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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message k.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Dale" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in We pay women to whelp children. The more children they have, the more money they get. The more men they have children with, the more they make. The poorest women have the largest safety net system to support their single motherhood. It's turning out that way, a kid is a free ticket to 18 years of tax free income! And well more than 18 years of bills. Such as? What bills, other than minimal support of children and her own costs is she forced to pay? Please define this "minimal support of children" - cause all I know is, I have 2 teenagers, and everything from food to educational expenses, to clothing expenses to health and dental insurance to medical and dental expenses has risen steadily between their infancy and their current adolescence. And it doesn't magically stop when they hit their 18th birthday. Here's some advice on how other mothers handle your dilemma: Make the child get a job. When CS stops, start charging the child rent. Stop buying food they like so they eat out more. Force the child to do more around the home - Turn them into unpaid domestic workers. Tell them to buy their own clothes. Ask the child to buy stuff for you and then never repay them. As you can see, the free money subsidy doesn't "magically stop when they hit their 18th birthday." The trick is to turn previous expenses into an income source. Just talk to some other former CP mothers. They can give you lots of hints on how to turn your children into money generating assets. If you want to follow that "advice", go for it. Personally, I think your advice sucks, and have no intention of treating ANYONE that way, much less my children. Hummmm! Maybe my "advice" to solve mother's post-18 CS money problems is why both my children came to live with me. Have you ever stopped to think that fathers treat their children in a way that shows children a more supportive parenting style? Why do you think so many children of divorce refer to their mothers as being greedy? I would have no idea - my children's father treats them in a way that shows them that he doesn't give a rat's ass about them - as for being greedy, my children know that they are the primary beneficiaries of the household income. And no, they're not greedy either - they tend to want to share what they have with others who don't have. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message .net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message k.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Dale" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in We pay women to whelp children. The more children they have, the more money they get. The more men they have children with, the more they make. The poorest women have the largest safety net system to support their single motherhood. It's turning out that way, a kid is a free ticket to 18 years of tax free income! And well more than 18 years of bills. Such as? What bills, other than minimal support of children and her own costs is she forced to pay? Please define this "minimal support of children" - cause all I know is, I have 2 teenagers, and everything from food to educational expenses, to clothing expenses to health and dental insurance to medical and dental expenses has risen steadily between their infancy and their current adolescence. And it doesn't magically stop when they hit their 18th birthday. Phil #3 Minimal support is that required by law, which if you've ever seen situations that barely meet the situation, you'd agree are not acceptable to many, if not most, parents. It is the very basic food, shelter, clothing, etc. You are only legally required to minimally support your children, period. That you choose to support them better is a choice. If the support doesn't end with their attaining adulthood, it is BY YOUR CHOICE. Now what, beside minimal support is the CP *required* to supply? Pretty much what *any* parent feels compelled to provide to their children - a reasonable upbringing. Yoiu and BOb seem to be on the same page - if that's how you've treated your children, I feel sorry for them. OK, you don't agree that minimal support is enough. But it is a *choice* to provide more than that. You are only *legally required* to provide the minimum. Your choice to provide more does not change the legal requirement in any way. Reality being what it is, there IS no "legal requirement" - certainly none that I've seen spelled out in the divorce laws of my state, nor spelled out in my divorce. On a more personal level, I'd be pretty worried about ANY parent who was calculating how much support to provide to their children based on some "legal minimum requirement" I don't disagree with you on that, Moon. But you have no right to make that same decision for others. I don't make decisions for anyone, except myself and on behalf of my children. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message .net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message k.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Dale" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in We pay women to whelp children. The more children they have, the more money they get. The more men they have children with, the more they make. The poorest women have the largest safety net system to support their single motherhood. It's turning out that way, a kid is a free ticket to 18 years of tax free income! And well more than 18 years of bills. Such as? What bills, other than minimal support of children and her own costs is she forced to pay? Please define this "minimal support of children" - cause all I know is, I have 2 teenagers, and everything from food to educational expenses, to clothing expenses to health and dental insurance to medical and dental expenses has risen steadily between their infancy and their current adolescence. And it doesn't magically stop when they hit their 18th birthday. Phil #3 Minimal support is that required by law, which if you've ever seen situations that barely meet the situation, you'd agree are not acceptable to many, if not most, parents. It is the very basic food, shelter, clothing, etc. You are only legally required to minimally support your