It's me again and I need an adults advice

Hi everyone, it's me veronica again; if you don't remember, the 16 year old
mom. Yea, well I need some advice, I was just recently on spring break and
I stayed with Edwin(my son's father) We messed around a little and on
monday I seen his new little fling named Amy. She's cute and everything
and he got upset when we were talking later on that night because I don't
care what he does with her. He expected me to say all these things about
why he shouldn't go out with her and blah blah blah. Any who, this is
asked to the fathers out there especially, Are we wrong to be together
when were together and not when were not?????

Also, I feel really lonely lately, any body wanna chat, male or female
friend or bf or whatever doesn't matter

Well thank you everyone

'Kate wrote in message ...
On Fri, 16 Apr 2004 12:17:49 -0400, "Vero"
Hi everyone, it's me veronica again; if you don't remember, the 16 year
old
mom. Yea, well I need some advice, I was just recently on spring break
and
I stayed with Edwin(my son's father) We messed around a little and on
monday I seen his new little fling named Amy. She's cute and everything
and he got upset when we were talking later on that night because I don't
care what he does with her. He expected me to say all these things about
why he shouldn't go out with her and blah blah blah. Any who, this is
asked to the fathers out there especially, Are we wrong to be together
when were together and not when were not?????

It depends on your standards. Offhand, I wouldn't do it. I'd expect
the whole package. Of course you're both rather young for that.

Ahh... Well, for Veronica, It wasn't that long ago that I was in your exact
same situation. I was a 16 year old single mom only a few years back, so I
can relate on some level. I'll have to agree with Kate. I, personally,
wouldn't do it either. I'm not sure how you see things, but in that
situation, I wouldn't do it just because I feel that either you're together
or you're not. I wouldn't be interested in someone who has someone else
(speaking of this Amy) mainly because I don't think I'd know how to explain
to my child the whole runaround. I'd also have an issue with seeing
someone, either my child's father or someone else, but especially my child's
father, with someone else because I can't really explain it, but it'd be
more the issue with my child.
If I recall correct, you have an infant, and maybe right now none of this
applies, but when a baby, very quickly, goes from a clueless baby that
doesn't really care much about anything than your arms around them for
snuggle times, your voice, face and body near theirs, your time spent
feeding them, the books you read out loud to them, playing with you and that
kind of stuff, and almost over night changes into a monster who thinks, and
often can find ways to prove they really are smarter than you are, things, I
think, can get a bit messy.

Also, I feel really lonely lately, any body wanna chat, male or female
friend or bf or whatever doesn't matter

Well, if you want to chat some time, I'm often here or there or somewhere.
If you feel the need and want to, feel free to email me at
katmagicate[at]footbag[dot]org (change the obvious in brackets). That's
also the M$N email I use, if you happen to have M$N Messenger.

Well thank you everyone

Hope you get out.... or get use to being lonely. (no meanness
intended). It's tough to be a single parent let alone a young single
parent with social needs. Have you considered joining some kind of teen
group?

'Kate


Ain't that often the cold, hard truth, hey? I know it wasn't meant to be
mean, but it's often a reality, and sometimes the truth can hurt. I've now
gotten used to my space, time alone and total lack of company (when it comes
to my own, personal, relationships.) I'm used to my weekends being the
exact same thing, and often getting the offspring off to bed, plugging in a
random movie and kicking back on the couch and enjoying the company of
myself or just one friend included, depending on what others have planned
for their often busy weekends.
A teen group might be an advantage, and if you have some kind of teen
parenting groups in your area, maybe they could be of benefit? Something
where you could either get together with other teens, or even other teens,
either single teen parents or couples of teen parents, and just find way to
keep your social life as up to date and active as you possibly can. Believe
me, the social life part is hard at times, so I don't know... Find other
teen parents, if you wanted, and you may find you can gain a lot from them.

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Actually, no cuz like I have friends and stuff but it's not the same. I
know I'll learn to deal with it. It's just not as easy from that
relationship. Thanks Kate.

Well thanks I feel alot better. I've decided I'm not going to do that
anymore because of the whole fact that I don't want my son to get
confused. Plus I never felt right about the whole situation anyways. It's
just sometimes things get hard and I need to talk to people. Thanks. I'm
not going back to that life style with edwin, he needs to learn and he
never does get it until it slams him into the wall. I gotta talk to him
because there not doing to well over there at his house either. Oh yes, if
your wondering my son is a year and 11 months. I 'm getting ready to plan
out his birthday party and aaaahhhh. Any suggestions on that, I'm
listening. I think I might go with NEMO I dunno. It's confusing, anyways
Thanks again everyone.

I 'm getting ready to plan
out his birthday party and aaaahhhh. Any suggestions on that, I'm
listening. I think I might go with NEMO

At this age, the party is still more for family than for the kid, though this
time around he's aware of the toys. Don't invite a lot of kids his age,
because they are not ready to play nice and the other babies will want to play
with his toys and he'll scream and it will be most unpleasant. Invite your
family, have some cake and ice cream and give him some toys.

Joelle
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Joelle