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Parental Alienation
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
... "Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. Sarcasm? Not at all. This is how many *wives* see the relationship. Women seem to feel they have the right (or responsibility) to micro-manage their mate's life. Not that men are perfect. This pettiness is just what marriage has become. It is not for the children. It is not for better or worse. It is for however long they both think it's a good idea..and women tend to think it's not a good idea sooner than men do. I have always pictured this scenario as a 120 lbs. woman standing toe-to-toe with a 200 lbs. husband, poking him in the chest with her bony finger, and telling him how to live his life her way. She knows he can't respond by touching her without risking arrest and being removed from his home, ==== Heh, reminds me of what number 3 son told me when he was about five..."Girls hit ya cause they know it's against the law to touch 'em." I admit, I'm partly responsible for his characterization--I learned from raising my now grown boys that the most important thing little boys must know about little girls is to not touch them (#3 son is a hugger), because "if you do, all kinds of things can go wrong." I didn't tell him it was against the law, though. :-) Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers. === Nope, haven't thought of that. I suppose it could be. |
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On Feb 4, 10:26*pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote:
"Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... *Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. Sarcasm? Not at all. This is how many *wives* see the relationship. Women seem to feel they have the right (or responsibility) to micro-manage their mate's life. Not that men are perfect. This pettiness is just what marriage has become. It is not for the children. It is not for better or worse. It is for however long they both think it's a good idea..and women tend to think it's not a good idea sooner than men do. I have always pictured this scenario as a 120 lbs. woman standing toe-to-toe with a 200 lbs. husband, poking him in the chest with her bony finger, and telling him how to live his life her way. *She knows he can't respond by touching her without risking arrest and being removed from his home, ==== Heh, reminds me of what number 3 son told me when he was about five..."Girls hit ya cause they know it's against the law to touch 'em." I admit, I'm partly responsible for his characterization--I learned from raising my now grown boys that the most important thing little boys must know about little girls is to not touch them (#3 son is a hugger), because "if you do, all kinds of things can go wrong." I didn't tell him it was against the law, though. :-) Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. *The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers Sad but true. Hopefully those types of girls will keep thier hands off of my son, because I told him if a woman comes at you like a man, treat her like one. If she hits you, hit her back. Sorry, and I know everyone is probably going to jump down my stuff, but my son knows if a girl hits him to hit her back. The fembitches need to keep thier kids in check, because there are playground rules that says it's ok for boys to hit girls BACK. |
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Parental Alienation
wrote in message ... On Feb 4, 10:26 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote: "Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. Sarcasm? Not at all. This is how many *wives* see the relationship. Women seem to feel they have the right (or responsibility) to micro-manage their mate's life. Not that men are perfect. This pettiness is just what marriage has become. It is not for the children. It is not for better or worse. It is for however long they both think it's a good idea..and women tend to think it's not a good idea sooner than men do. I have always pictured this scenario as a 120 lbs. woman standing toe-to-toe with a 200 lbs. husband, poking him in the chest with her bony finger, and telling him how to live his life her way. She knows he can't respond by touching her without risking arrest and being removed from his home, ==== Heh, reminds me of what number 3 son told me when he was about five..."Girls hit ya cause they know it's against the law to touch 'em." I admit, I'm partly responsible for his characterization--I learned from raising my now grown boys that the most important thing little boys must know about little girls is to not touch them (#3 son is a hugger), because "if you do, all kinds of things can go wrong." I didn't tell him it was against the law, though. :-) Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers Sad but true. Hopefully those types of girls will keep thier hands off of my son, because I told him if a woman comes at you like a man, treat her like one. If she hits you, hit her back. Sorry, and I know everyone is probably going to jump down my stuff, but my son knows if a girl hits him to hit her back. The fembitches need to keep thier kids in check, because there are