children, period. That you choose to support them better is a choice. If the support doesn't end with their attaining adulthood, it is BY YOUR CHOICE. Now what, beside minimal support is the CP *required* to supply? Pretty much what *any* parent feels compelled to provide to their children - a reasonable upbringing. Yoiu and BOb seem to be on the same page - if that's how you've treated your children, I feel sorry for them. OK, you don't agree that minimal support is enough. But it is a *choice* to provide more than that. You are only *legally required* to provide the minimum. Your choice to provide more does not change the legal requirement in any way. Reality being what it is, there IS no "legal requirement" - certainly none that I've seen spelled out in the divorce laws of my state, nor spelled out in my divorce. On a more personal level, I'd be pretty worried about ANY parent who was calculating how much support to provide to their children based on some "legal minimum requirement" I don't disagree with you on that, Moon. But you have no right to make that same decision for others. I don't make decisions for anyone, except myself and on behalf of my children. So then you agree that the CS system should mandate that only the basics should be covered by required CS, and that anything above the levfel of basic support should be voluntary. That's good. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message .net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message k.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Dale" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in We pay women to whelp children. The more children they have, the more money they get. The more men they have children with, the more they make. The poorest women have the largest safety net system to support their single motherhood. It's turning out that way, a kid is a free ticket to 18 years of tax free income! And well more than 18 years of bills. Such as? What bills, other than minimal support of children and her own costs is she forced to pay? Please define this "minimal support of children" - cause all I know is, I have 2 teenagers, and everything from food to educational expenses, to clothing expenses to health and dental insurance to medical and dental expenses has risen steadily between their infancy and their current adolescence. And it doesn't magically stop when they hit their 18th birthday. Phil #3 Minimal support is that required by law, which if you've ever seen situations that barely meet the situation, you'd agree are not acceptable to many, if not most, parents. It is the very basic food, shelter, clothing, etc. You are only legally required to minimally support your children, period. That you choose to support them better is a choice. If the support doesn't end with their attaining adulthood, it is BY YOUR CHOICE. Now what, beside minimal support is the CP *required* to supply? Pretty much what *any* parent feels compelled to provide to their children - a reasonable upbringing. Yoiu and BOb seem to be on the same page - if that's how you've treated your children, I feel sorry for them. OK, you don't agree that minimal support is enough. But it is a *choice* to provide more than that. You are only *legally required* to provide the minimum. Your choice to provide more does not change the legal requirement in any way. Reality being what it is, there IS no "legal requirement" - certainly none that I've seen spelled out in the divorce laws of my state, nor spelled out in my divorce. Perhaps you think that laws only come from divorce decrees? On a more personal level, I'd be pretty worried about ANY parent who was calculating how much support to provide to their children based on some "legal minimum requirement" That's what I'm trying to get you to see. The law states that CPs must provide the basic legal minimum requirement. That's it! Phil #3 |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Phil" wrote in ... Brock Chisolm, former head of the World Health Organization, once admitted, “To achieve world government, it is necessary to remove from the minds of men, their individualism, loyalty to family traditions, national patriotism, and religious dogmas.” Men are often the staunchest defenders of those democratic ideals, so it only makes sense to marginalize males by any means possible. -- Phil #3 Yes, I feel very marginalized & processed too! I wonder if they still expect me to keep paying if I'm told by the federal governement that I'm not allowed to get a job? |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Dale" wrote in message et... "Phil" wrote in ... Brock Chisolm, former head of the World Health Organization, once admitted, “To achieve world government, it is necessary to remove from the minds of men, their individualism, loyalty to family traditions, national patriotism, and religious dogmas.” Men are often the staunchest defenders of those democratic ideals, so it only makes sense to marginalize males by any means possible. -- Phil #3 Yes, I feel very marginalized & processed too! I wonder if they still expect me to keep paying if I'm told by the federal governement that I'm not allowed to get a job? Of course! It appears the aim is to emasculate the entire country and turn it into one big feminist commune. Phil #3 |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... nsnippage That CP mothers wanting the best (spending CP$) for their children does not necessarily translate into them doing so. Thus, your claim is a non sequitur. Well, if that's true, then NCP fathers wanting the best for their children doesn't necessarily translate into them doing so, either. So what do you suggest, to make sure that the best for the children is actually done? And while you're at it, let's put your theory to the test. Please explain how you can provide each of these needs for the children without spending one thin dime, as you have claimed so many times: Housing - explain how you provide housing for children without spending one thin dime. TANF. Free daycare. That provides a free home? Or only to those people who are below poverty level? Food - please explain how you provide food for children without spending one thin dime. Food Stamps. WIC. Food Banks. School breakfast and lunch programs. (Some fo these programs allow mothers and below school aged children to accompany their school