custody tactic

If you argue that your spouse is unfit because her own pleadings and actions
try to minimize vice maximize your time with the children while your
pleadings ask for maximum involvement of both parents, you place your spouse
in a legal box. She will either increase her offers or look foolish trying
to explain to a cross examiner why she should have more time with the
children than you and would run a serious risk of losing or not obtaining
custody. Either way, you better your position and minimize emotional damage
to the children. Even if you don't win custody, you will enjoy much more
visitation than fathers usually are awarded.