playground rules that says it's ok for boys to hit girls BACK. I agree with you on this one, Leah. Except I tell the kids to 1) Demand that the agressor stop, 2) walk away, then 3) Do what you need to do to protect yourself. In that order. Under no circustances are they to stand there and let themselves be abused--but they are not to use the agression toward them as an excuse to flatten the other person, either. Just enough to get away. |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... wrote in message ... On Feb 4, 10:26 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote: "Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. Sarcasm? Not at all. This is how many *wives* see the relationship. Women seem to feel they have the right (or responsibility) to micro-manage their mate's life. Not that men are perfect. This pettiness is just what marriage has become. It is not for the children. It is not for better or worse. It is for however long they both think it's a good idea..and women tend to think it's not a good idea sooner than men do. I have always pictured this scenario as a 120 lbs. woman standing toe-to-toe with a 200 lbs. husband, poking him in the chest with her bony finger, and telling him how to live his life her way. She knows he can't respond by touching her without risking arrest and being removed from his home, ==== Heh, reminds me of what number 3 son told me when he was about five..."Girls hit ya cause they know it's against the law to touch 'em." I admit, I'm partly responsible for his characterization--I learned from raising my now grown boys that the most important thing little boys must know about little girls is to not touch them (#3 son is a hugger), because "if you do, all kinds of things can go wrong." I didn't tell him it was against the law, though. :-) Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers Sad but true. Hopefully those types of girls will keep thier hands off of my son, because I told him if a woman comes at you like a man, treat her like one. If she hits you, hit her back. Sorry, and I know everyone is probably going to jump down my stuff, but my son knows if a girl hits him to hit her back. The fembitches need to keep thier kids in check, because there are playground rules that says it's ok for boys to hit girls BACK. I agree with you on this one, Leah. Except I tell the kids to 1) Demand that the agressor stop, 2) walk away, then 3) Do what you need to do to protect yourself. In that order. Under no circustances are they to stand there and let themselves be abused--but they are not to use the agression toward them as an excuse to flatten the other person, either. Just enough to get away. That approach may work to control 5-6 year olds behavior, but an adult male will end up in jail every time for following that advice. When I was that young the rule was "Strictly hands off." That meant nobody touched anybody, period. The advice above given to children seems to say if you get attacked, take it. And when it is too much and you get assaulted while walking away, retaliate. Those are some pretty sophisticated concepts for a 5-6 year old to understand. And a very difficult scenario to prove. I say, when girls/women want to box it out with boys/men, the males should be allowed to fight back and kick their asses to a pulp. Allowing women to be physically aggressive against men while restricting men from defending themselves is ludicrous. |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... wrote in message ... On Feb 4, 10:26 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote: "Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. Sarcasm? Not at all. This is how many *wives* see the relationship. Women seem to feel they have the right (or responsibility) to micro-manage their mate's life. Not that men are perfect. This pettiness is just what marriage has become. It is not for the children. It is not for better or worse. It is for however long they both think it's a good idea..and women tend to think it's not a good idea sooner than men do. I have always pictured this scenario as a 120 lbs. woman standing toe-to-toe with a 200 lbs. husband, poking him in the chest with her bony finger, and telling him how to live his life her way. She knows he can't respond by touching her without risking arrest and being removed from his home, ==== Heh, reminds me of what number 3 son told me when he was about five..."Girls hit ya cause they know it's against the law to touch 'em." I admit, I'm partly responsible for his characterization--I learned from raising my now grown boys that the most important thing little boys must know about little girls is to not touch them (#3 son is a hugger), because "if you do, all kinds of things can go wrong." I didn't tell him it was against the law, though. :-) Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Have you considered your son was told by a girl she could hit him but he couldn't hit back because it's against the law. The feminist indoctrination of little girls starts early from the femwit mothers, not the non-feminist mothers and fathers Sad but true. Hopefully those types of girls will keep thier hands off of my son, because I told him if a woman comes at you like a man, treat her