aged children to eat breakfast at school.) As long as you're within the poverty level guidelines. The rest of us have to pay for it. So far, you can only raise a kid for free if you already don't have anything. Cept for that pesky housing thing..... TANF and free day care don't provide a free home. Medical care - please explain how you provide medical care for children without spending one thin dime. State Health Plan. Refuge Medical Programs. Again, only if you fall in the poverty guidelines. Clothing - please explain how you provide clothing for children without spending one thin dime. Hand-me-downs. Church and other support group programs. Is that guaranteed? And are all of these freebies going to be available for just anyone? Or golly gosh gee whiz, only for those who already don't have anything and fall within the poverty guidelines. Chris has asserted that ANYONE can raise a child without spending one thin dime. Of course, I don't see that he's actually answered yet. Since ANYONE can become poor, then ANYONE can do the above. |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... Phil wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... teachrmama wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... P Fritz wrote: Bob Whiteside wrote: "P Fritz" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in message legroups.com... DB wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote nsnippage That CP mothers wanting the best (spending CP$) for their children does not necessarily translate into them doing so. Thus, your claim is a non sequitur. Well, if that's true, then NCP fathers wanting the best for their children doesn't necessarily translate into them doing so, either. So what do you suggest, to make sure that the best for the children is actually done? Nothing. And while you're at it, let's put your theory to the test. Please explain how you can provide each of these needs for the children without spending one thin dime, as you have claimed so many times: Housing - explain how you provide housing for children without spending one thin dime. Barter or provide your own labor for such provisions. Food - please explain how you provide food for children without spending one thin dime. Medical care - please explain how you provide medical care for children without spending one thin dime. Clothing - please explain how you provide clothing for children without spending one thin dime. Electricity and heating - please explain how you provide these utilities for children without spending one thin dime. Educational materials - please explain how you provide education materials (things like paper, pens or pencils, etc) for children without spending one thin dime. Thank you - I'm sure an awful lot of cash-strapped parents will appreciate you explaining how this can be done, so we can all start saving some money - after all, the same concepts should work as well for adults as children, no? Go for it, Chris - you made the claim, perhaps it's time you backed it up. Well, since money existed before children did, I guess I just can't back up my claim. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... snip for length more snippage Set things up so the CP is forced to show what she is actually spending the $$$ on. Why? To use *your own* argument, married parents aren't required to do so. Why are you singling out CP's and requiring them to do so? Perhaps for the same reason that your system singles out unmarried fathers concerning "child support". It isn't *my* system. It's the system you support which makes it the same as your system. Lay off these guys and reciprocally the mothers will be left alone. Ah - banish the CS systems that are in place, and you stop bashing CP moms? Do you consider statements of fact "bashing"? Simple. But then again, why do so. Mothers are already exempt from such accountability. No we're not. We're required to provide the same financial accounting to the CS system that the fathers are. Straw man once again. Mothers are indeed exempt from showing an accounting of how such "child support" proceeds are spent. In other words, they DON'T have to do it. I think patterns of spending reeveal a lot. If dad is living in poverty, and kid is flitting from one expensive sport to another, with all the attending costs associated with such, it would be safe to say that CS is not set at a fair level. It also at least shows that the money is being spent on the child - and weren't you advocating letting parent(s) decide what is important to/for the child? Of course, if you have 1 parent who refuses to take part in the decision making process, then it does sort of fall on the other parent to have to make the decisions. And no, not all parents are "forced out" of the decision making process. Virtually every NCP parent (meaning father) is. And that is what this forum is about. No it isn't. This forum is about child support. It's not a forum about the decision making process. My error. I should have said "discussion". However, do you believe it is unreasonable to discuss this issue in this forum? Shoot, there's any number of *married* parents who simply let the other parent decide. My best hypothesis says that approximately the same proportions on married parents default out of the decision making process as divorced parents do. "Greedy" was a word I took form the post I was responding to. The point is--let's leave those who can handle it on their own alone, and trun attention to those who are abousing the system on BOTH sides of the issue. Works for me - I just see you propose some things that really won't work in the real world. Not all divorced parents are just champing at the bit to take on 50 or more % of the care of their children, either in time or in money. It's just not reality. So your starting point that all parents, 100% of them, should start with joint custody/care/expense obligations just doesn't seem to address this reality. So which parent do you suggest be denied custody from the start, and why? Neither. Then you too are not "addressing reality". I've never suggested that a parent be denied custody, except in cases of documented and proven abuse. and more snippage Moon, I am (and always have been) talking specifically about the abusers of the system. Then it would be nice if you were careful about pointing that out when you slam CP's as you are when you