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Homework revisited
This might be a long shot, but my daughter's are five years
apart. Often the younger one finds it cool to do homework with the older one, and ask the older one for help. However, she's not happy asking me for help. What if your older daughter played spelling with her? "Sue" wrote in message ... Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? -- Sue mom to three girls |
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Homework revisited
Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do
homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? -- Sue mom to three girls |
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I have tried that already, with no success so far. I can't really explain
how Kara is, but she really resists anyone knowing what is going on with her. She gets mad if her sisters try to help her and yells at them to leave her alone. So if her sisters know that she is having a hard time with her homework, she tells them to go on and she will just talk to me. -- Sue mom to three girls Cathy Kearns wrote in message . .. This might be a long shot, but my daughter's are five years apart. Often the younger one finds it cool to do homework with the older one, and ask the older one for help. However, she's not happy asking me for help. What if your older daughter played spelling with her? "Sue" wrote in message ... Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? -- Sue mom to three girls |
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"Sue" wrote in message ... Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? We home school. DS has always been very resistant to the sitting and doing work sheets part of things. I stumbled on a couple different techniques that have worked more often than not: We sang the instructions and spelling words back and forth to each other *loudly* [pity the neighbors]. This also worked when we were doing some phonics and he had to select the correct word and write it into it's proper blank. I also found that having a drink on the table seemed to help. Don't ask why. Cold water worked just fine. I wondered if it was kind of like the let me take a pause while I think that helped him move along. In the spelling words dept. we have found that oral works much better with DS than written. I suspect that is because you are only involving one sort of activity: spelling, rather than two: spelling, & writing. We found if we played games of what did it rhyme with that has helped, but especially if the word is pronounced then spelled then pronounced [like in spelling bees] it gets DS to pause long enough to remember how to spell the word. Good luck. If you experiment enough you will probably find several things that help make the work more fun and therefore more likely to be done and done well. -Aula |
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Sue wrote:
Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? I knew a kid who only practiced memory things (like spelling or learning state capitols) while swinging. Weird but it worked for her. I can't remember what they did in the winter???? Maybe a rocking chair or something. It must have been sensory I'm not sure, it was long before I had kids and I didn't give it much thought. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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Sue wrote:
Any suggestions for me? Two ideas: 1) If your daughter has a favorite CD, try playing music while she does homework. My girls didn't have a favorite CD, but they did have favorite movies, so I bought the soundtracks and played those during homework. 2) Instead of quizzing your 6-year-old on her spelling words, see if you can get her to quiz your older daughters on them. The older girls probably won't mind taking a 1st grade spelling test since they'll get them all right, and your 6-year-old will have to pay attention to make sure her sisters are correct. |
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"Sue" wrote in message ...
Are there some techniques that anyone has tried to get their kids to do homework. Two of my girls don't have a problem with doing homework. They are in 5th and 3rd grades. However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? Absolutely. Put the onus squarely on your daughter and her teacher and stay entirely out of the equation. If the teacher insists on requiring homework and your daughter refuses to do it (shades of our first grade experiences!) then talk to the teacher, tell her that you absolutely refuse to ruin your relationship with your child over homework, and that you will not interfere. Thus, either the teacher backs off, which is highly unlikely, or she makes your child stay in and do the homework whilst the other kids are at recess. A few weeks of missing playtime while all her friends are outside will either make your daughter change or tune, or it won't. Either way, YOU don't have to fight over the issue every night. This was recommended to me years ago and it's worked very well. We go through this every year for a few weeks, and then we settle in. Now that there isn't recess, no homework means lunch detention or even afterschool detention. Neither is worth the refusal to do homework longterm. Marjorie |
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Sue wrote in :
[snip] However, my 6-year-old definitely has a different personality and getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth. So far, she has failed two spelling tests (And isn't first grade a little early for spelling tests?). I can't get her to willingly to do her spelling every night, with or without my help. She has a fit every night about it. She really needs to do this every night as she is not doing well. Any suggestions for me? I get the kids to copy the words once every morning. Maybe that would work for you? -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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chiam margalit wrote in message
Absolutely. Put the onus squarely on your daughter and her teacher and stay entirely out of the equation. If the teacher insists on requiring homework and your daughter refuses to do it (shades of our first grade experiences!) then talk to the teacher, tell her that you absolutely refuse to ruin your relationship with your child over homework, and that you will not interfere. Thus, either the teacher backs off, which is highly unlikely, or she makes your child stay in and do the homework whilst the other kids are at recess. A few weeks of missing playtime while all her friends are outside will either make your daughter change or tune, or it won't. Either way, YOU don't have to fight over the issue every night. This was recommended to me years ago and it's worked very well. We go through this every year for a few weeks, and then we settle in. Now that there isn't recess, no homework means lunch detention or even afterschool detention. Neither is worth the refusal to do homework longterm. Marjorie I have a feeling, given how difficult everything else has been with this particular child, that I *am* going to have to back out of it. I probably need to talk with the teacher really quick here because it is not getting better and we are only three weeks into it. Although given how poorly Kara is doing with spelling, she does need to come home and study her words more, but she is giving me a hard time practicing it. I'm not sure if you Marjorie or anyone else is familiar with the news sheet Time for Kids that they are using now in some schools. Basically, it is a four page magazine that scales down to their level of what is going on in the world and other different tid-bit of news. I had to pay $4.50 for the year for this magazine. Usually, they go over it in class and then they answer some questions about it. I got the magazine sent home on Thursday, with a two-page answer sheet that the teacher wants Kara to fill out. I am absolutely floored that this is expected in first grade (it wasn't like this with other teachers in first grade) Kara cannot even read and she expects Kara to fill this two page thing out. So you know it is me who is going to have to take the time out and help her with this. I am guessing that it will take us around 2-3 hours to fill this out, given how difficult Kara is about sitting and doing work. And it's not like I haven't gone through first grade before, but never with this teacher. I wanted some sort of way to make homework fun for Kara, but it seems given her personality that I am going to have to have the teacher step in and possibly take something away. Too bad, I really didn't want to have to go this route. -- Sue mom to three girls |
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My answers are below.
just me wrote in message We sang the instructions and spelling words back and forth to each other *loudly* [pity the neighbors]. This also worked when we were doing some phonics and he had to select the correct word and write it into it's proper blank. I also found that having a drink on the table seemed to help. Don't ask why. Cold water worked just fine. I wondered if it was kind of like the let me take a pause while I think that helped him move along. Hmm, singing eh? My poor neighbors, lol. I can give that a try. I have a feeling that if I can get silly or make it fun, it might help. I am hoping anyway. I gave her a snack one day to eat while we were doing the work, but she got too interested in her food to do the work, but I will try just something to drink. In the spelling words dept. we have found that oral works much better with DS than written. I suspect that is because you are only involving one sort of activity: spelling, rather than two: spelling, & writing. Ah (light bulb comes on) maybe that is the problem. I will definitely try just orally this week and see perhaps if it goes better. We found if we played games of what did it rhyme with that has helped, but especially if the word is pronounced then spelled then pronounced [like in spelling bees] it gets DS to pause long enough to remember how to spell the word. Rhyming might help too. She loves to sit and see how many words she can come up with that rhymes with other words. Thank you Aula. You have some great ideas and I will try them this week to see if it makes a difference. -- Sue mom to three girls |
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