like one. If she hits you, hit her back. Sorry, and I know everyone is probably going to jump down my stuff, but my son knows if a girl hits him to hit her back. The fembitches need to keep thier kids in check, because there are playground rules that says it's ok for boys to hit girls BACK. I agree with you on this one, Leah. Except I tell the kids to 1) Demand that the agressor stop, 2) walk away, then 3) Do what you need to do to protect yourself. In that order. Under no circustances are they to stand there and let themselves be abused--but they are not to use the agression toward them as an excuse to flatten the other person, either. Just enough to get away. That approach may work to control 5-6 year olds behavior, but an adult male will end up in jail every time for following that advice. I was talking about children, Bob. I wouldn't ever suggest that an adult do so. When I was that young the rule was "Strictly hands off." That meant nobody touched anybody, period. I'm pretty sure it is the same today. But *if* someone becomes aggressive and does not follow that rule, a child needs to know how to protect him/herself. I have seen children stand and take a beating rather than raise a hand to protect themselves because they have no idea what to do. The advice above given to children seems to say if you get attacked, take it. And when it is too much and you get assaulted while walking away, retaliate. Those are some pretty sophisticated concepts for a 5-6 year old to understand. And a very difficult scenario to prove. Not really--first use your words, then you walk away, then you protect yourself. You neve just stand there and take it. But I am talking about young children--certainly not jr. high or high school kids. Most of the time these young ones are not going for blood--they are fighting over some object or a place in line or some other little thing. But by learning to deal with these small issues, they are building up experience that might help them deal with larger issues further down the road. I say, when girls/women want to box it out with boys/men, the males should be allowed to fight back and kick their asses to a pulp. Allowing women to be physically aggressive against men while restricting men from defending themselves is ludicrous. I agree. |
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On Feb 7, 10:42*pm, "teachrmama" wrote:
wrote in message ... On Feb 4, 10:26 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote: "Gini" wrote in message news:K6spj.2328$xE.2172@trnddc01... "Bob Whiteside" wrote "Gini" wrote "Bob Whiteside" wrote ....................... Interestingly, the 3rd highest factor for men seeking divorce was related to verbal abuse and assault, i.e. "severe and intense fighting, frequent conflict". ============ Yeah, but...that conflict was all his fault. He didn't take out the garbage; he spent money without her permission; he cares more about football than his wife; he left his socks on the floor; he refuses to cook or vacuum; he's never on time. Yep. It was all his fault alright. |
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On Jan 27, 1:29*am, jana chenoweth wrote:
A few words about my current perspective on parental alienation: In my opinion, the best defense is to stand proud and tall in who you are, and trust your child to see the truth for herself. My kids were 3 and 6 when we got divorced. It's scary when they are young and you know their other parent is telling them lies about you. My strategy to counter this was to stay cool and calm when they reported the lies to me, and to acknowledge that their dad has a right to his opinion about me. I then shared that I saw myself very differently. I would ask them to be honest with me about how THEY saw me, and would make it completely safe for them to tell me the truth. And then we would take steps together to mitigate whatever issues they were having with me. I went about my life very transparently, SHOWING them who I am, as opposed to telling them, never arguing against their dad's opinion of me. I adopted the attitude of, 'Oh my, that's a tough one. I know you love both daddy and me, and I bet it's hard for you to hear him say things that are so different from what you feel is true about me. Is there anything you want to ask me about?'... More About Custody:http://groups.google.com/group/custodyinfo I agree with you partly on this. I left my oldest son's dad when he was 15 months old because I FINALLY after 3 yrs of abuse go the strength to leave. However, I made it clear to my family to speak badly of my son's father around him, PERIOD, and they didn't nor did I. My son's father was never in his life, until my son was seven, I thought maybe I could be the better person and try to get them together so my son had his father in his life. I contacted my son's father and within in a year and half he only saw my son a total of 5 times. I finally put a stop to it, because everytime he would promise to be there to pick my son up and then wouldn't show, I had to deal with the aftermath. Now my son has strong issues and confusion in his life and I REGRET ever letting him talk to his father. I tell my son now the truth about why his father and I divorced and that he will not be allowed to talk to him until his an adult and wishes to pursue it on his own. I informed my son that he may hate me now but I KNOW that later he will thank me because he will realize that his dad is a piece of ****. |
