist that same morning, and it's just easier to reschedule my appointment than the dentist... Luckily, I was able to get in at a better time in the morning the very next day. As I had requested, my doc's nurse called me back... I had asked to be tested for any and all STDs, and the nurse said I had been tested for the common stuff at the beginning of this pregnancy, as it's standard procedure. Nothing had changed from being pg with DD and this one... up until now, or so I hear. I had a feeling the last little while, but now I've heard (from a friend) who just said that he's not going to step in, but he told me to get tested just to be sure. The nurse listed off what they normally test for... I can't recall off hand, but she said they test for the most common STDs, and I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? I'm not really sure exactly what the question or issue is. Let me see if I am clear...you were tested a month or more ago for STD's as a routine pregnancy thing, but you've been given the heads up from a friend that your dh is sleeping around, so you are thinking you should get tested again? Is there something specific that you've been told to test for? For example, has your dh suddenly come down with herpes or something? If it's just general "he's been sleeping around and you should get tested" stuff, you might want to wait a little while to make sure that everything that could be infectios has time to incubate. As of a few months ago you were clean. I'm assuming they test for Chlamidia, HIV, Herpes, etc. Maybe wait a month and then ask to be retested. I would have been tested at the beginning of this pregnancy, which would have been months ago. I think my first appointment was around March or so. As I knew all along, everything came back fine at that point. This friend had said that he's heard a lot of garbage going around where DH is currently 'living' at his mother's house. Back in June or July (can't remember, exactly) he had a very suspicious email from some random girl to him saying a bunch of stuff - I did question him on it, and of course, as usual, he said he had no idea who this person was, nor did he know what was going on. I really haven't believed a word that's come out of his mouth in many, MANY months. Now this friend heard (not sure where) some stuff, and he said that seriously, I should get tested just to be sure. Since things have clearly been crap - he'd come home with more lies about this and that (oh, I love you, let's make this work) and it was a couple days and he'd take off again, and each and every time, though, I felt like he was coming home for a piece of a$$ - and each time I had told him no, it doesn't work like that. So exactly when is the last time you slept with him, without protection? If it was when you conceived, then you shouldn't need to be tested again, since there is little/no contact for std's when you haven't had sex. Now if it was after that, it definately would be worth getting tested again. If it has already been a few months since the last time you had sex with him, then getting retested now should be fine. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
"Jamie Clark" wrote in message . .. xkatx wrote: "Jamie Clark" wrote in message . .. xkatx wrote: I called my OB's office earlier today to reschedule an appointment I had for Sept. 12 in the AM - my mom had booked DS in for the dentist that same morning, and it's just easier to reschedule my appointment than the dentist... Luckily, I was able to get in at a better time in the morning the very next day. As I had requested, my doc's nurse called me back... I had asked to be tested for any and all STDs, and the nurse said I had been tested for the common stuff at the beginning of this pregnancy, as it's standard procedure. Nothing had changed from being pg with DD and this one... up until now, or so I hear. I had a feeling the last little while, but now I've heard (from a friend) who just said that he's not going to step in, but he told me to get tested just to be sure. The nurse listed off what they normally test for... I can't recall off hand, but she said they test for the most common STDs, and I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? I'm not really sure exactly what the question or issue is. Let me see if I am clear...you were tested a month or more ago for STD's as a routine pregnancy thing, but you've been given the heads up from a friend that your dh is sleeping around, so you are thinking you should get tested again? Is there something specific that you've been told to test for? For example, has your dh suddenly come down with herpes or something? If it's just general "he's been sleeping around and you should get tested" stuff, you might want to wait a little while to make sure that everything that could be infectios has time to incubate. As of a few months ago you were clean. I'm assuming they test for Chlamidia, HIV, Herpes, etc. Maybe wait a month and then ask to be retested. I would have been tested at the beginning of this pregnancy, which would have been months ago. I think my first appointment was around March or so. As I knew all along, everything came back fine at that point. This friend had said that he's heard a lot of garbage going around where DH is currently 'living' at his mother's house. Back in June or July (can't remember, exactly) he had a very suspicious email from some random girl to him saying a bunch of stuff - I did question him on it, and of course, as usual, he said he had no idea who this person was, nor did he know what was going on. I really haven't believed a word that's come out of his mouth in many, MANY months. Now this friend heard (not sure where) some stuff, and he said that seriously, I should get tested just to be sure. Since things have clearly been crap - he'd come home with more lies about this and that (oh, I love you, let's make this work) and it was a couple days and he'd take off again, and each and every time, though, I felt like he was coming home for a piece of a$$ - and each time I had told him no, it doesn't work like that. So exactly when is the last time you slept with him, without protection? If it was when you conceived, then you shouldn't need to be tested again, since there is little/no contact for std's when you haven't had sex. Now if it was after that, it definately would be worth getting tested again. If it has already been a few months since the last time you had sex with him, then getting retested now should be fine. I'd say about a month or so was the last time? Not 100% sure, but it's always been unprotected. And it's because I don't know exactly when this was an issue, I'll assume right from the start of all this - maybe 2ish months ago? But it has been a month or so, and the doc will retest, I was told. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Awkward (and hard) question... STD testing...
xkatx wrote: I'm wondering if it would be in my best interest to go to an actual clinic that specializes in this, or is my OB's office good enough? As far as the lab work is concerned, it should make no difference where the sample is collected. But your question OB or STD clinic is a good one. Your OB may not be the most up to date on STDs. To play it safe, call your local public health clinic or state STDs information center and ask them what nasties are going around in your area (state?). Besides chlamydia, HIV and herpes, there may be hepatitis (actually several different viruses, each of which require a separate test), gonorrhea, syphilis, trich, and some more exotic stuff. And you may want to get a fresh pap smear and have it checked for human papiloma virus and group B strep. Be sure to explain that you know your DH is a drug user and now you believe also promiscuous, and he does not use condoms. Drug use is associated with a high risk of STDs, often with a different risk profile (ie, different nasties) than promiscuity and unsafe sex do by themselves. |
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