promote symspathy for NCP's. The vast majority of both CPs and NCPs do not need the system, but are fair, honest adults. As for there being no lapreventing married parents from providing only a bare bones existence--so what? Well, let's not treat married parents differently from divorced parents - isn't that one of the things you have posted in the past? That all parents need to be treated the same? Indeed! So let's start by eliminating the "child support" industry. How does denying children support from their parents address this? You tell me. There is also no law requiring them to provide any existence above tha--so why should divorced fathers be held to that standard? That is not the point, and you know it. Then why are you holding CP-receiving mothers to some standard above that? That was my point. (see above) Perhaps you should. Ok, quote that which I should see; then tell me WHY I should see it. and more snippage THAT'S RIGHT!! Then why base an entire system on the possibility that such a thing is happening? "We are curing poverty for millions of children by forcing those scummy NCPs to pay." NONSENSE!!!!!! Thre only ones I see talking about children in poverty are the ones who are having to pay CS for some prior child, and how their own children are now forced into poverty. Certainly, I have been promoting the concept that raising children costs money (shadup Chris, no one is buying your idea that you can raise kids without a single dime - the hospital bill to deliver the child, alone, blows your theory right out the window). Then it follows that money existed before children. You buy that? There have always been monetary systems in place - check your history. I did, and much to my surprise, I learned that money existed before people did. Gee, how could I have been so naive! Since it costs money to raise children, No it doesn't. Yes, Chris, it does. Tell that to the parents who are raising their children without the use of money. You are all alone out there in this insistance that it doesn't. I would wager that the millions of parents who are doing it would also insist that it doesn't. But then again.......... just a WILD guess. someone needs to pay that money. That someone needs to be the child's legal mother and father (and no, we're not talking about the parents who have released their child for adoption, and we're not talking about someone's great-great-great-great grandparents, without whom the current child would never exist) That's right. We're talking about the child's father without whom the current child would never exist. Why? Why what? Why the father but not any other of the many folks without whom the current child would never exist. Child support is not tied to parenting time/visitation/whatever in hell you want to call it. You might want to inform your "family court" people about this because apparently they are not aware of it. It's not *my* court, Chris. I was making reference to the people. Some people get so hung up on the label for something, they miss out that it was the thing they really wanted. My bet says that most men, when they were married, didn't question their wives on how each and every penny was spent. They just didn't. I find it almost humorous that those very same men who didn't give a damn how the money was spent while married now want to micromanage their ex's financials, completely overlooking that her checkbook is no longer his business, post divorce. Nice twist. The issue is the taking of their money by force, NOT voluntarily relinquishing it. How odd - I thought the issue was originally about a "name change because parent not visiting child" You must be quite fond of Chubby Checker. Get over it. My ex was all up in arms the year that I bought a new SUV. He insisted that I had used the CS money for it, and was starving our children (who were naked and had to walk 5 miles to school, barefoot, in the snow, uphill both ways apparently). He insisted this, he tried to make a federal case out of it, he even tried to sue me in civil court. Pity for him, my prior car had been totalled, and the new one was far less expensive - and I didn't use a single penny of CS to pay for it. So much of this is simply a control game - you can't control me, therefore you try to control my checkbook. Correction: You are attempting to extort my cash, so I will attempt to defend it. I am? How odd, I didn't realize I was doing *anything* to you. Just as odd as your claim against the previous poster. Why not take all that angry energy and do something constructive with it, like working on strengthening a relationship with ALL your kids? Of course! For the children............ A decent relationship? Don't you think that's just a wee bit more important than ranting and raving for years about the same things, over and over? That depends on the individual. However, such relationship aint' gonna happen so long as your government people prohibit it. Thus, whether one thinks it is or not is irrelevant. The ones who live with you, the ones who don't live with you.... at least then, you'd have tangible results that make you feel as though you've made a positive change in your corner of the world. What a waste to sit on any forum, ranting and raving, and saying the same things over and over, year after year, with no change after years and years of it. Then why do you do so? I don't. And the sun does not rise in the east............... Teach - any idea how long you've been ranting and raving about the use of the word irrelevant? [/soapbox] |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Dale" wrote in message et... "P.Fritz" wrote in He makes the classic socialist arguement that one select groups "right" trump annother groups / individual's rights. Which of course, is completely wrong. I guess it's OK with him and others of his Ilk that I should be deported because I can't come up with $55,000. I have to lose my job, my home and friends & family because this greedy bitch can't see past the $$$ that the Friends of the court have promised her. She was receiving $800/mth until immigration revoked my authorization to work in this country. Nobody said these people were smart! Reminds me of the woman who revoked her ex's driver's license because he did not pay her "child support" due to his unemployment. He's a truck driver. |
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