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"Jen3" wrote
.................... I agree with you partly on this. I left my oldest son's dad when he was 15 months old because I FINALLY after 3 yrs of abuse go the strength to leave. However, I made it clear to my family to speak badly of my son's father around him, PERIOD, and they didn't nor did I. My son's father was never in his life, until my son was seven, I thought maybe I could be the better person and try to get them together so my son had his father in his life. I contacted my son's father and within in a year and half he only saw my son a total of 5 times. I finally put a stop to it, because everytime he would promise to be there to pick my son up and then wouldn't show, I had to deal with the aftermath. Now my son has strong issues and confusion in his life and I REGRET ever letting him talk to his father. I tell my son now the truth about why his father and I divorced and that he will not be allowed to talk to him until his an adult and wishes to pursue it on his own. I informed my son that he may hate me now but I KNOW that later he will thank me because he will realize that his dad is a piece of ****. === I'm not sure it's the child's fault that you chose his father unwisely. |
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On Feb 15, 11:58*am, "Gini" wrote:
"Jen3" wrote ................... I agree with you partly on this. I left my oldest son's dad when he was 15 months old because I FINALLY after 3 yrs of abuse go the strength to leave. However, I made it clear to my family to speak badly of my son's father around him, PERIOD, and they didn't nor did I. My son's father was never in his life, until my son was seven, I thought maybe I could be the better person and try to get them together so my son had his father in his life. *I contacted my son's father and within in a year and half he only saw my son a total of 5 times. I finally put a stop to it, because everytime he would promise to be there to pick my son up and then wouldn't show, I had to deal with the aftermath. Now my son has strong issues and confusion in his life and I REGRET ever letting him talk to his father. I tell my son now the truth about why his father and I divorced and that he will not be allowed to talk to him until his an adult and wishes to pursue it on his own. I informed my son that he may hate me now but I KNOW that later he will thank me because he will realize that his dad is a piece of ****. === I'm not sure it's the child's fault that you chose his father unwisely. No it's not my child's fault but choosing his father unwisely isn't my fault either. I had no clue that his father would turn out the way he did. If I had known he was like that in the beginning I wouldn't have CHOSE him. I don't regret meeting his father no matter what he did to me because then I wouldn't have my son. I don't blame my son for anything either. I just feel that it is in his best interest that he doesn't see his father. |
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"Jen3" wrote in message
... On Feb 15, 11:58 am, "Gini" wrote: "Jen3" wrote ................... I agree with you partly on this. I left my oldest son's dad when he was 15 months old because I FINALLY after 3 yrs of abuse go the strength to leave. However, I made it clear to my family to speak badly of my son's father around him, PERIOD, and they didn't nor did I. My son's father was never in his life, until my son was seven, I thought maybe I could be the better person and try to get them together so my son had his father in his life. I contacted my son's father and within in a year and half he only saw my son a total of 5 times. I finally put a stop to it, because everytime he would promise to be there to pick my son up and then wouldn't show, I had to deal with the aftermath. Now my son has strong issues and confusion in his life and I REGRET ever letting him talk to his father. I tell my son now the truth about why his father and I divorced and that he will not be allowed to talk to him until his an adult and wishes to pursue it on his own. I informed my son that he may hate me now but I KNOW that later he will thank me because he will realize that his dad is a piece of ****. === I'm not sure it's the child's fault that you chose his father unwisely. No it's not my child's fault but choosing his father unwisely isn't my fault either. I had no clue that his father would turn out the way he did. If I had known he was like that in the beginning I wouldn't have CHOSE him. I don't regret meeting his father no matter what he did to me because then I wouldn't have my son. I don't blame my son for anything either. I just feel that it is in his best interest that he doesn't see his father. ==== You might be right. But, denial of access of a child to his father is an extreme measure to be taken only under the dire circumstances. To me, that means only for abuse or neglect. Sons without dads are high risk for all kinds of unpleasant things. |
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